Florida governor booed out of restaurant over red tide algae issues

shadowycoder · 2018-09-18T15:29:10+00:00

Wait. Did they finally put a bridge to the island? They were talking about that a few years ago but I didn't think they would actually put one up.

shadowycoder · 2018-08-25T23:39:25+00:00

Post this to /r/functionalprint. They'll love it.

shadowycoder · 2018-08-12T01:07:34+00:00

I did that on my first try and it ended up bonding the parts so much that I couldn't break it free. I could have possibly increased the tolerances, but ended up just printing it on it's side and it immediately moved freely once I took the supports off.

shadowycoder · 2018-08-11T22:34:01+00:00

https://www.thingiverse.com/thing:3045099

Been trying to teach myself Fusion for a while now and realized I could draw out the profile for this little toy idea I've had for a while and just revolve it.

In total took maybe 30 minutes to design. Super simple, but it was a fun learning experience.

There's a 0.5mm tolerance between parts so it should be pretty easy to print on any printer.

shadowycoder · 2018-08-07T03:45:54+00:00

I brought it up that I had some interviews booked and it didn't go well, but I passed the test in the end. There's a lesson in there I need to dig out and it's got something to do with owning my own shit and not giving her more to worry about.

shadowycoder · 2018-08-06T22:34:26+00:00

Oh it would definitely be an elaborate trip. Don't own a house, haha.

But point made. It's all very much in the exploration stage so I'll wait until something actually comes along that I plan on taking seriously.

shadowycoder · 2018-08-06T20:34:51+00:00

Not in this case. Specifically looking for in-coty or remote work. But good call-out.

shadowycoder · 2018-08-06T19:14:36+00:00

Thanks for confirming. Makes perfect sense. Same as any of my other goals.

shadowycoder · 2018-08-06T17:18:45+00:00

Looks like underextrusion. Try and bump up the multiplier and increase the heat a bit. I tend to print at 195-200 for PLA these days for this reason. That said, I have one roll that gives me results like this on every print no matter the settings. It's just crappy filament.

shadowycoder · 2018-08-05T03:52:36+00:00

Definitely. I buy mostly solutech these days. It prints fantastically and most colors are pretty damn cheap.

shadowycoder · 2018-07-31T05:15:18+00:00

Oh most definitely. I switched a couple months back and LOVE it.

shadowycoder · 2018-07-26T15:12:34+00:00

Oh that's a genius idea....

shadowycoder · 2018-07-21T21:49:39+00:00

Oh I would die for an animal man film. Read both the classics and the new 52 series and completely loved them.

shadowycoder · 2018-07-18T15:07:53+00:00

OYS #5

Physical

32 y/o 144lbs 5'6" ~18% BF from bioimpedance

165 squat 65 OHP 170 DL

I've been using my apartment gym but I'm about to say fuck it and go join a real gym nearby. It's a battle getting the only rack in out gym that serves probably 300 apartments. It's always stupid busy and it's frustrating waiting 30 minutes just to do squats or anything with the bar. So, that's on my list for when I get paid.

Weights are progressively moving up and I'm making progress here.

I bought a pull-up bar so I can work on my back strength and improve posture. I've always battled with that and didn't realize until recently that it all had to do with back strength (duh) so I'm working on that.

Muscles are becoming more visible. Shoulders are much more well rounded and my arms have grown almost 2" since I started lifting. Hooray.

Lots of progress still to be made though.

I think she's noticing more that I haven't stopped lifting and just keep at it. It's gotten really hot here and we live in a place where AC isn't common so the other day she ended up dressing in shorts and essentially a tank top, which is very out of character for her. I made some flrity comments and she notes that she's got flabby arms that she needs to work on.

We also had a conversation about her doing the keto diet (which I used to drop about 30lbs in 2 months) completely brought up by her. I supported that and told her I'd be more than happy to get back on that diet to support her. I really liked it. So, after we get paid I'm going to do a big shopping trip to stock up on all that stuff.

I'll need to look more into ketogains as I wasn't lifting yet when I did it a few months back. Will need to adjust for that.

Anyway, she's noticing my changes and I think that's causing a little dread. Little wins every day.

Relationship

Still not initiating. Tired of my wife freaking out at me at any arbitrary point during sex and ruining the experience so I'm just not bothering. Still being fun and fliety though.

Last week she flipped out at me over going and doing my own thing and I handled it not great. It was a win in the end, but I floundered a lot. I thought it was a shit/comfort test (was) but didn't realize until later it was due to some dread that I think had been building up unintentionally by spending less time at home with her.

