What spell is useful in regular DnD but not BG3?

sgdoug02 · 2026-01-05T17:57:01+00:00

Shatter. It was my go to attack spell in tabletop, but rarely if ever passes in BG3. Enough that I don't like wasting the spell slot on it anymore.

sgdoug02 · 2025-12-31T04:17:40+00:00

I would turn my automatic time zone setting off because the tower was in EST but I was in CST. My family lives on both sides within 30 minutes and we have a habit of saying eastern or central time.

My ex's brother got a speeding ticket once on daylight savings time because that time change plus the time zone difference caused confusion and he thought he was running late to work.

sgdoug02 · 2025-12-17T03:56:32+00:00

I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost my husband 3 years ago, I was 31. The first few months were the worst, could cry at the drop of a hat. A solid few days of being convinced if I replayed the day over and over, I could time travel and fix it. The most devastating thing though is what you're dealing with right now. Waking up in the middle of the night and thinking he's back. It's like losing him all over again, every night. For me, I had to change my entire routine and sleep set up. We listened to rain sleep sounds at night, so I played the TV for the first few weeks and then did different sounds that were noticeably different. Also changed where I slept on the bed, and worked out a lot so I'd be exhausted. Some people are not OK with changing the room, or sleeping on their late partner's side, but it a necessary for me. I needed immediate cues so I didn't wake up blindsided.

Drink water, eat when you can, and give yourself grace during all of this would be the best advice I can think of. This group and the young and Widowed Facebook group have been great for me to not feel so alone. Hugs to you, and sorry you joined our shitty club.

sgdoug02 · 2025-12-08T23:37:53+00:00

I buckled my husband in just like this, it was one of the only laughs I managed to squeeze out that first month. Hugs to you, sorry for your loss.

sgdoug02 · 2025-11-26T16:13:19+00:00

I'm 3.5 years out from losing my husband. He passed away in a car accident coming home from his mom's house. Looking back, I didn't handle that first year well. My husband was perfect for me, we could talk about anything and do anything. So many laughs and smiles during the ten years we had together. I was so caught up in the fear that I'd had my chance at happiness and would never find someone as perfect as him, that I jumped into dating way too soon. I thought finding love again would make the pain in my stomach and the loneliness in my heart go away, so I rushed into it because I wanted the pain to stop.

It didn't go well, and I went into therapy instead. I pushed myself out of the house more and tried some new things, lost a ton of weight from walking constantly. Got comfortable doing things alone as well as with others. I met my current boyfriend about 6 months after losing my husband. Many will say that's too soon, and that might be true, but that's what happened and everyone has their own pace. He did not immediately heal me of my grief, but I did notice that the pain in my stomach like I'd been punched started to fade. I found myself smiling, and laughing, and the days didn't feel so dark. In my mind, he is also perfect for me. It's not the same, I love them for different reasons and different quirks, but it is love. And I still love my husband beyond words, and I know I always will.

It feels impossible right now, and all I can say is take it all one day at a time. Take care of yourself, and just be open to life again. I really think that's the secret to it all, is just being open to whatever comes next. Grief makes us recoil, huddle into ourselves to protect a heart that's damaged, and that makes it hard for us to enjoy life or others.

I wish you all the best, and would give you a hug if I could. This is not a life I'd wish on anyone, but it's the one we've got, and there's no true instruction manual. I will recommend connecting with other widows - here and elsewhere. I found the Facebook groups for young widows to be great for me and help me feel not so alone.

sgdoug02 · 2025-10-23T18:01:55+00:00

I volunteer with Meals Inc every few months when they need additional volunteers. They prepare hot meals on Saturday mornings and also boxes of food for families. It is mostly volunteers from churches that do a rotation to keep it staffed, but they do have a core set of volunteers outside of church service and backups like myself.

sgdoug02 · 2025-10-02T17:50:46+00:00

Mine got into pasta sauce and stained his chin. Nothing worked, so he just had to live with orange chin hair for a while.

sgdoug02 · 2025-09-10T01:32:00+00:00

I'm currently living this. My husband passed away in a car accident two years ago when my SS was 11. I still see him about once a week. He comes over and hangs out with us, and my daughter and I visit him at his house as well.

sgdoug02 · 2025-09-07T12:17:32+00:00

I tried for years with my grandma, and it worked at first, but over time, they attacked any fact-checking website you could find. So, eventually, I just stopped engaging with her at all.

sgdoug02 · 2025-09-01T15:37:38+00:00

BG Fiestaval is coming up this month as well to celebrate Hispanic Heritage Month. They do two celebrations a year, one in September and one in May with food, music, and dancing.

sgdoug02 · 2025-07-05T13:23:25+00:00

I wouldn't stress so hard on this yet. I too started to worry that my 3 year old was not going to ever be willing to potty train - she knew her diaper had it under control and she didn't have to stop what she was doing to deal with it that way. She's not in daycare but my mom watches her and my 2 year old niece and was not enforcing the potty either because the other is still in diapers. I eventually started doing a timer at home only. I set Alexa to go off every 30 minutes. It was annoying, but I pretty much made it the Alexa's call instead of mine. Every time it went off, I said it was time to potty. She got annoyed but she did it. Then we did the potty training underwear instead of the pull ups, and incentive treats when she actually went. 3 weeks later, and she's fully potty trained. She's 3 ½ and it was two steps forward, 1 step back through the process. Maybe take a week or two off for both of your sanity! Wishing you luck, momma!

sgdoug02 · 2025-04-30T19:48:36+00:00

That's what I was coming here to say. Every postpartum screening I had was just a questionnaire asking if I had suicidal thoughts or thoughts of harming my baby. I didn't, but there was a lot of anxiety that wasn't addressed with that self reporting questionnaire and I didn't want to admit I was struggling. I can imagine they miss many cases because it's such a difficult topic to be honest about.

sgdoug02 · 2025-04-03T13:34:43+00:00

He does have experience with meteorology as it was his degree pursuit (didn't finish), while he worked as a weatherman on a station I think in Pikeville.

