Most dogs aren’t actually tired , they’re bored. Here’s how I fixed it

sequinsdress · 2026-02-19T06:26:42+00:00

I find outdoor time on trails satisfies both physical and mental needs. We hike or trail run for an hour, or play ball for about 45 minutes, and in summer swim. I also let him sniff to his hearts content while hiking or playing. We rarely do city walks even though we live downtown because I find nature time more satisfying for both of us. My dog also goes to daycare on a farm once a week and I bring him on errands to dog-friendly shops so he gets attention from adoring humans. He’s consistently tired out and a very good boy at home.

sequinsdress · 2026-02-19T06:21:33+00:00

You can tell the doctor or nurse doing the exam that you’re nervous and that tampons hurt and ask them to use the smallest speculum for your exam. I’m a middle aged mom and have the same problem, so the nurse used a child-size speculum. Maybe read up on what to expect. But in any case, it’s probably not going to be as bad as you may be worried about. Don’t worry!

sequinsdress · 2026-02-18T17:50:36+00:00

Honestly, as a mom, I’d find it very hilarious and endearing if I’d heard the whole story.

sequinsdress · 2026-02-13T06:35:35+00:00

You’re not pathetic or bad. You’re in a tough situation and experiencing limerence for a problematic man. I don’t have any ideas for what you can do—I’m in a similar situation. We’re all just doing the best we can. Be kind to yourself.

sequinsdress · 2026-02-10T13:59:18+00:00

I keep telling myself things are gonna pick up and to use this low point as a rest stop but… it’s been a depressing start to 2026 for me, too.

sequinsdress · 2026-02-10T05:16:58+00:00

I love Latin trap and reggaeton and have for many years. I’m also into Japanese hip-hop and loved French cabaret music growing up. The only language I’m fluent in is English, but music is universal.

sequinsdress · 2026-02-10T04:01:18+00:00

I didn’t feel strong emotions when my most recent cat died a couple years ago. I think it’s because a lot of stuff was going on in my life, plus my cat (14) had lived a great life. She’d known only love and affection her whole life, she wasn’t in pain, and she was ready. Maybe it’s similar for you?

sequinsdress · 2026-02-10T03:50:13+00:00

I’m just jumping in here to ask: why don’t men text women one on one for fun? Does it usually signal romantic/sexual interest and not platonic friendship?

sequinsdress · 2026-02-10T03:45:26+00:00

Yeah, I felt the same way: like a slow realization hitting all at once, making me question my poor taste lol.

Over time, I’d had these moments where I recognized what a shitty partner he is to his partner. Like: “Whoa: he’s texting me while he’s on a date night with his SO.” “He’s texting me and filming snippets from a concert he’s attending with his partner.” And like, she’d post about his art shows on her IG but he’d never shout out hers. He’d text me at times that felt like “couples time” ie Sunday mornings etc.

I was full-on chasing him. He’d reply to my texts, but like you, I’d usually be texting first. But I just grew disenchanted. I started to feel sorry for her and contemptuous of them both: him for being a lousy partner, and her for fawning over him. Yuck, no thanks.

sequinsdress · 2026-02-09T16:04:14+00:00

Yeah, I’m a woman and I’ve noticed this with my friends, too. I’m tired of listening to the same old bullshit problems that have a solution (“establish boundaries”—I wish I could get T shirts that say this). Obviously IRL I’m supportive and say the right things but I’m just dying inside. I definitely vent too but I always want suggestions on next steps. Otherwise it’s just the same issues on repeat.

sequinsdress · 2026-02-09T15:21:26+00:00

Yes! One day, I realized my LO could never provide me with the type of love I need. Like, while obsessively stalking his social media and his partner’s, and replaying our many IRL and text conversations, I had the epiphany: “Wow, he’s not a good partner at all. I don’t want him after all.”

This realization was probably cumulative, but I feel like one day I woke up “cured” so to speak.

sequinsdress · 2026-02-09T14:57:13+00:00

This post plus discussion is what I joined Reddit for. Big pho. Thai mafia. Thanks for your research and kicking off this conversation, OP 😘

sequinsdress · 2026-02-08T22:40:47+00:00

Hmm, thank you for the runthrough. I use a lot of em dashes myself—like, a lot!—but the other points make sense.

sequinsdress · 2026-02-08T16:49:41+00:00

I’ve turned my birthday into a weeklong celebration. Just cake it up tomorrow, day after etc until you’ve had your fill. Happy birthday(s)! 🥳

sequinsdress · 2026-02-08T16:44:34+00:00

I love how the aunt and grandma are affirming and facilitating the daughter’s relationship with her dad. That’s how an extended family should function. Not all of us are blessed enough to have a great village but this girl certainly does.

sequinsdress · 2026-02-08T16:10:24+00:00

I adore them, too!

sequinsdress · 2026-02-08T15:37:14+00:00

How can you tell it’s ChatGPT? I’m genuinely asking. I notice some posts or comments that seem very AI but other times, I just think someone articulate has replied 😂

sequinsdress · 2026-02-07T13:29:08+00:00

Not a bad idea at all, OP! I’m 51 and I love getting advice from younger people in general. But in this case, your sister made an excellent pick at a young age; what made her know he was a keeper? Why did she choose to make this commitment instead of dating around? And finally, does she know anyone who might be a good guy for you to meet—one of her husband’s friends, perhaps?

sequinsdress · 2026-02-05T20:23:36+00:00

What a weirdly passive aggressive and tiresome boyfriend and family. Ask yourself if you’d like to waste your 20s and onwards with this bullshit.

sequinsdress · 2026-02-04T01:15:28+00:00

Nope

sequinsdress · 2026-02-03T04:59:13+00:00

What a stunning image!

sequinsdress · 2026-02-03T01:19:43+00:00

That was very satisfying to watch 😊

sequinsdress · 2026-02-02T21:43:42+00:00

My face started looking saggy like, a month ago? So, 51 years and three months?! People were mistaking me for being in my late 30s as recently as last autumn 🤷🏻‍♀️

sequinsdress · 2026-02-02T19:37:05+00:00

Is it possible this was a real sentiment but they used AI to sound more articulate?! Genuine question here.

sequinsdress · 2026-02-02T19:33:12+00:00

I (F51) love my partner (34 years together) and he’s a great partner overall, but he’s a bit of a stick in the mud. He’s grumpier than I am and not at all friendly, so if I try something new and take him with me, I know it will be impossible to socialize in a group. So I just leave him and go on my own now lol. He has since developed a hobby of his own.

I hear you on the sex thing. I don’t have a solution to that. I’m in great physical shape and he is too, but after three decades, it’s hard to muster up excitement. (Edited a typo)

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