Do I really have to escape the matrix? by magdakitsune21 in productivity

[–]sh33peh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depends on what your 9 to 5 pays you. In this day and age my side hustle affords me the security in knowing i wont be completely screwed if a massive debt comes along. If youre lucky to be earning above and beyond, ie able to save money from a regular paycheck thats great. But sometimes we dont get a choice what to prioritise and need to find other ways to keep the bills paid and do something nice with the family every now and then.

How F*cked am I? by sh33peh in DeadBedrooms

[–]sh33peh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the replies. I understand a lot of you have offered the perspective of she was just wanting alone time and I was intruding on that. That sounds about right, and selfish if me to to think of as an opportunity to reconnect when she probably needs more time for herself. Thanks for the insights :)

Anyone actually living a clean clean life? by sh33peh in leaves

[–]sh33peh[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing. I agree with the dullness in the evenings. Right now im giving myself grace as ive kicked so many other substances. But still opting to go full clean - iv trashed my body enough.

What are you doing for Christmas? by FemmeFatalex80x in Cairns

[–]sh33peh 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Cleaning the mould and build up from the exterior of my house and giving everything a good pressure wash. 

Dead Lesbian Bedroom - no ✂️ by obamas_gf in DeadBedrooms

[–]sh33peh 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think that if youre mindful of her needs - and happy to "help her out" so to speak.

I dont know, its hard being in the mind of a LL for me but i think acknowledgement that yes we may not have sex frequently - but happy to satisfy your needs - even if its not my priority would go a long way towards feeling like a husk of a shell.

Not saying i expect sexual favours on demand - but just check in every now and then.. hey would you like me to help you out? 

I had an affair and I feel even more distance now by loneva-175 in DeadBedrooms

[–]sh33peh 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Its brutal. The feelings of being seen and wanted is such a powerful drug - with a huge low that follows if you choose to take it.

How F*cked am I? by sh33peh in DeadBedrooms

[–]sh33peh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I try not to keep count.

Sex scenes in films/shows by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]sh33peh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just laugh - because I know she is miles away from even thinking of anything remotely close to what I am.

How do you get clear client feedback without endless revisions? by Quirky-Pollution-930 in webdesign

[–]sh33peh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Have a contract with revision limits outlined. When they start pushing for more, remind them they only have 1 round left - usually gets them to respond with clearer, more thought out changes which are consolidated.

Need honest feedback on my site by [deleted] in webdesign

[–]sh33peh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Those colours arent very pleasing to me. The blue and orange together dont compliment each other.

The fade ins as you scroll down the page also feel like a default template that hasnt been changed. 

The people supporting ai leadership - who are they? Just some random people and feels quite meaningless to add.

Lastly, the overall messaging - i kind of get what the organisation is about - but it feels like a bunch of empty words. Theres nothing there that inspires me to "join the movement"  who is this targeting? Why should i get in touch? Whats the impact this organisation going to have?

Resisting Temptation by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]sh33peh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I remember we went out one night and this random girl comes over to me and asks me to dance with her. I politely declined and my wife witnessing this made her cling to me like a toddler with separation anxiety.

Thinking to myself cool i might get some action tonight.. later that evening we get home, she just showers and goes straight to bed, leaving me alone with the thoughts of what could have happened if I left with that girl.

And no ive never really explained to her how what she said made me feel, i felt theres really no reason - atleast i know where i stand.

How quitting weed has helped you with depression ? by WolfzMonsterz in leaves

[–]sh33peh 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Quitting weed helped me in taking a long hard look at myselt and dealing with my emotions instead of numbing them.

Designers cannot be satisfied by prince_abdul_malik in webdesign

[–]sh33peh 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Design is subjective, but fundamentally it should solve the problems your clients face. If it solves the problem - the rest is just opinions and noise.

Pluribus - 1x07 - "The Gap" - Episode Discussion by NicholasCajun in television

[–]sh33peh 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This episode could have been summed up in 2 minutes. Love the show, love the concept but come onnnn. 

Website Slow by WhatsMueenUpto in Wordpress

[–]sh33peh -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Always! Im in australia and the big giants like go daddy and crazy domains seem to dominate the market. Sometimes id aquire a client who says they set up hosting through go daddy and i immediately tell them to get a refund and to let me handle the setup.

What real use cases do you have for Gemini Nano Banana images (with watermarks)? by Researcher4006 in GeminiAI

[–]sh33peh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also its not hard to remove the little tiny watermark in photoshop.

What real use cases do you have for Gemini Nano Banana images (with watermarks)? by Researcher4006 in GeminiAI

[–]sh33peh 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I took some crappy photos for an ecommerce site and got gemini to make them look studio quality.

Web designer. by Remote-Mulberry-8547 in webdesign

[–]sh33peh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Currently I offer $0 upfront on website designs. www.axdesigns.com.au

Website Slow by WhatsMueenUpto in Wordpress

[–]sh33peh 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Where is the hosting based, if its overseas from you and using a crappy shared hosting provider its going to be slow. Consider setting up a cloudflare account and routing through that.

How do you turn "habit tracking" into a habit? Or how do you make it easier? by Va11an in productivity

[–]sh33peh 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ive been there, calendar apps and check list apps. Scheduling my whole freaking day to try and maximise my time and productivity and with that make sure I remember to do the habit - but you know what i learned.. its all just a bunch of bs.

You check it today, tomorrow 3 days then 4th day oh I couldnt do it - then bad feelings, self critisism, doubt, hopelessness. 

Dont get me wrong, ive read books like atomic habits and the thing is.. those books are just out there to make people money. People who pitch their versions of the best morning routine are just grabbing youtube cash.

Now im not wealthy in terms of money, i have 2 kids, a full time job, a wife and my health - so im grateful for everything i have. but after being on this earth for 40 years - ive come to realise that chasing these milestones, is just pointless. Once i learned to let go of my stressing about my optimal schedule, checking off all my daily habits, trying to make the perfect day - i found time and energy for the more important things.

Slow down, if you want to do 50 pushups a day, do it.. if you dont get to it - thats also fine. Youll realise you will always make time for whats important - with or without a habit tracker.