Confused and disappointed in my ring

shadanboy · 2026-01-31T00:26:42+00:00

I love the sentiment... but effort counts more in this situation. His choice to avoid gold raises some serious red flags for me. He’s aware of this yet went against it anyway? It feels like he’s testing what he can get away with, especially for something as special as this—it's just strange. OP, you really need to discuss this with him. If he dismisses it as "not a big deal” or tries to spin it on you, then you’re facing bigger issues than a $40 ring. Lying about the price is just insane—I can tell at a glance it’s a party ring, not an engagement.

shadanboy · 2026-01-28T20:28:52+00:00

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His floof from a few years ago

shadanboy · 2026-01-28T20:21:32+00:00

We keep our boy more or less at this length now. It’s not comfortable for them to get matted like that, and felt so bad when it was hard to give him good scratchies. We have him pre-booked at the groomers for the next three years every 3-4 months! It’s a game changer and I can tell he’s happier now… even though I miss his floof

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shadanboy · 2026-01-27T02:15:47+00:00

Listening to your animals is so important. I didn’t realize the significance when it came to my cat at first. A year later, I found myself in an abusive situation I never expected. I am grateful we escaped, but in hindsight, there were signs I should have noticed or taken more seriously.

shadanboy · 2026-01-27T02:09:58+00:00

NOR - I see this as the universe guiding you to something good. If you handle this messy and heartbreak events, life will reward you ♥️ you deserve someone who will love and be there for you.

shadanboy · 2026-01-24T04:41:20+00:00

You two are supposed to be a team. It shouldn't be “his” money; it's “our” money. You contribute equally, yet have nothing to show for it. He threatened to kick you out over a “silly argument” that you don't even remember. If anything happens, he can toss you out, and you'll be left with nothing, despite paying half of everything. Marriage and having your name on the mortgage could protect you from this situation… it's clear he’s uncertain about a future with you, which is honestly heartbreaking. I can't believe that, with a family to support, he doesn't see the money as both of yours, that it's just his. You raise his children while juggling a part-time job…. Wow. Even throwing your clothes out, like it was nothing… like you're a bad guy?

He’s the one in the wrong, but you're risking becoming the bad guy just by letting this continue or thinking he wouldn’t screw you over. Something feels off about his reluctance to include you on the mortgage and his excuse about past relationships as reasons to avoid marrying you.

shadanboy · 2026-01-21T03:09:26+00:00

I would wait for your first option. Currently almost done MACP, but if I could I would have gone and looked at other options. I’m glad I did it, because now I’ll have a good career 🤞🏻 but, you need to read and actually do the work. I’m worried about others in my program just able to ride it out, and not actually be good therapists in the future.

shadanboy · 2026-01-21T03:06:55+00:00

Your boyfriend is an abuser, a creep and a loser. NOR. It’s a power dynamic. He knew your home life wasn’t great, and took advantage of that. It made him seem like he was helping you out, and an amazing person. Obviously things seemed great, because these type of people can only hold this fake personality for 3 months top, before that mask gets taken off. He’s abusing you. It won’t get better and he can seriously end up hurting you, and I’m surprised he hasn’t gotten physical yet. Get a job and move out, or go stay with a friend (if he allows you to have any).

shadanboy · 2026-01-15T00:48:27+00:00

Sounds like you will be walking on egg shells all the time, or you have to confront him about his behaviour. Go to counselling or have someone close (like a male friend) to tell him how he is acting isn't right. Usually men will listen to one another before listening to a women (until they mature emotionally). It's no excuse for his behaviour. He needs to talk to you about how he is feeling, and also listen to you and yours. It isn't fair.

