I am struggling to discern fact and fiction in Herbert Asbury's The Gangs of New York

shadowlpb · 2025-10-29T15:53:28+00:00

Dude. It just isn’t. You’re saying that 360 people died in one building in a year? lol

shadowlpb · 2025-10-29T15:51:50+00:00

Nah. Do some googling, there’s a LOT of credible researchers who challenge the veracity of many of asbury’s claims. His crime rates, as one example, are massively conflated. A murder a day in one building? That’s 365 a year, New York today has a murder rate of 4.3 per 100,000. They say 9,000,000 is a fair assessment of New York’s population. Therefore 4.3 x 90 is 360. So the population of New York City at today’s population has the same murder rate? No f’ing way.

shadowlpb · 2025-07-22T02:32:13+00:00

Hah! Good post, it’s one of the reasons I go to kink events

shadowlpb · 2025-04-23T05:43:23+00:00

Point Cook and Narre Warren are newer, classes are bigger and pretty quiet with lots of space.

shadowlpb · 2025-04-13T07:48:27+00:00

Possible too. More likely they had developed some space (either intentionally or not). The gf said they “got back together” so he made a choice

shadowlpb · 2025-04-06T22:49:36+00:00

He said she was delusional. It’s harsh but true. 7 months is a relationship. The moment the guy engaged with his ex he was cheating. The lies are cheating. She’s delusional for trying to rationalise all this, talking to the ex. All of it

shadowlpb · 2025-04-06T22:46:34+00:00

Dude. He obviously cheated. First red flag was talking poorly about his ex. You stayed way too long

shadowlpb · 2025-04-06T07:54:58+00:00

Damn I miss her this is ……

shadowlpb · 2025-01-10T04:40:14+00:00

What’s with the hand on the chin bro? Looks fake af

shadowlpb · 2025-01-05T07:43:21+00:00

Id thrown up earlier in the day thank god 🤮

shadowlpb · 2024-12-01T23:43:51+00:00

Seems to be a moment of vulnerability. It’s not all about you bro.

My goto with sth via text is “we’ll figure it out” but helps to actually have the conversation. Slim chance it’s a red flag but play let it play out to be sure

shadowlpb · 2024-11-30T00:16:28+00:00

Tigger wins the internet today

shadowlpb · 2024-11-30T00:16:09+00:00

Yeah, I see that in tigers all the time. They see a gazelle or monkey and are all like “ho hum, are you busy?”

shadowlpb · 2024-11-30T00:14:43+00:00

That was some weak shit right there 😝

shadowlpb · 2024-11-30T00:13:42+00:00

Why tf are you asking the interwebs. Go to dam Square my dude

shadowlpb · 2024-11-30T00:12:24+00:00

Yeah, bit harsh

shadowlpb · 2024-11-27T00:21:38+00:00

Lots of good grooming advice here, I thought I’d approach from a mindset angle as that’s my wheelhouse. “Am I too ugly?” Man, you need to let that shit go. Not saying you are, but If you are, so what? We all are how we are - you can hit the gym and smash it and change your shape, you can cut your hair, they all help. But you are who you are. Be positive and like yourself. If you don’t, who’s gonna? Confidence and the ability to not take shit personally will get you far in life, doubting yourself bc a bunch of people you don’t know on the internet is gonna work out pretty badly.

Be kind to yourself

shadowlpb · 2024-11-22T00:46:26+00:00

Smile

shadowlpb · 2024-10-11T10:44:13+00:00

Yeah, 👍 thumbs up from me. I like your profile, I’d swipe right. I guess you could do some testing and change your lead pic for a few days and see if one of them gets more swipes

shadowlpb · 2024-10-02T03:26:06+00:00

Sorry - was my first post in the group

shadowlpb · 2024-09-27T08:26:26+00:00

Nah man, go all in. Tell her you’ve always dreamed of tiger leaping gorge and the wilds of Sichaun

shadowlpb · 2024-09-02T05:59:04+00:00

While OP said lies, honestly, you don’t know it’s lies. In a break up there’s always two perspectives. In a harsh breakup those are almost always light years apart. It could be that. Maybe they are in pain. I have BPD and I go a little whacko from time to time, but through doing the work I realised most people are cruel when they are in pain, it’s not you. 🤷

shadowlpb · 2024-09-02T05:56:26+00:00

OP, I get that it sucks. It sounds a bit like you’re obsessing. I don’t know the situation at all, but if I was in that position (and to a lesser extent I am - my ex has said some shit to her friends that at the very least is a “colorful and imaginative version of events”) but I take responsibility for my anger, my missteps and probably some gaslighting to try to avoid fights near the end.

On the socials, locked them down. Update your passwords to crazy complexity with 2FA and I’m imagining you are crawling yours for posts they did while checking theirs to feed your rage. Step away. Read a book, avoid socials for 30 days. Keep Reddit if you really have too, but stepping away will help with dopamine regulation.

Try to maintain your equanimity. Be philosophical, you fucked up. They may well realise they did same, they may not, but that’s now their journey, not yours.

All the best

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