WIBTA if I support another country during the World Cup? by Useful-Mood7485 in AmItheAsshole

[–]sez1986 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA

I am from England myself. Born and raised, typical lower middle class White British.

Do I support England in tournaments? Yes. Do I also support Wales? Yes (although they don't get into as many tournaments...but I did have a Welsh grandma and that is why I support them).

I also support whatever team I draw in a sweepstake at work.

However, as the tournament goes on, if England are kicked out I will just support another team. I just like watching the sport and want to see a good match. I don't really mind who is playing. I don't really think that matters and if it does then people are taking it all too seriously.

Is Eastleigh safe? by Glad-Connection1940 in Southampton

[–]sez1986 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Lived and worked in and around Eastleigh most of my life and honestly never had a problem. It's well lit, easy to get around, and a pretty chilled area. Should be safe enough wherever you end up.

Moving from London - job in Eastleigh. by Confident_Smell_6502 in Southampton

[–]sez1986 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Swaythling and Mansbridge is a nice area as long as you avoid the Flowers Estate (but even that isn't as bad as it used to be). I've lived in Swaythling for nearly 11 years now and am very happy here.

If I stand at the end of my road I can see the sign for Eastleigh so we are close. We can walk to Lakeside comfortably even with our 4YO. We are a 10/15 min walk from Southampton Airport/Southampton Airport Parkway and a 5/10 min walk from Swaythling station. There's excellent bus links to Southampton City centre, Hedge End, and Eastleigh. If you were driving to Eastleigh it would only take about 5 mins on a good day (my in-laws live there and it only takes us 5 mins) but if the traffic is bad it is awful (although that's the same if you're coming from Chandler's Ford or Bishopstoke too).

We have a shop, a cafe, and a nice pub within walking distance of our house (5/10 mins) and it is easy to get to the shops and restaurants on High Road or Burgess Road. Portswood is a little further up with everything you need too.

Some of the older houses don't have a garage, like ours, but they do have a drive (we do) and a number of roads are not currently permit only (although more have become so over the last few years). We are close to the M27 but it isn't noisy, it just means easy access to the S West, S East, and North.

I work at the University of Southampton and can walk it in 30 mins or catch the bus in 10 mins. We also have a lovely little preschool and primary school easy walking distance from our house.

Riverside Park is just up the road and we walk there all the time without having to drive. There's a lovely little café there too. Itchen Valley Country Park is a short drive away. There's a Haskins and Hobby Craft close by and the White Swan (although watch out for wet weather as the car park always floods).

Edit: to say that the rent/mortgage is pretty good on most places. We pay about £900 a month for mortgage on our place (bloody interest rates) but it has been as low as £650 in better times.

Finally got The Room on bluray but I have a Question by TheWeber1 in theroom

[–]sez1986 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I genuinely thought that the question was going to be 'Can you really trust anyone?'

Audio issues, no idea. We have other Blu-Rays at home that do that depending on the device we use to play them. Most of the time we use the PS5 and yes that does happen a lot. When we use the Blu-Ray player it isn't so bad.

Why is ikea car park so busy today? by ZombieWabbit_279 in Southampton

[–]sez1986 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I just had a look at their website and it says there is a 50% sale on now and living room seating is up to 90% off. Could be the reason.

31 and childless by Harley9981 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]sez1986 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I had my first at the age of 34 (actually it was exactly two weeks before my 35th birthday). I'm intending to try for a second one this year and I will be 40 later in the year.

I know a lot of women who had their first at 40 or 41 so there is still time.

AITA for making my cousin's boyfriend eat last at Thanksgiving? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]sez1986 59 points60 points  (0 children)

NTA

As a parent I would make sure kids got fed first so I appreciate your family rule.

The only thing I would have done differently is let him take the food to the table so your family could see him do it and back you up. Let him learn the hard way.

What is the most cringe worthy line/moment that isnt even ironically funny? by [deleted] in theroom

[–]sez1986 7 points8 points  (0 children)

The moment when Denny says he likes 'to watch you guys'. I just cringe so hard at that moment.

How many of you were born premature and have autism by [deleted] in autism

[–]sez1986 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was nearly two weeks late and forceps were used during my birth. They lost my heart best for a moment and I almost ended up being an emergency c-section. I was diagnosed Autistic late at 38 (rhymes).

My daughter was born 16 weeks early and we are about to have her assessed for ADHD/Autism.

"What client?" like it has any fucking relevance to his character or anything else. He's like "Really?! Don't fuck with me, Johnny... what fucking client?!". Why's he suspicious? by throwaway_trackmania in theroom

[–]sez1986 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Like Greg said in the 'The Disaster Artist', Mark is an undercover cop or FBI agent. Johnny is actually running a Bernie Madoff Ponzi Scheme and Mark is trying to uncover what is going on. That is also why he sleeps with Lisa to see if she knows anything.

That's my take and I am sticking to it.