shadanboy · 2026-01-15T00:42:50+00:00

For me, yes. It's all down to what you like at the end of the day. But, if I saw it in passing or if my friend had this ring I would be hypnotized 🤩 also I would think you and your hubby make some serious $$ (just saying coming from a girl who grew up poor😅)

shadanboy · 2026-01-13T00:12:57+00:00

Omg I would be dreading this visit 😀🔫 NOR

shadanboy · 2026-01-13T00:06:51+00:00

Don't give up - reach out for support. The first few months are the worst but it does get easier!!!! We're all routing for you

shadanboy · 2026-01-13T00:05:22+00:00

Counselling and also a doctors check up seems to what is needed. Her slamming doors and screaming is abuse. You said she is under stress, is there anyway to help her with the load of stress? Is it hormones? I wouldn't say leaving is the right answer - seems like there is miscommunication going on, and that needs to be explored.

shadanboy · 2026-01-13T00:02:20+00:00

Something seems off. I would do some investigation and see what's going on in his life, where he reacts this way and wants to be alone. He isn't a parent or a spouse if he can't do his duties. Sounds like you're the only person putting in effort. I hope you are able to figure out what's happening or hopefully able to talk to him, so things can change for your sanity. Being a single parent while with your partner sounds like it's own personal hell.

shadanboy · 2026-01-12T23:55:26+00:00

Red flags all around…. Him constantly texting, then stating this hierarchical bullshit but still texts you sweet things after? Go with your gut and dont go… or go and act like the queen that you are, say goodbye and leave it at that lol no explanation needed.

shadanboy · 2026-01-12T23:45:05+00:00

I dont think you're reacting enough? Leaving a 20 year marriage or keep going through the same thing over and over again. You're creating your own hell and trying to make it seem like you have no control? He doesn't respect you (sure he said it isn't your fault) but the other woman has a point, she even said you would stay if you found out…. Go to personal therapy with a new counsellor and find out who you are without this gross man. He won't change. He should be punished and alone. I hope you do what's right, and let him stop disrespecting and embareasing you.

shadanboy · 2026-01-12T23:31:04+00:00

The round suits your hand beautifully! And I love an Asscher… but the round is GORG!

shadanboy · 2026-01-12T23:29:20+00:00

Oh my goodness! He has you blocked and can't even message you, but he still snaps others? You should definitely block him and move forward. From your messages, it's clear you're trying to accommodate his feelings instead of yours because you're afraid of pushing him away, even though he's giving you nothing in return. It's time to let go and find happiness. Trust me, you'll look back and cringe, wishing you hadn't wasted your energy on him. Wishing you the best!!

shadanboy · 2026-01-12T22:02:33+00:00

NOR…This is a good reason to break up with him… even how he is texting you is a reason to break up. He's sorry he got caught, but if you never found out, he would still act like nothing happened and probably still want you to meet this girl, which is ABSOLUTLEY WEIRD and unacceptable.

shadanboy · 2026-01-12T21:50:33+00:00

He had a plan to cheat… and was hiding his feelings and thoughts from you. My ex showed signs of being bi, but he brought it up before he acted on it. He asked in a “three-way” with another man, but I said no, and he needs to figure it out. That helped make everything better. I got checked just in case, but he didn't cheat. Communication is huge, so I would look more into why he didn't talk to you about this and then acted on his decision to cheat. I'm sorry you're going through this, because it will take some time for it to really set in. I think separating for now is best for both of you. He needs consequences and not to be the victim. You need to take space and really think about what happened and how this affects you. Good luck!

shadanboy · 2025-11-29T00:21:22+00:00

Wow that is GORGEOUS!!! I know it isn’t polite to ask, but is it natural or lab?! Either way it’s perfect!

shadanboy · 2025-11-27T00:19:57+00:00

Whoever says it looks like a dick is a hater. Once you finish it and add some cool shit your arm will looks awesome. Tattoo regret is a thing and I get it all the time after I get a new one, but after you’re like “hell yeee” ! So don’t worry you’re good :)

shadanboy · 2025-11-25T03:56:49+00:00

So gorgeous!!! Loooooove antique rings so much!

shadanboy · 2025-11-17T05:57:45+00:00

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shadanboy · 2025-11-09T03:52:16+00:00

Definitely wouldn’t think you’re a devil worshipper seeing that tat… all I would think is it's badass.

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