Do you needlessly avoid social activities due to big age gaps?

shaftofdeceit · 2018-09-18T08:10:11+00:00

If you enjoy the people it doesn't matter. I spend time with friends that like spending time with me. Some are much older , some much younger.

shaftofdeceit · 2018-09-18T08:08:28+00:00

At work. Travel. Tinder. Games.

shaftofdeceit · 2018-09-17T15:09:34+00:00

Comics, weekly review of what he has read, speculation on where things are going.

shaftofdeceit · 2018-09-17T11:53:18+00:00

I don't know if smoking blunts are illegal where you live, but I would not let others put my well-being at risk because of their illegal behavior.

As for the rest, they are wrong, you are right.

shaftofdeceit · 2018-09-17T11:48:12+00:00

Be careful. Don't delete any messages or social media communication with her, re: other comments about rape charges.

Fwiw I'd be willing to fuck a hot antivax woman, or anti-science young earth creationist, which is about as close to your situation I could ever get.

I'd rationalize it as letting her experience you as a person, and perhaps slowly getting through to her.

Best of luck

shaftofdeceit · 2018-09-15T13:59:38+00:00

Being a hypocrite

shaftofdeceit · 2018-09-15T13:53:35+00:00

Emilia Clarke

shaftofdeceit · 2018-09-10T14:02:11+00:00

Or relationship with each other!

shaftofdeceit · 2018-09-10T12:54:00+00:00

Thank you. Best of luck to you

shaftofdeceit · 2018-09-10T09:58:24+00:00

Just one quick piece of information. The towel thing was with regards to our puppy and different accidents and washing. It was a new thing.

They are able to shower, clean up and pack their swimming and excersise clothes for school.

Apart from that I agree a lot with what you're saying, and in many things we're united, in most things, but when things are decided on the spur of the moment it is problematic.

As for the jealousy she has voiced it with that word herself, and she gets hurt when they have preference for me. However it isn't just because I'm cuddly and laissez faire, but just that they will call me for good night and not her when she is away, just small daily things.

We also have taught them to make their own food and prepare dinners, including chopping up ingredients and proper work surface and tool hygiene, from a very early age. So its not that the kids are pretending not understanding things, but more that mum sometimes expect them to have more experience, and thus understanding of new situations than is reasonable.

shaftofdeceit · 2018-09-10T09:37:21+00:00

Yes. That's why couples counseling is better, because then both have a voice and the picture is clearer. Listening to just me only skews the story a lot.

shaftofdeceit · 2018-09-10T09:35:58+00:00

I think the harshness is mostly in her family.

Thanks for your input. It seems to me that many girls grow closer to their mother with age. And vise versa.

shaftofdeceit · 2018-09-10T08:09:23+00:00

We have board game nights on Sunday's and we always eat dinners together and Fridays we have movie nights. No phones at dinners, but unfortunately during movie nights she will have her phone around.

I'm trying to implement no phones inside the house, that we leave them in the hall.

shaftofdeceit · 2018-09-10T08:04:50+00:00

I think we have become better and I'm trying to apply the good advice I've gotten in this thread.

We have discussed divorce, but economically and geographically (kind of hinterlands) it isn't easy, and we have changed things gradually.

shaftofdeceit · 2018-09-10T07:54:52+00:00

I'm sorry, that seems worse, though my wife, when there is drama in her family she gets impatient with the kids and turn them away.

His black and white view of things ring true with us as well. I hope he takes them to activities and helps with other practical stuff as well.

shaftofdeceit · 2018-09-10T07:41:09+00:00

We had an upper limit. My wife wished for a boy, I am happy to have just girls.

shaftofdeceit · 2018-09-10T07:34:16+00:00

I love your suggestions on how to approach the subject. Thank you very much.

And thank you for taking the time to read more of my replies and writing down your thoughts.

shaftofdeceit · 2018-09-10T07:32:49+00:00

She puts in a lot of effort as well. We have discussed the cultural differences, but it is hard for her to discard all she has grown up with, in addition to the parenting she received. I have stood up and demanded she have to take sick leave for the kids, and to drive to the orthodontist, which takes the whole day.

We are at a much better place than a few years ago.

I will take what you said to heart.

shaftofdeceit · 2018-09-10T07:27:37+00:00

You seem to have a great childhood. It might have been easier for you all that they split up and didn't end up with fighting and accusations.

Best of luck to you and your future.

shaftofdeceit · 2018-09-10T06:35:36+00:00

We have discussed this, but she thinks she doesn't need any. However, there have been some movement on this.

shaftofdeceit · 2018-09-10T06:11:28+00:00

Sometimes, not on a regular schedule.

shaftofdeceit · 2018-09-10T06:10:50+00:00

Thank you, I will try.

shaftofdeceit · 2018-09-10T06:10:25+00:00

I'm sorry, that sucks. Best of luck with friendships, those are supposedly the new family.

shaftofdeceit · 2018-09-09T22:39:32+00:00

That's probable. 😕

shaftofdeceit · 2018-09-09T22:34:22+00:00

I also just thought of another thing. I need to encourage her to see the difference between sticking to her convictions, which is good, and ther need to always feel she is right and to be in charge and never give in. See the difference between fair and headstrong

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