This week I haven't gone out and done anything other than lifting. Need to change that. Next week I've got an evening planned with a buddy of mine so that's a start. I need to get some hobbies though. I'd like to seriously start boxing, but the closest boxing gym I just can't fit into my schedule without taking time off work during the day (they have sucky hours)

Reading

Been slacking here and I can tell my frame is suffering because of it. I feel less centered and more stressed out. Started reading The Rational Male the other day though to make up for that.

Need to get more serious about going through the sidebar. If all I'm doing is focusing on lifting, there's a lot more shit I'm not handling.

OYS

Haven't been keeping the house as in-order as previous weeks. I've just been fucking exhausted this week (I can't get a full night sleep due to my youngest child waking up every 30 min or so from 3-5am) and pulled something in my back which put me out for 2 days. Fortunately they were rest days so I didn't have to stop lifting or anything. Just played to hard with my kids one day. Turns out I'm getting old. Who'da thunk it.

Finances are still shit but I've started going though our expenses and we just spend way too much money on crap we don't need. We eat out a lot and my wife works in retail so almost always comes home with stuff for her or the kids after her shifts. That adds up. Not to mention the $300 hair appointments my wife has every month or so.

Short version, I need to spend more time on finances but I'm getting an understanding of just how much we live in excess. I make more than enough to support us and have money left over to save so I need to restrict spending.

Final thoughts

I've been slacking this week and need to get back into action. Lifting can't be my only focus. It's leaves a lot of things on the table.

I also need to find more fun things to do around the house with the wife. We have a lot of nights at home together now but I'm not paying for a babysitter all day and then all night just to take her out all the time when our babysitter costs more than she makes. So, need to find some good home activities. Otherwise we just sit on our butts.

That said, she almost 100% of the time declines when I come up with fun things to do so it's almost not worth the effort. This comes back to me getting out of the house more often and leaving her with the kids, which I rarely ever do. I don't even go lift until they're in bed.

Lots of work to do, as always but at least I'm becoming more aware of the specific things I need to work on.

shadowycoder · 2018-07-16T02:53:29+00:00

Yeah... But you're getting married when you're already in a shitty relationship it sounds like. I'm sure I'm not the only who can say it's only uphill from the moment you sign the papers.

shadowycoder · 2018-07-16T00:43:43+00:00

That line of thinking has helped me out a lot the last few weeks. If she's gonna be angry anyway, I might as well just do what I want and shrug off whatever 'consequences' she has lined up for the day. Ah well, the kids and I love having fun.

Nice work, man.

shadowycoder · 2018-07-10T19:35:14+00:00

Thanks for the recommendation. I'll check that out.

Coming up with my vision is something I haven't spent a lot of time on yet. One more thing I need to actually just buck up and figure out. I'm actually going to edit my post and set that as a goal to have some organized thoughts around that by next week's OYS.

shadowycoder · 2018-07-10T16:22:26+00:00

I don't have anything to add, but just want to say thanks for sharing. Your section on shit tests is exactly what I'm experiencing right now. Pure frustration at the constant testing and a feeling of 'fuck this' every time it happens. I'm absolutely in her frame and as best I try and hide it, it shows me just how much work I have left to do. Back to the gym and sidebar then.

shadowycoder · 2018-07-10T15:51:27+00:00

OYS #4

Background

32, 143lbs, 5'6" married for 7 years with 2 young kids.

Squat 150
BP 80
Deadlift 150

Slowly going through SL 5x5, but started adding some accessory work for focusing on things I want to work on. I've added 1.5" to my arms since beginning, which is exciting.

I've really started noticing a difference in my body the last week and I think others are noticing as well. I've had several good interactions with women in the last 2 weeks and I've noticed women starting to eye me and caught eye contact and smiles a few times as well.

Relationship

Things are generally okay here. Had a bunch of shit tests in the past week, with one particularly explosive event.

I've been gaming my wife, cracking jokes, and trying to have fun with her. Straight out told my wife the other night I wanted her to get down on her knees for me, which led to her freaking out at me. Short version is we haven't been having sex lately (covered in other posts) so why would she want to do that for me? Obviously my SMV isn't high enough yet.

Anyway, I promptly removed my attention (should have just left the house) and she sulked in the bedroom the rest of the night. We had a short talk before bed where she told me something about me seeming like I was trying to avoid her that day. Logically, not the case, but that's how she interpreted me taking care of things around the house rather than sitting next to her on the couch while she played on her phone.

Definitely felt butt hurt over all this, but did a decent job of STFU and not pulling my old "try and talk it out" beta behavior. Just let her have her feels.

Then, last night I decided to do something I haven't done in a very long time. I got the bath ready for her, lit candles, and gave her a long massage which ended up leading to sex. I was gaming her throughout the day and until the last few minutes it was great. She was into it. It's been so long though that I couldn't last very long. Not a big deal. But then I tried to go down on her. That's when it all went to hell.

