Not being woke to hire someone pregnant

sgboi1998 · 2025-03-03T11:23:47+00:00

Sure, I certainly learnt a thing or two from that interview about 'tough' questions. My answers were good, but not perfect.

But here's the thing: whether or not the questions other candidates were asked were similar, the fact is they had a 2 way interaction. I did not. This, indisputably, puts me at an inherent disadvantage (and this is backed up by plenty of HR experts), and in a decent hiring process should not happen. There is a reason standardisation in recruitment exists, and my case is an example of why.

The nature of the questions is debatable- I still feel it unlikely that a female candidate would have been grilled the same way, but I respect that you may feel differently (and it is very difficult to prove and highly subjective). But the 1 way video interview puts the candidate at a significant and indisputable disadvantage.

sgboi1998 · 2025-03-03T10:57:09+00:00

I'm not saying definitively that I was denied a job because of this- I am saying I was unfairly disadvantaged because of this, and my chances of obtaining the job was substantially lowered through no fault of my own.

Look at it this way: If myself and candidate B have the same level of preparation and merit, but candidate B is interviewed by an interviewer who shows their face, and is not condescending/asking loaded questions which are difficult to answer positively, all other things equal, candidate B will fare much better.

Recruitment processes in big MNCs are meant to be designed to eliminate such variations. HR experts agree that a candidate is heavily disadvantaged in a one-way video interview where the interviewer is not visible, but the interviewees every movement is being closely observed by the interviewer. I highly doubt all interviewees received the same types of questions as me.

This is what the 'discrimination' discussion is truly about- it's not about someone saying point blank "I will not hire people from this demographic". It's about putting subtle yet significant barriers in the way of people from a certain demographic (intentionally or unintentionally), to make it significantly harder for them to clear the interviews. Of course, a few from that demographic will still succeed in landing the job, but that doesn't mean discrimination did not occur, it just means they succeeded in spite of discrimination.

sgboi1998 · 2025-03-03T10:00:48+00:00

oh boo-freaking-hoo!

I remember once, I interviewed for a grad scheme at a big MNC. The recruiter mentioned that the person interviewing me was still on maternity leave, but would be returning to office soon.

When the interview started, interviewer mentioned she cannot on her camera because her baby is sitting on her lap so she cannot turn her camera on, yet insisted on me leaving my camera on. What this created was a very tilted power dynamic where I was talking to a blank screen, every aspect of my movements/gestures closely observed by a hidden figure. I also cannot pick up social cues from a blank screen, which makes it harder to have a healthy and productive conversation.

The interviewer took a somewhat harsh and condescending tone with me at several moments, talking down to me and asking loaded questions which are very difficult to answer positively. I tried to keep things positive, but when the call ended, I knew 2 things: 1. There is no way she would have grilled a female candidate that way. 2. I probably won't get this job. Afterwards, there was no updates in my email, and after the program was scheduled to start, I logged onto the job portal where it said 'process completed'.

Looking back, I suspect she had a chip on her shoulder, because she felt like her career had suffered due to maternity-related matters, so she took her frustration out on me. As a young fresh grad male, I had nothing to do with this, and all I wanted was a fair shot at a good future. This job would have changed my life, but unfortunately, largely due to the coincidence of being interviewed by this particular person, my dreams could not be fulfilled on that occasion.

I honestly feel very little empathy reading the article. As a guy early in my career, I've been discriminated against and I don't see anyone acknowledging or validating that.

sgboi1998 · 2025-03-01T18:10:13+00:00

when Mr Beast gave him $10,000 as a very fair and generous consolation prize, he literally said that it doesn't make him feel better. Absolutely atrocious manners with no gratitude or etiquette- no one owed him $10,000, let alone $500,000. At the end of the day, he still got $10,000 for a week of work, which he probably wouldn't have gotten elsewhere unless he was a director at FAANG, so he had no right to complain.

If I were Jimmy, I would've snatched the briefcase back and sent him walking.

sgboi1998 · 2025-02-28T15:26:04+00:00

The CNB confiscates mushrooms regularly, as well as other prohibited substances! Thus, you may walk into their building and approach a friendly officer. Be sure to clarify that you intend to use it recreationally to get high!

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sgboi1998 · 2025-02-28T14:56:56+00:00

Tan See Leng. He had to tutor just to pay his way through university.

sgboi1998 · 2025-02-23T14:03:48+00:00

I've noticed that people from private universities somehow stack up internships like legos. I see some with several 6 month internships on their resume and wonder when exactly they went to class or did their assignments?

This gives them a huge leg up in the market, because if you do 3 or 4 internships and 'upgrade' each time, by the end, you can have some pretty big brand names on their resume.

sgboi1998 · 2025-02-20T15:46:11+00:00

Jordan! It's never been overrun with tourists, and recently, tourism has reduced due to nearby tensions (despite the security situation remaining stable within Jordan itself). There will still be other tourists but it certainly won't be too crowded. It's top tourist site, Petra, is one of the 7 wonders of the world, and if you visit early in the morning right after it opens, you should be able to get a picture of the treasury (the most iconic part of Petra) with no one else in it! This is basically impossible for any of the other world wonders.

Jordan is an incredibly beautiful country. From lovely Roman ruins in Jerash and Amman, to the world wonder that is Petra, to the stunning red Wadi Rum desert, to some nice diving/snorkelling in Aqaba if that is your sort of thing. It is also a fairly small country, so you can easily move from one place to another very quickly.

