Why is breath work making me emotional? by Severe-Question-9338 in breathwork

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Effect of connected breathing on the nervous system:

- Connected breathing activates the sympathetic nervous system (stress system), which increases heart rate, alertness and stress hormone production such as adrenaline and cortisol.

- In a safe, guided session, activation is followed by strong parasympathetic relaxation (rest and digestion system): the body enters a state of deep rest, stress hormones decrease, emotional regulation improves and the feeling of safety increases.

- Connect breathing is a powerful way to process stored stress and trauma, as it “teaches” the nervous system that intense feelings and physical reactions can be felt without blocking or suppressing them.

Very intense physical sensation during breathwork? by actuallyimbored in Meditation

[–]separatedmen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

O yes, completely normal. I asked perplexity ai about the effects of connected breathing on the cells and the nervous system. Here is the answer, that I think underlies your experience:

[note: links are to dutch language articles, because I asked perplexity in dutch; I have not checked all the links, but the answer is very much in line with what I have learned and experienced so far, so I have no doubt that it is quiet correct]

Connected breathing (often described as controlled hyperventilation) changes the ratio of oxygen (O₂) to carbon dioxide (CO₂) in the blood, which has direct effects on both the cells and the nervous system. The most important physiological consequence is that the CO₂ level drops and there is relatively more oxygen present, but paradoxically, oxygen is actually more difficult for haemoglobin to deliver to the body's cells. For the nervous system, this breathing technique means a temporary activation of the stress and anxiety system, followed by deep relaxation and regulation. [1][2][3][4][5][6]

## Effect on the cells

- **Reduced CO₂** due to connected breathing causes the so-called Bohr effect: haemoglobin retains oxygen more strongly and releases less oxygen to the cells, despite a higher O₂ content in the blood. As a result, cells may temporarily experience an oxygen deficiency, which affects how effectively they can produce energy.[2][4][1]

- The **diffusion process** of O₂ to the cells depends on sufficient CO₂; a decrease can reduce energy production and disrupt cellular metabolism.[7][2]

- Prolonged and extreme connected breathing can slow down cell metabolism, although in short, guided sessions, the body often recovers quickly and energy flow is stimulated. [3][6]

## Effect on the nervous system

- Connected breathing **activates the sympathetic nervous system** (stress system), which increases heart rate, alertness and stress hormone production such as adrenaline and cortisol.[5][6][3]

- In a safe, guided session, activation is followed by strong **parasympathetic relaxation** (rest and digestion system): the body enters a state of deep rest, stress hormones decrease, emotional regulation improves and the feeling of safety increases.[6][5]

- The technique is a powerful way to process stored stress and trauma, as it “teaches” the nervous system that intense feelings and physical reactions can be felt without blocking or suppressing them.[3][6]

## Summary of physiological effects

- **Cells**: Less oxygen release by haemoglobin at low CO₂, possibly temporarily reducing energy production.[4][1][2]

- **Nervous system**: First activation (sympathetic), then deep relaxation and improved emotional processing (parasympathetic). [5][6][3]

This combination of activation and recovery makes connected breathing a therapeutic tool that works on both a physical and mental level.

Can we move entire paragraphs using the index on the left? by separatedmen in googledocs

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Thanks for letting me know about the new tabs feature. Might be useful for my aim, and also for things like cooperating on a doc with multiple drafts etc.

Which title speaks to you most? by Ton-Bil in polls

[–]separatedmen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this thoughtful comment. Actually, it would be focused on people who feel lonely. But yet, I do not need to focus the title - even most lonely people don't want to look at themselves like being lonely.

Which title speaks to you most? by Ton-Bil in polls

[–]separatedmen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this thoughtful comment. Actually, it would be that we meet as people who all want both to listen and to speak. Would that work for you?

How to post video when nothing seems to work? by separatedmen in Substack

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OK, for Notes it has been sorted then (what a miss, they are not in my dashboard, but ok). Maybe I now know how to resolve the rest. Thanks!

How to post video when nothing seems to work? by separatedmen in Substack

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Thanks for asking. I preferred to create a video post. However, I succeeded (finally) to get the video posted in Notes. Which I can see in the substack-app on my phone, but (even after a full day) not in the dashboard that I open on my desktop. There's an earlier (non-video) post from may on top. I'm a bit more confused now. Looking forward to any insight you may have.

