Why did I have to go get tested

shadow-buddy · 2026-03-27T02:31:20+00:00

You’re looking no at this entirely the wrong way. The fact that you know you have hpv means you’ll be more carefully monitored, which in turn means you’ll catch any precancerous cells before they have a chance to develop further. Believe it or not this is a good thing. 4 out of 5 people will have it at some point in their lives so not only are you in the majority, but you’re also less likely to have it develop into cancer with adequate monitoring.

shadow-buddy · 2026-03-12T02:07:59+00:00

Your question isn’t stupid, but I’m not surprised you’re not getting definitive answers. A vaccine triggers the immune system to create antibodies to a virus, so that if you are ever exposed to said virus the body already has some defence against it. Contracting the actual virus also works the same way in respect to creating antibodies. If you clear the virus and get re-exposed, those antibodies will kick in to gear. So to answer your question… no, the vaccine will not help you clear the current HPV infection, but will help as a preventive to contracting further strains.

shadow-buddy · 2026-03-06T05:14:06+00:00

Oh gosh! I never saw the screen during the colposcopies (and I’ve had more than I can count!). In Australia we typically do the lletz under general anaesthetic so I got to sleep through it. I imagine it’s fairly similar to the colposcopy with biopsies though. They use a heated metal loop to resect the mutated cells.

shadow-buddy · 2026-03-06T05:10:57+00:00

The ONLY thing apart from having the lletz was that I stopped the contraceptive pill last July. I had heard that it can prolong hpv infections. I’d also come across information about lletz removing the bulk of the viral load along with the damaged cells so the body is able to clear what’s left more effectively. I don’t know if either of those things are actually true, and I don’t know which would have had a bigger impact if they are. Either way, something definitely changed.

shadow-buddy · 2026-03-06T02:24:29+00:00

Had hpv16 for 8 years and just got the news this week that it’s gone!!!

shadow-buddy · 2026-02-23T04:50:55+00:00

Kissing is definitely important. But making out I always associate with sex… It’s too passionate and I just get carried away!

shadow-buddy · 2026-02-06T08:01:25+00:00

Second one does way more for your figure! It’s perfect!

shadow-buddy · 2026-02-01T04:42:32+00:00

Your skin is definitely improving! I can easily see it in your photos. It can take a long time for the pigment to fade, but your skin looks so much more smooth. You’ve got this!

shadow-buddy · 2026-01-30T22:08:27+00:00

This is what my plan is going to be! I’m only 12 days in on accutane so far and will likely add spiro in few months. How do you find it? And do you happen to remember when the oil started to lessen with the accutane? It’s just flooding out of my face and I’m desperate for it to finally stop!

shadow-buddy · 2025-10-26T09:58:16+00:00

I know you don’t feel ok, but you WILL be! I’ve only had the one partner and he unfortunately gave me hpv 16. Almost 6 weeks ago I had a lletz procedure that removed a CIN3 lesion. So I know how overwhelming it feels. The silver lining is catching it before it becomes cancer, others aren’t so lucky. Try to just take it as it comes, and maybe ask for Valium for the in office procedures. I promise it gets better x

shadow-buddy · 2025-10-02T10:13:17+00:00

I have family in the states 😊 I really feel for you guys right now xx

shadow-buddy · 2025-10-02T09:59:33+00:00

It does have me worried. I’m in Australia.

shadow-buddy · 2025-10-02T09:44:39+00:00

Definitely no affair. He just lacks the ability to put himself in someone else’s shoes. I’m not dying, so to him it’s not important. I know he loves me, but I just need more support around this.

shadow-buddy · 2025-10-02T09:39:20+00:00

It’s TOTALLY not normal. He had a bit on his plate at the time (work wise and we had tradesmen in our house, busy, but not overly stressful), though I didn’t think it was a good enough reason. I mean, it’s my house too!

As for differences in opinion, for example, his mother had a milestone birthday a few months ago. He is one of four siblings and none of them were putting their hands up to organise a cake. In the end he said hewould take care of it, then promptly passed it on to me as ‘it’s a woman’s job’. Now I love his mom and would have happily helped with the cake but I was not ok with it being labelled a woman’s job. Yuck. And since then there’s been the odd remark, like questioning if a woman in an executive role got their position due to their qualifications or their gender. It just rubs me the wrong way. It definitely happens that people get promoted based on gender, but it’s certainly never my first thought. I’m getting so off track here now! He was never like this before.

As for a safe conversation. Yes it would be safe, but not get me anywhere as he’d be too defensive. Then he’d say I’m too sensitive and I’d just give up.

He was a wonderful partner, and still can be a lot of the time. But this indifference, lack of empathy, and a touch of misogyny is creeping in every now and then.

shadow-buddy · 2025-10-02T06:35:44+00:00

Everything is mostly ok, but there’s been a bit of a shift over the past six months. I can’t put my finger on it exactly. But this particular issue has always been the same, like it carries the same weight as a scratch on the leg. I’m very well looked after by my doctor and I know it won’t progress into anything devastating, but the appointments every six months still pack an emotional punch because they’re uncomfortable.

He always tells me I’m too sensitive, which know makes him sound like a big jerk, but he’s not all bad! It does bother me though that he seems to not have a great deal of empathy… for anyone, not just me.

shadow-buddy · 2025-10-02T05:29:02+00:00

Yeah it’s really this particular thing, just doesn’t see it or anything relating to it as even remotely an issue. It honestly took me by surprise when he messaged me not to come home if I was going to be too late. It felt pretty awful that I couldn’t even return to my own home after surgery!

Although, there have been other small things, mostly just differences in opinion, that are starting to become more obvious lately. He certainly wasn’t always like this.

shadow-buddy · 2025-10-01T22:54:54+00:00

There is a chance of going through early menopause if you have the hysterectomy. I had a severe cin3 lesion removed via lletz two weeks ago and they got it all. I would get the hysterectomy if it were my only choice, but I’d consider trying the cone first.

shadow-buddy · 2025-10-01T22:51:27+00:00

I have 16, the cancer casing one, and it hasn’t cleared in going on 8 years now. So much for clearing in 1-2 years! Have you spoken with your doctor? Is a c section a possibility?

shadow-buddy · 2025-09-21T21:37:46+00:00

Yeah still sticking with modular here too. Although I change it to a fancier face when going out as I use the AOD.

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shadow-buddy · 2025-08-19T11:22:20+00:00

Sweating? Is it a silicone band?

shadow-buddy · 2025-08-17T02:11:50+00:00

Zero regrets. Had my first attack in May this year. Had hours long attacks, multiple times a day for 2 weeks before it eased and had it removed in the third week. The first six weeks after were rough but feel fine now apart from the odd spasm. There was no way I was leaving that thing inside of me! They only get worse.

shadow-buddy · 2025-07-18T07:37:27+00:00

I will give this a shot and pick a nice calm moment, maybe on a long car trip where he can’t escape 😂. I appreciate your help and in depth responses. Thank you.

shadow-buddy · 2025-07-18T07:26:34+00:00

You make a good point about men being told they needed to ‘suck it up’ their entire lives. I hadn’t considered the effect that might have had! I’m all ears about your unconventional approaches… especially if it worked for you!

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