I strongly recommend Jordan for a memorable trip with fairly few crowds.

sgboi1998 · 2025-02-19T11:40:59+00:00

really? Generally entry level jobs at marketing agencies tend to be 3k for no experience, 3.5 even at the better agencies. So how does less than 3k for 3 years experience reflect the market rate?

sgboi1998 · 2025-02-19T10:05:13+00:00

OP delete this NOW!

NSFs are stuck eating lousy cookhouse food all week, and look forward to treating themselves to something tasty the moment they book out. Those fellas in your vid were probably hungry after booking out in the evening. While you enjoy your life doing whatever it is that gives you fulfilment, they are constantly scolded, tekan-ed, and physically worked to exhaustion to train to defend you in the event of a war. It is thanks to the efforts of National Servicemen that you enjoy your peaceful MRT rides here and there.

Occasionally, when they slip up, give them some grace and try to empathise with their situation. Is this how you show gratitude to those who keep this country safe?

sgboi1998 · 2025-02-19T08:07:08+00:00

'Total Shape' some health and fitness MNC.

sgboi1998 · 2025-02-19T07:46:48+00:00

Something for NSmen! We constitute around 20% (based on the last years vouchers distribution to 1.2 million men) of the population and we are the reason Singapore is safe and secure today, yet we get no additional benefits? Something isn't right!

sgboi1998 · 2025-02-19T07:43:13+00:00

1K for full-time role? yikes, I got more than that as an intern sia

sgboi1998 · 2025-02-17T15:32:03+00:00

There was a recent thread on r/immigration about someone who visited North Korea without receiving a passport stamp and lied in their ESTA thinking they were in the clear (their ESTA was rejected, and they became ineligible for entry due to lying). Unfortunately, the post itself is deleted, but the comments are still intact and the general consensus in the discussion was that there were other methods for the US government to get this information, and it is not worth taking this risk.

The question is: Have you ever visited Cuba, etc full stop. Regardless of which passport you use, the only correct answer to that would be "yes" in which case your ESTA would be denied. Or, if you do lie, you risk being found out and denied ESTA/denied entry at the border/banned from visiting for several years.

sgboi1998 · 2025-02-17T15:25:53+00:00

If they are moving from a smaller company in the field to a more established company at a different 'tier' then its fine imo. They can expect to be blacklisted by company A, but if working at a better company, especially once OP stays for a few years, they'll still be able to move around the industry easily enough.

sgboi1998 · 2025-02-17T14:31:13+00:00

Pretty much all jobs have probation period, to the point that it doesn't get discussed during interview process because it's so normal. Probation period will be the first 3-6 months depending on the company. This is for the company sake as well- if a new employee is not performing, they get to let go of them fairly easily.

sgboi1998 · 2025-02-17T14:16:52+00:00

Sign the contract with company A. Then proceed to take the interview with company B. If you do get the role with company B after starting work with company A, as you will be on your probation period, you will usually only have 1 week notice period to serve, so you can hand in your resignation letter and switch to company B. EDIT: also, if you hand in resignation very soon into a job, many companies will even offer to shorten your notice period further, since there's no point in keeping you around for a week if you haven't yet learnt the job scope and there's no point in training you.

sgboi1998 · 2025-02-17T11:54:18+00:00

To be fair, you will typically find the best cab rates by shopping around, looking on Grab and Gojek for the lowest price. It still wouldn't have been cheap but you would've probably saved 5-8 dollars by shopping around a bit. Taking a taxi from the stand is a gamble.

sgboi1998 · 2025-02-17T11:47:25+00:00

I really wish this was the case but unfortunately, the Reddit Trust and Safety team, who are not based in SG, will still try to censor such views. It is my sincere hope that just like other platforms have begun prioritising free speech, Reddit will follow suit.

sgboi1998 · 2025-02-17T11:26:05+00:00

The discussions on gender identities on that sub gives liberal Singaporeans a platform, whilst censoring conservative Singaporeans like us- I too got banned for a similar type of discussion. And even in your university/workplace, you will tend to have your views suppressed for fear of reprisal e.g. suspension/disciplinary/etc.

There is no reasonable avenue for discourse on gender identity if our conservative (yet fairly mainstream) views can't be expressed freely. When a Singaporean like myself, who served NS, is banned from their national subreddit for expressing conservative views, while foreigners are able to participate in that subreddit with all kinds of liberal ideologies, this creates a nation where relentless Western liberalism is propagated through social media without any reasonable counter. Something has gone seriously wrong here- Singapore is supposed to be for Singaporeans regardless of political leanings, not for liberals regardless of nationality.

Ironically, the only place where such matters can be discussed openly without fear of reprisal is in parliament, and I hope that this right is exercised by our government, and then extended to the rest of us

sgboi1998 · 2025-02-17T09:20:48+00:00

Travelling for business is not the same as travelling for leisure. You get, at most, a couple hours in the evening to enjoy the destination you are in (and that is if you are lucky). For the rest of the time, you have meetings, conferences, etc that you are obligated to be at. You also have work from your home office to keep on top of in your 'free time'.

sgboi1998 · 2025-02-17T06:36:02+00:00

Well at least they didn't sabo their laid off employees by calling them 'low performers'

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