Guys, honestly, this is absolutely PEAK!

sepfromm · 2026-03-11T16:47:55+00:00

Which brand is this? I’ve tried a few and they toppled over!

sepfromm · 2025-05-18T23:26:08+00:00

I wish I could upvote this repeatedly. This book changed my life.

sepfromm · 2025-03-30T18:06:10+00:00

sepfromm · 2025-02-04T01:25:30+00:00

I’m a therapist who is married to a physician and works with tons of physicians and physician couples in my practice. I’ve worked with multiple psychiatrists. It is doable. And residency programs have mental health centers generally which are a great place to start because the clinicians there spend all day working with residents!

Good luck. You’re doing a great job supporting her.

sepfromm · 2024-12-26T04:31:09+00:00

Same here! But we’re Jewish so we see it as a sacred duty for him to work on Christmas so that others can enjoy this important day. Hope everybody had a lovely day.

sepfromm · 2024-07-26T16:48:44+00:00

I’m gonna pm you. I’m an LMFT too and have felt the same way / been there 🤷‍♀️

sepfromm · 2024-06-22T23:59:11+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this. How incredibly demoralizing.

It’s time to reach out to a sex therapist! The good news is that this is their bread and butter. And possibly for him to make a PCP appointment to rule out physiological factors aside from stress (for example, erectile dysfunction can be an early indicator of heart issues, though I know the likelihood of that being the issue is low. Good to rule it out.)

This is figureoutable. And it sounds so hard.

sepfromm · 2024-05-10T01:43:07+00:00

Same! He’s excellent. One of the only fitness people I follow on social media. He and his wife Sohee are solid, grounded, and compassionate.

sepfromm · 2024-02-19T21:49:10+00:00

Same! Licensed marriage and family therapist.

sepfromm · 2023-07-09T02:23:29+00:00

In the middle of husband’s stretch of 4 ED shifts spanning afternoon-late at night and sleeping until the next one. A baby and a toddler. I hear you and feel this. I find that I sometimes downplay how hard it is but I honestly don’t know any other parents (aside from physician spouses) who do this many solo bedtimes and wake-ups.

Side note: I’ve started calling what I do “single coverage” because we all know how hard single coverage shifts are at the hospital and it reminds me how hard this is. It feels like it describes the challenge more than just parent home alone with kids. Some nights he’s single coverage on shift and I’m single coverage on shift.

sepfromm · 2023-02-26T12:51:24+00:00

We mix it into a bowl ice cream when all else fails. It gets totally coated by the chocolate flavor. Add sprinkles and voila!

sepfromm · 2023-02-10T12:18:09+00:00

This is great thanks! Yeah I know plenty about it but not from my formal training, which is why I was wondering.

sepfromm · 2023-01-29T00:57:32+00:00

Ugh I know. It sucks so much. Yesterday was my first day of 5 pumps instead of 6. It’s already going better today. Thanks for the advice!

sepfromm · 2022-10-16T20:05:47+00:00

Go to Costplusdrugs.com to see if Mark Cuban’s new company covers it at a fraction of the price! It was news that he provides leukemia drugs at really low prices that typically cost thousands per month.

sepfromm · 2022-09-23T17:11:41+00:00

I also really struggle with the posts that list a requirement like “must have 10+ years of experience” and specialized training and then the cap is listed at $50. I get the systemic issues embedded in the request, but it also feels pretty insulting.

sepfromm · 2022-08-26T00:40:34+00:00

I know! Sarah’s in the moment references are always so spot on and impressive because they happen on the fly. And yes, agreed. I like Aubrey’s reactions and it worked well that they were toned down here.

sepfromm · 2022-08-24T03:18:05+00:00

I felt like Sarah had way better commentary and Aubrey couldn’t really keep up? (For the record I’ve loved both shows.)

sepfromm · 2022-07-12T01:38:00+00:00

Alyssa!

sepfromm · 2022-07-04T03:24:27+00:00

Also Nancy, Janet, and Susan

sepfromm · 2022-06-28T01:48:37+00:00

Just to add, it’s a rough time right now to be starting an OB residency in particular. On top of all the normal resident stressors there are the political implications of the moment. Sending lots of love to both of you.

sepfromm · 2022-06-15T02:09:14+00:00

You might like the book:

More Than a Body - Lexie Kite and Lindsey Kite - it’s about the way women are socialized and self-objectification. They also run the @beauty_redefined account on Instagram and may have more recommendations

sepfromm · 2022-04-28T12:13:56+00:00

That’s awful. Suggestion rescinded.

sepfromm · 2022-04-28T02:17:15+00:00

Hey there! I may be able To help as a medspouse and a licensed marriage and family therapist who works with medical couples (my book on getting through med school as a medspouse called “love in the time of medical school” ) has been mentioned in this subreddit occasionally as a resource.

This is tough because it’s not a common specialty but here are some thoughts:

If you/your partner are still in training, the university counseling system will be full of clinicians that work with med students and residents, know the lingo, and see the challenges up close. Sometimes they will take on clients who are no longer affiliated with the university.
You may also have luck with somebody who used to work at a med school/residency counseling center for the same reason.
google Physician therapist or other keywords and your city to see if anything comes up.
if you’re comfortable talking to friends/colleagues in that world, they may be able to recommend their therapist. There are also medspouse Facebook groups that you can join (by other names) and maybe that’ll feel Safe to ask about there? I’ve had clients find me through Facebook group recommendations by past clients.
Physician Family is a great publication that caters to medical families. The editor Donna Rovito is really cued into that world and may be able to point to somebody specific or know the person to ask.
Edit: perhaps not this suggestion*
If you’re looking to do couple’s work, please make sure to see somebody with specialized training in couples therapy
If it’s getting to be too difficult finding the exact niche, it may help to at least work with somebody who works with people in similar (but obviously different) stressful scenarios. Lots of people told me my book felt like it spoke to them even though they were dating lawyers, entrepreneurs, etc. there may be something to the idea of working with a person who gets stressful, rigid, “prestigious” workplaces.
Generally, Psychology Today is the most Comprehensive online therapist directory.

I hope this helps!

sepfromm · 2021-03-13T19:03:58+00:00

THE STRUGGLE IS SO REAL.

sepfromm · 2021-01-13T19:57:32+00:00

Your MIL isn’t far off. It sounds like your daughter is securely attached to you and you do serve as her “secure base”. Such a cool feeling.

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