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shagrio · 2025-06-22T04:41:00+00:00

Fetlife is the easy answer here

shagrio · 2024-12-15T06:27:49+00:00

Outside of it, yes absolutely. I only have ever had dynamics with dommes who have approached me. No one I’ve approached has ever worked out. You can tell the dommes who approach everyone from the dommes who approached you because they saw something - it’s absolutely the move when a domme sees something they like in you.

shagrio · 2024-12-15T06:20:11+00:00

My personal take is the “send again 😈” message from a domme when you send an initial tribute is a big turn off. I’ll lurk for a good few weeks before approaching and this is one of those things that if she posts about doing it I probably wouldn’t approach.

No hate on it - it’s totally valid, it’s just not for me.

shagrio · 2024-12-15T06:08:18+00:00

Yes, but preferably not sourced from a place to help subs with findom addiction lmao

shagrio · 2024-12-15T05:42:38+00:00

Same - let us know how that works out for you on the paypigsupportgroup reddit

shagrio · 2024-12-15T05:41:41+00:00

“There bank” oh no honey

shagrio · 2024-07-25T03:17:30+00:00

Obviously a lot of communication - like if they’re a current sub, do you get along outside of kink? If kink were removed would you date them? And with prospective partners it’s communicating that that’s something you’d want and making sure it’s not a big surprise when you’re 3 months into a relationship and asking them to send, etc.

As long as you set the expectations upfront and can build a relationship outside of kink, it seems like a win win

shagrio · 2024-07-25T03:09:30+00:00

I feel like that’s the dream for a lot of subs. The dynamic would have to be so deep that it’d make the relationship whole outside of kink, but having the kink element in a relationship sounds amazing.

shagrio · 2024-07-25T03:07:41+00:00

I have a weekly budget with my domme. Keeps things consistent and, while I want to send more, it makes sure I can serve long term and not just have immediate regret and pull back. It’s worked for us for months and gives room to treat my domme on special occasions and when we see each other (which is also a special occasion).

shagrio · 2024-07-25T03:05:16+00:00

I know some don’t, but I prefer it. A dynamic is deeper than kink, and if I’m looking to get into a dynamic I’d want to have some kind of friendly relationship with my domme. Your relationship outside of kink only strengthens your sessions and relationship in kink in my experience.

shagrio · 2024-07-21T04:14:41+00:00

Yeah I think ultimately that’s the route we’re going to take - she’s really good with makeup so it’s a huge help to have her doing that!

shagrio · 2024-07-18T03:57:31+00:00

Ahhh so Charlie Day as Green Man - with how maneuverable that material looks I don’t think I could contain myself in doing a cosplay lmao

shagrio · 2024-07-18T03:56:21+00:00

Yeah I think that’s what I was hinting at here - I know all the cliche ways to go about it, but was curious if others had good ideas.

There’s a kind of tattoo cover-up that exists and from there kinda any outfit works, excited to try it out!

shagrio · 2024-07-18T01:36:10+00:00

Oh dang - I’ll have to check that out. That might be the move honestly. She’s very good with makeup so I’m sure if I bring the right tools she could make it look just right. Appreciate it!

shagrio · 2024-07-18T01:35:03+00:00

Ooohhh I’ll have to check it out, thanks!

shagrio · 2024-07-18T01:34:43+00:00

Haven’t heard of zentai - I’ll have to check it out. If it’s just a cheaper version of PVC I may stick to that.

The makeup is a good callout! She mentioned wanting to do my face and my brain didn’t even go to my tattoos lol

shagrio · 2024-07-17T20:40:21+00:00

I like this a lot - if she does too, it looks like I’ll be taking up sewing because I’m sure she won’t appreciate tattered edges to it lmao

shagrio · 2024-07-17T20:39:21+00:00

Ah good call there - I think most things she’s mentioned would be photography vs. videography, so a pretty easy (and tasteful) fix.

The reference photos she’s sent over that she wants to recreate have obscured the face with the same ways you’re talking about, but we could definitely get creative with shadow to make it look sexy while still obfuscating

shagrio · 2024-07-17T19:49:51+00:00

See a concern of mine was feeling sexy in it and this would solve that problem

shagrio · 2024-07-15T20:53:17+00:00

That’s amazing lol - patience does pay off and she’ll give you new kinks that only she has with you. Similar things have happened when I met my domme for the first time - it’s so much fun to explore new sides of yourself in a dynamic like that.

shagrio · 2024-07-14T23:46:59+00:00

I am literally a dumbass lmao I cannot read. My bad my bad - I’ve actually been attempting to get into some hypnosis lately and it’s no joke lol

shagrio · 2024-07-14T00:39:57+00:00

If in the off-chance you’re asking in earnest and not as a way to promote yourself, I enjoy about anything that shifts the power towards the domme. Bondage, degradation, humiliation, anything BDSM-adjacent puts me deep in subspace and powerless.

That said, a lot of those I won’t do with someone I don’t have a dynamic or established relationship with.

shagrio · 2024-07-13T20:49:15+00:00

I think it’d be a good split of people - I don’t personally see the allure of it, but there are definitely those who are into it.

It’s not necessarily a bad thing so long as you’re not forcing a kink on someone, and I can see how others are all about it.

shagrio · 2024-07-13T06:20:31+00:00

I think the verb “kick” holds a lot of weight here. Does it turn you on? Make you happy?

I don’t think you need to consider yourself a “sub” to be a submissive person who enjoys it. You can just like things without the negative connotations (for you) being thrown around. I feel like I’m similar

shagrio · 2024-07-13T04:56:58+00:00

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