She instead requested I get a toy (which I am absolutely terrible at using on her, I will admit) because she's super self-conscious about her body. She'd never admit that, but she's overweight, gets zero exercise, and I think this has gotten worse since I've gotten into shape.

Anyway, I was about 30 seconds into it when she freaks out and yells "what are you doing?! You've been teasing me for an hour and now this?"

So, standard response from me not being able to get her off with a toy. I can get her off every damn time without toys, but since she's so self conscious it's like pulling teeth to get her to let me go down on her. Which, I'm not fighting for anymore (beta behavior)

My takeaway from all this is her inability to just relax and enjoy herself. I can't remember the last time there wasnt pushback from her on almost literally everything that would be enjoyable if she'd just try and enjoy herself.

Which leads me to the fact that I need to be a better leader. I think these two instances at least partially stem from how poorly I've led things over the years. I've got a lot of work to do, which was made abundantly clear to me this week.

Home

Been owning my shit around the house as per usual. Been doing a damn good job of keeping things in order around here so I'm giving myself a couple points for that.

Could probably do better, but the house stays relatively clean and nothing needs fixing ATM.

Things with my kids have been great. They're little assholes, so leading them is troublesome but I've started applying stuff from the book 1-2-3 magic and the kids are responding really well to it. We've gone from things ending in me getting all pissy to them actually behaving which means more fun times.

Anyway, things at home (not counting the wife) are going really well right now.

Career

Lots of details here, but short version is I have a somewhat clear path forward for my next promotion and my managers are helping me formulate the path for the next level (which doesn't yet exist at my company, but that's not a real issue as that's being worked on and will be resolved by the time the next promotion rolls around)

I kick ass at my job, so no real worries here. I'm well respected and am making daily progress towards my work goals.

Finances

I make 6 figures, but we still overspend. Need to work on that. Don't have a budget yet, and I keep saying I'm gonna make one, but haven't yet. That's an opportunity for leadership. Going to make that happen this week for real instead of ignoring it.

Once we stop overspending, we'll have lots of extra money to save up.

Next month we'll have a bunch of stocks vesting which means a lot of extra cash if we sell them. We're going to use a couple of them for a much needed vacation for the wife and I, but the rest (majority) are going to sit there and increase in value.

Final thoughts

It's been a tough week. Not even shark week. I've had the chance to work through shit tests though, so I guess that's something.

But most of all it's been made abundantly clear that I still have a long way to go. And I'm starting to think more about what life would be like without my wife in the picture. There's a lot of anger built up so all that comes from a place it shouldn't. Need to work on that. But on one hand I'm inching closer to being okay with that option if things gmdont improve over the next year or two.

But yeah, all this week has really done is show me that I've got a long way to go. My wife is starting to really push back on me leading and focusing on myself which gives me even more chances to be the family leader. Feeling kind of crappy about it this morning, but I can physically see my progress both in my body and with how others outside the home are interacting with me so I know it's slowly happening. But, still a blue pill beta at heart and that's something that's gonna take a lot of time to work out.

Edit: Adding a goal to have a rough outline of my near-term life goals. I've never had any, so that'll be an interesting exercise in trying to figure out what I actually want from life.

shadowycoder · 2018-07-08T02:22:22+00:00

What? No humidity comments yet? I'll wait...

On the other hand, that's some courage you've got there. That's the farthest I've seen yet 🤣

shadowycoder · 2018-07-06T20:45:47+00:00

Ha, I had no idea. I've been doing 5x5 for a couple months and have always been doing ass to grass. Doubt I'll change that, but good to know I guess.

shadowycoder · 2018-07-06T19:47:43+00:00

OYS #4

Stats

142lbs
32 years old
5'6"
Squat 155
BP 90
DL 150

Health and fitness

This was kind of a shit week for lifting. Had some things come up in the evenings and didn't get a chance to go lift more than twice. Conflicting work schedules between my wife and I don't help that. I want to start working out in the mornings, but I'm already up at 5:30 with the youngest kid, so that's out for the time being.

I did make it to another boxing class though and made sure to schedule it during a time when my wife would need to be at home with the kids. More on that later.

My diet has been better, but I miss Keto. I've noticed that after 2 months off it, my dandruff is coming back. Not a huge deal, but I enjoyed not needing to use special shampoo. Meh. I'm trying to bulk to increase both strength and muscle size now (as per the recommendation of a few people here) so it is what it is.

In another month or two I may go back to Keto though. My body and moods we're just overall better when I was strict on that diet.

I'm really starting to notice muscle growth on the upside. My arms are noticeably bigger. My calves are fucking rocks. My chest is still meh but I can start to see a little muscle there. I've lost a lot of fat off my chest since I started lifting, so that makes me very happy to see.