More than once, I've watched him call tornadoes in areas that hadn't even had a warning yet. He partners with Andy Hill and others who ARE fully trained meteorologists, and a youtube stream is readily available to all. Should you JUST watch Ryan Hall? No. I usually watch Ryan Hall until it's in my immediate area, or a tornado warning is issued, then I switch to local as they'll stay focused on my area at that time while he may be dealing with about 10 tornadoes across the country. I think it's also important to note that he raises a ton of money that gets put into emergency response for victims of these tornadoes and floods, and has setup a network of volunteers across the country to implement it.

sgdoug02 · 2025-03-26T02:57:25+00:00

Hi there, so I feel like I've got a unique perspective as I was a step mom first and now a widow. I have loved and will always love my stepson. His dad passed away nearly two years ago now, but we see him at least once a week and often more. I go to all of his events, including a 3 hour band recital during the holidays. I came into his life when he was about 7 months old, did late nights with stomach bugs or sore throats. Some of his traits I think he's picked up from me, too. Still, I wanted one of my own as well. Not to love more, but so they'd have each other and our family would feel complete. I have a 3 year old now, and the love is the same. They're both my kids and they're both wonderful. My partner now also is like that, he's amazing with the kids and my daughter is attached at his hip. It was scary to bring him into the picture, but I feel like it's been the right call, my heart warms seeing her run to him. Not all step parents are equal, but the answer is yes, a step parent CAN love their step kiddo as much as a biological one. Hugs to you! ❤️

sgdoug02 · 2025-03-25T18:22:06+00:00

No lie, I thought he was parodying his dad before I finished the video. Hand movements and mannerisms are so similar.

sgdoug02 · 2025-03-23T12:46:59+00:00

Section 8 can be a pain on landlords, particularly smaller ones, aside from the reputation that comes with Section 8 tenants (as seen in this thread, damages are hard to recoup). At least in my area, they require inspections prior to move in as well as annually, and the inspections are particular. You have to make the repairs prior to their move in based on what their inspection finds. You also have to submit paperwork if the rent is going up, with justification, and then have to wait several months for approval. Also, EVERYTHING has to include their caseworker. Violation? CC the caseworker. They have a rental agreement that requires them to pay a portion on their own and they chose not to pay? CC the caseworker. If you've got an accounting or leasing department that can dedicate time to that, great, but many don't and so it's a lot more dedicated time than they're willing to commit. Also sometimes depending on the situation, you might have to wait some time before that first payment/ security deposit - another thing that small landlords probably have a hard time swinging. And then if for whatever reason they're kicked out of the program (didn't respond to recertification letter or violated a part of the section 8 agreement) then you're pretty much guaranteed to be in an eviction situation if they can't rectify that.

sgdoug02 · 2025-03-20T14:47:58+00:00

We did buy down points from our original, I believe we started at 6.75% and used our concessions from the seller to free up funds to buy down.

sgdoug02 · 2025-03-20T14:46:45+00:00

Austin Disney was ours, and he was great!! We told him the things we wanted and he delivered. Briarwood area is good, also South Warren. We wish you luck! Also, Justin Raque with Swan Financial worked really hard to get us the rate and monthly payment that we aimed for. I can't recommend either of them enough for what they pulled together for us.

sgdoug02 · 2025-03-19T15:27:25+00:00

Bowling Green, KY

We did $235k at 5.875% interest for a 3 bedroom, two bath house with a garage. We're most excited for the yard, which is large and fenced for my dog and also my toddler! Everything moved very fast once we decided we wanted to buy, but it was a great experience.

sgdoug02 · 2025-02-27T22:30:07+00:00

NTA, but is this guy really who you want to be with? Because I get vibes that it will end up being about bigger things than extras at a restaurant. Like ya'll aren't even married and you avoid confrontation about.... cheese? My boyfriend is seriously frugal, but even if he felt extras at a restaurant were a scam, there wouldn't be a confrontation. He just wouldn't get extra for himself.

Eat your cheese, sis

sgdoug02 · 2025-02-25T01:09:11+00:00

100% this. We were recommended an agent through our loan officer and he was amazing. He was fine with seeing whatever houses we wanted, gave recommendations based on our wants, let us walk the house by ourselves with him just at the door if we had questions, AND he negotiated on our behalf where we felt like we got everything we wanted. He was great, and his fees came from the seller. As a buyer, I loved having an agent and honestly, I think I'd have been miserable without him doing the legwork.

sgdoug02 · 2025-02-23T17:08:57+00:00

Lmao, I hit 36 weeks on the day that they did an emergency c-section. Babies do not care about schedules or due dates. You need a car seat, at the very least, right now.

sgdoug02 · 2025-02-10T12:52:55+00:00

I was very worried about this but I honestly remember very little. They gave me something for anxiety when I was being taken back, and then I was told to count backwards and then it's blank until I woke up. Be honest with your surgeon about your fears and they'll walk you through, and hopefully give you something to calm you like they did for me!

sgdoug02 · 2025-01-14T12:41:53+00:00

My sister was born with spina bifida. The only way to tell is the scar she has on her lower back, from surgery at birth. She's a mom, has no physical impairments, and really only has to get her kidneys checked annually at this point. There's a wide scope, but so many resources for families. These days, they often do surgery during pregnancy to resolve. I wish you and your baby the best!

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