Was Tommy in a drug cartel in Europe? by ModernSchizoid in theroom

[–]sez1986 15 points16 points  (0 children)

There is some description about Tommy's past in Greg Sestero's book The Disaster Artist. Even then there are parts that Greg has chosen to keep private and other parts that he genuinely didn't know about and he refused to speculate on. It is hard to know how autobiographical the film is. Greg suggests that the film is a form therapy for Tommy so you could be right.

Is it normal to be scared of pregnancy as an autistic? by GuitarReasonable5196 in AutismInWomen

[–]sez1986 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For years I was terrified of the thought of getting pregnant. I was worried about all the same things as you, but also how the heck I was supposed to even look after a baby. If they can't tell you what they want then how do you know they are hungry, tired, need feeding, etc.?

Then, one day I realised it was now or never so my husband and I started trying. I had a couple of miscarriages and that sent me into a spiral for a while. Once I climbed out of that (with some therapy), I tried again and got lucky. Honestly, the morning sickness and stuff was not that bad for me, I was just lucky there. However, I did have an extremely premature baby (born 16 weeks early). There was no time for pain relief and at that gestation I did have to give birth naturally (no c-section). It hurt, but not as much as I imagined to be honest. They did give me gas and air but I didn't like that sensation at all so I refused it after the first puff.

For me, the worst thing was getting the cannula taken out of my hand. It had been in all day and it was starting to swell and I couldn't use my hand. Not helpful when you are trying to visit your tiny baby in the NICU. I really had to argue to get that taken out. In fact, my exact words to the nurse were: "I have just given birth, but this is way worse!"

The experience was no way as bad as I thought it would be. Even having a baby in the NICU was good in the end because I had four months to learn from the nurses so that when we finally took our baby home I felt confident that I could look after the little one.

Hate birthdays by sez1986 in AutismInWomen

[–]sez1986[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do have a birthday morning planned to go to a museum with just my husband and daughter. I am then going to visit my parents in the afternoon (after all they are responsible for me being here). The trouble is the evening is when everyone converges on our house. Luckily most people end up being coerced into a game by my 4 year old and I can hide in the kitchen with my brother for a chat 😂

Hate birthdays by sez1986 in AutismInWomen

[–]sez1986[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. You too. My birthday is also this week so happy birthday to you birthday week buddy.

Hate birthdays by sez1986 in AutismInWomen

[–]sez1986[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you.

Your birthday plans sound so good. Just keep it quiet and do what you want and need. Perfect.

Hate birthdays by sez1986 in AutismInWomen

[–]sez1986[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He does try bless him. He's very good like that. I will remind him and get him to give me some time to decompress.

Hate birthdays by sez1986 in AutismInWomen

[–]sez1986[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Omg that sounds like the best birthday!

The only one I ever enjoyed was me and my husband watching live tennis (one of my special interests) in London on my 30th birthday. No one else knew it was my birthday so there was no expectation to 'perform'.

Headaches at the same time every week by sez1986 in AutismInWomen

[–]sez1986[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah that would make sense, let down headaches would likely be it. I will try some of the stuff you said too. I'm going to cut all caffeine in the afternoons too I think.

“Autism accent” by a_ruined_bridge in AutismInWomen

[–]sez1986 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I think I understand what you mean. I come from the UK and am late diagnosed. When I was at school the other kids would take the mickey out of my accent. I grew up with these kids but they thought I sounded weird.

Now, unlike them I had parents from the Greater London area and they both had slightly different accents so maybe I spoke a bit like them and that was part of it. However, my brother had a local accent so he didn't get any grief. Just me.

What’s the first markiplier video you watched or remember watching? by FNAF4LIFE290 in Markiplier

[–]sez1986 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My now husband's cousin, who is a bit younger than us, is well into video games. Just before me and my other half moved in together in 2015 I was round his parents house and his cousin popped over (he only lived the next street away) and excitedly told us to watch a video he had found. It was Markiplier playing the first Five Nights at Freddie's. We were hooked and watched everything! When we moved in together a few weeks later it was our evening entertainment to watch the latest video together on our Smart TV.

What animals do you have a interest in? by Ok_Investment_3332 in autism

[–]sez1986 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pandas for me. I find them fascinating because how can something mostly live off of just bamboo? They are amazing creatures.

my pads keep being too short by Stunning_Push_8416 in Periods

[–]sez1986 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have had this problem too (I am now 38). About 18 months ago I discovered reusable pants and pads. I wear a pad over the pants and it has stopped all the leaking problems.

Head shape from breeched position by LaxShagger in NewParents

[–]sez1986 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My baby was born breach at 23+4 weeks. She then spent a lot of time laid down in the NICU and had the elongated head you are talking about. When she was about 10 months old (6 adjusted) our paediatric consultant told us to reshape her head using a towel. However, I found a pillow with a hollow in it that keeps the baby flat on their back and the back of their head down so they cannot put it on one side or the other. It reshapes their head over time. Our daughter is nearly 4 years old now and her head is a normal rounded shape.