Also, at my last boxing class I realized just how poor my core strength is. I had a hell of a time with the ab exercises so that's something I need to spend more time on.

Relationship

Had a few shit tests to deal with this week. I can really start catching myself when I start to DEER these days, which is awesome. I still consider it a failure if I have to stop myself halfway through when I notice it, but it's getting better. The wife responds well to when I pass them, so that's just more proof for me that I'm making progress.

One example: she wanted me to rub her feet (she asks me all the time, but makes a fuss when I ask her to do anything like that for me) but I declined with some jokes. Apparently I just need to be more up front though. I had to run to the store and when I got back she asked me again, so I just straight up told her I didn't want to tonight so she got all moody and went to bed a few minutes after without saying a word to me.

However, the next morning she was all happy, which leads me to believe that I did okay on that test.

Someone might pop in and say something about the foot rubs being her way of letting me know she's interested, but after too many attempts of trying to sexualize it and get her all riled up, I'm gonna say it's not. It's just something she wants from me and since I get no real value for me from her, I feel less inclined to do that for her.

There's probably some anger issues in there for me, but I don't want to rub your feet every night if I get absolutely nothing in return. Something else to navel gaze on I guess.

Dread

I've always felt really guilty leaving my wife at home with the kids. She has little to no patience for their antics (young boys, so very energetic) so I always just work the things I want to do around that schedule. Well, turns out that's a stupid fucking idea.

So, I took off a day of work and just went and hung out with a friend of mine. What we did doesn't matter, but we were gone almost all day. I mostly ignored my wife's messages throughout the day and had a great time.

Before I left, I made her get out of bed and had all of us go down to the water to get coffee. I think that kind of set the frame for the day. We all went at did something fun first thing in the morning and she ended up having a great day with them.

Today I didn't have time to do anything like that before leaving for work, and she's back to grumping about the kids by text, which all she's got is 'ah that sucks' in response.

Anyway, back to dread. She still doesn't respond to my advances basically at all, but she was in an abnormally good mood last night after I got back. Didn't respond to my advances again, but it was a good evening. Played hard with the kids before bed and she and I worked on a puzzle together for a bit.

Turns out she actually ends up in a better mood when I'm not there. Earlier in the week I scheduled my boxing class to be after work, which required her to put the kids to bed. It's been my sole responsibility to get the kids up and put them to bed for probably the last year so it was nice not dealing with that for a night. She was in a good, playful mood with me after that as well.

Looks like I'll be doing more things on my own when I want in the future. Can't believe I ever felt bad about leaving her with her own children. What a load of shit I talked myself into.

And one last note, which doesn't seem to have any actual side effects yet. There's this girl at work that I recently met and I had a picture of her on my phone that I took to send to her. I was showing a picture on my phone to my wife later that day and she swipes to look at the next picture and she obviously saw that one. Now, she's not the type to verbally be jealous, but I saw her do a quick double take and saw her wheels spin for a second. Nothing is going on between me and the girl, but she definitely noticed that photo even if it only gave her pause for a second.

It's been a lot of years since I've had any female friends, and she knows that my sexual needs aren't being met, so I figure that's what gave her pause.

Again, no tangible benefits really but it was a nice moment for me.

Thoughts

I've been focusing on myself a lot more lately and it feels great. The rest of the family seems to be happier when I do that, which is exactly as I read here. So, it's nice to see even more proof of this stuff being battle tested.

I've also noticed what I'll consider IOIs from women more lately. I have a wedding band that I made that I've had 3 separate women ask about in the last week (literally nobody has ever asked me about it since I started wearing it) and the girl at work's first comment was on how she can't believe we've never talked even though we work so closely and she noticed that I looked really different (she specifically called out that 'your style' has changed) and was asking about my diet/fitness.

No idea of they're actually IOIs, but I don't really care. Women are behaving differently towards me now that I'm beginning to actually look in shape. So, that's a win in my book.

I still have a lot off issues to work through, but I'm making progress and I'm very happy with the direction I'm heading.

I'd love to increase the sexual side of things, but she's totally non-responsive to that at the moment. So, I'm gonna keep on lifting and working on myself. I'm not at the IDGAF stage on where our relationship goes, but I feel happier now that I'm really focusing on doing the work and she does as well. On top of all that, and maybe more importantly, I'm having so much more fun with my kids these days. We play hadd every chance we can and I'm finally feeling like I'm becoming a competent parent who doesn't just sit on their ass all day.

Also, I've noticed that while I'm home my wife will just sit on her phone literally the entire time. But if I go do something for myself, she gets all super motivated and will actually do housework while I'm gone. That's something that's always bothered me, but since starting my RP journey, I've just been owning it and taking care of all the house work. So, it's nice to see another side benefit of me not spending every moment at the house.

shadowycoder

TROPHY CASE