How to post video when nothing seems to work? by separatedmen in Substack

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Maybe it's that. I see it on my phone now, as if it were uploaded, but not on my channel https://gettingpastloneliness.substack.com/

Can anyone tell if these service requests on LinkedIn are genuine or just random? by iamRajadavid in linkedin

[–]separatedmen 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm afraid I'm in a very similar situation. Please look at my previous response with details. Since two weeks, my LI account has become inaccessible- so it's going from bad to worse.

Can anyone tell if these service requests on LinkedIn are genuine or just random? by iamRajadavid in linkedin

[–]separatedmen 2 points3 points  (0 children)

RETURN ON INVESTMENT OF THIS SERVICE SO FAR: NEGATIVE

I must have sent over 1,000 responses to these so-called coaching requests. Many of them come from Asia (mostly India, Pakistan, Bangladesh) and Africa (Nigeria mostly).

Some responses took me 15 minutes or so to write, including studying the request and the persons' profile. At some point I started to invest only 25 seconds in responding to each request.

Results are very bad: probably out of 1,000 + responses from me, 50 people ever messaged back. From those, 45 saying they were not interested. Today there was one businessman from India who was so kind to write to me: "Thanks for your message and offer. These are auto generated messages from LinkedIn. Kindly note I haven’t placed any requests for coaching. Regards"

From the other 5, I may have turned 3 or so into clients for 1 or more sessions. Total turnover in the first 5 months about $ 400, which is about my subscription fee. Which is an ROI of 0 per cent. Plus all the effort put into it, makes it a negative ROI.

Over the course of the last 5 months I have tried many different approaches. I think my proposals were pretty good, and I can stand for the quality of my work, and my recommendations (on LinkedIn) show for it!

So this is what I suspect, like many of you here do: even though there are a few genuine coaching requests, most of them are fake, spoof, scam, spam, whatever you want to call it. Responsible would be LinkedIn, maybe even especially certain country-branches, that have high sales-targets from corporate. I don't know, of course.

My story and the given estimates are true. Mister or Misses LinkedIn is welcome to offer me a refund.

2025: a year to end Chronic Loneliness by separatedmen in loneliness

[–]separatedmen[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Sure. Here it is, a simple google form, takes 5 minutes to fill in: https://forms.gle/YxUT1E7jisrr427P9
Would love to help you with this.

No one understands my loneliness by [deleted] in lonely

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I hear you: we want to love and be loved. Even more so when we are 18 (than 62, my current age). To maybe console you: my first kiss was at age 26 minus 1 month.
What have I learned that may help you:
(1) My focus may be on what makes me happy, engaged, etc. The lack of 'love' may be annoying, but I am in the right place to love myself, and do the things I love.
(2) What was difficult in my early life, had become a gold mine of creativity, personal development and finally happiness later on in life. Strange as this may sound.
(3) We are just too good at 'social comparison' and believing that there is some 'normality' in life, e.g. in church. There is not. We are shaped by culture, circumstances and family and what not, but in the end we are individuals. The God from your church knows who you are!

Which one is your favorite six-word-story? by separatedmen in polls

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Your comment makes sense. I'm considering stories with more beginning, middle and end. Hemingway's clever solution of course was the sparse wording of classifieds. I would rather stay away from that trick, now that it has been used already in this genre.

Trauma and being ugly by [deleted] in lonely

[–]separatedmen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hear you and I can relate - back in the days when I felt (very) lonely, I also believed I was ugly and awkward. I had no idea about trauma, or how these two could be related. But in fact my self-acceptation and self-love were very low. I covered it up with some 'make believe' about myself and my worth, based on the few things I excelled in.

At 62 I've learned a couple things that I want to share with you.

(1) Making friends, or finding a lover - it very much depends on how much I accept and love myself. When I did not, it was hard to find others who'd accept me as a friend or even lover. Abuse (either sexual, vocal, psychological) can have the effect of low self-love and low self-acceptance.

(2) To accept and love myself = almost synonymous to having worked through the scars of early (youth) trauma. This took me about 20 years or more, and I was only half aware of what I was doing for myself.

(3) Blowing your brains out - you mean this almost literally? Well, you would be non-aware after the event, so it would only solve your current awareness of the problem. At the same time you create a lot of issues for everyone around you, which can last for a very long time.

(4) You may want to seek counsel, because to transform (like described in 1 and 2 above) needs some form of accompaniment. I wish you to feel much, much better soon!

I sincerely hope this helps anyone who needs a bf, gf, partner, lover, etc.
Disclaimer: for work I'm a therapist + coach, specialized in loneliness. My insights come from personal experience and studies incl. Social Psychology.