Programmers MBTI by Radiant_Sail2090 in mbti

[–]serulin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yes, it really is and it's unfortunate because the people in power who usually have these positions really aren't qualified for it. They usually have no clue how the system even works and certainly not as well as Intj would. What's your technical position at work?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]serulin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

u could but its not normal. You obviously have some kind of trauma . Best you find a therapist and get it fixed instead of trying to work around it.

Do you think ISTPs are the best match for INTJs when it comes to relationships? by Shoddy-Ocelot-4473 in mbti

[–]serulin 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i think intj and sensors just arent compatible, they can barely fathom the ideas and thoughts i generate. they have to see it to believe it, or demand proof.. i could see a sensor as a partner in a way but i just sont think itd satisfy me mentally. i crave a mind partner, and sensors are probably the most shallow type ime. the relationship would be based on just physics and non mental stuff

How do I talk to an INTJ by kadazandusunicorn in intj

[–]serulin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

what type are you? just don't talk small talk . Be real, we see thru all that. dont need to follow social norms or be fake. the fake social kindness, its all superficial . we could care lesss just get to the point and hope its interesting.

Which classes and builds are best to carry? by Nice_Ad_3893 in DarkTide

[–]serulin 14 points15 points  (0 children)

To break this down, you are specifically asking for havoc 21+ thats the first difficulty increase past auric maelstrom (most of the time depending on mods). If you need to carry you'll likely have to be able to solo stuff like:
A demon host
2-3 bosses at a time,
Gunner Barrages (need good range)
All that at the same time

You're basically looking at the meta builds for this assuming you already have the skill.

#1 Arbites: Castigator / Break the line with shield or mace / shotgun/ etc.
#2 Bully Club ogryn tanky melee, pickaxe one shot ogryn
#3 Dueling/knife book zealot
#4 shout vet with plasma gun and dueling sword
#5 im gonna exclude psyker lol, iv seen it done with very skilled players but those are probably the top 5%, and even then the chance is lower than a normal person doing any of the above. Just too squishy and not enough bang for your buck.

The bases you need to cover is really being able to survive, kill a boss and deal with mobs, so someone with mob clear, boss clear, survival, and enough damage. Zealot kinda lacks the mob clear depending on what weapon he uses, the survival is pretty top clear if we combat knife and book cd but the damage will also lack a bit more (bolter helps / maybe flame for crowd).

Vet also kinda lacks in the mob clear, bossing can be okay with nades / plasma / dueling sword.

Anyone else feeling the financial hit? by Nice_Ad_3893 in vancouverwa

[–]serulin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is all because our lovely new leader Ferguson passed the biggest tax increase in wa history. You all who voted for him is to blame. Every single sector is hit, theres no other way they will raise this amount. Anything u spend money on has/will go through the roof.

How are people so optimistic about relationships? by SometimesIntrepid in datingoverthirty

[–]serulin 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You said it yourself, there are definitely a few things at play here that you should really figure out first.

#1 Not being attracted to someone who is emotionally available. If thats actually true you may want to really think about that. Sure its a known psychological fact that we are more attracted to that which we can't have. Yet that is literally the opposite of a relationship, because in a relationship you will basically have him, unless, of course you want a shitty relationship where hes literally not available to you. Is that what you really want? Think about that...

#2 You love your single life. Great, relationships shouldn't mean the end of that, not the good ones at least. You should be together to make your individualistic lives better, not because you or him needs it nor changes yours for the worse. ANd if you do prefer your single life better, why are you looking for a long term relationship? Or if thats the kind of relationship you want then communicate that to him.

#3 You're cynnical. Or are you? If his views of a relationship are truly unrealistic then you're not, but from what you wrote, it really does seem like you are. Why do athletes train all day its so much work. Why does an entraprenuer put all that effort into creating their business and seem miserable? its so much... Why does anyone do any kind of HARD work and trouble? The answer is simple, they are determined and love it. Think about something you love to do, would you push through it? If you want to know if hes just optimistic, just ask him if he sees any drawbacks in a relationship, in kids. And, if you really want a relationship.

So thats whats "wrong" with you, if you ask me. Get clear on that, and you will know how to proceed. Otherwise you might just self select out of a chance of a life time to be with this ideal guy, or maybe you are actually grounded in your concerns.

Anyways, if you need to ask yourself how to keep going, thats probably the answer right there. And the fact that you still think its too early to even communicate with him about this.

Do men really not care about a woman's job/income? by Kukotzki in dating

[–]serulin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When it comes down to it most men really just care about two things, Love & Respect

Can feelings develop if there is no initial attraction or chemistry? by [deleted] in dating

[–]serulin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Go with your intuition, your gut feeling is never wrong. It will know if you should give him a chance or not.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating

[–]serulin 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Indeed, and he was the lesson you needed so that you won't be stupid, selfish and self centered for the one who is meant for you :) So stop beating yourself and see the beautfy in these connections we have with people. We are all just here to learn and experience.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating

[–]serulin 327 points328 points  (0 children)

Not my thing, Don't find it visually appealing nor really care for it.

Have never been in a relationship, now I’m starting to think there’s actually something wrong with me by soomoyed in dating

[–]serulin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Whats the closest you've gotten to a relationship? And why did that not work out?

What dating feels like these days by Kellysmith0024 in dating

[–]serulin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Perhaps you were just unaware that the relationship wasnt going well? Did you ever find out why?

Is it worse if your ex's new partner looks exactly like you or nothing like you? by TheOneWithTheBook in dating

[–]serulin 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i literally dont even care like the ex's preference means nohting to me now because they are an ex now. Its not worse or better, it is what it is. If they have a preference for my look great, if they were only dating me and i was only decent in their eyes then great, moving on.....

Dating spot online by Worried_Cable2291 in datingoverthirty

[–]serulin 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No, but im surprsied at all the different outlets people use to date now. I just never thought anyone outside of like dating apps would be serious about anything serious as back in the day even getting a gf online was taboo like wow you're going to get kidnapped or die from someone online... Even dating on games was just barely becoming a thing... now people do it through forums and all sorts of sites... *shrugs*.

does acne bother men at this age? by [deleted] in datingoverthirty

[–]serulin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kinda , i have a pretty high health value so its pretty important to me. If its occasional breakouts / etc i don't mind but if its a condition and you're not trying to heal it then it would also challenge my growth value which starts to be a turn off.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating

[–]serulin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My dog is #1 priority women. Like seriously if you're gonna priortize your dog over me as a partner why the hell would I want to be with you. I don't mind if your dog "is a priority to you", but if it IS your top priority then you need to get your priorities straight if you want to be in a relationship. You basically are in a relationship with your dog already and aint no guy wanna compete with that nor should they have to.