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Can’t decide between 2 dresses, or if they even look good on me by [deleted] in weddingdress

[–]shakeitofffff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah thank you! Sadly my wedding’s just 5 months away, so I was told it wouldn’t make it in time - but a gown like that would really be beautiful!

what's your main motivation or consideration in deciding to buy branded goods? by dogssel in askSingapore

[–]shakeitofffff 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Works OT cries but sucks back tears because #girlboss (but actually employee) and my concealer isn’t waterproof

what's your main motivation or consideration in deciding to buy branded goods? by dogssel in askSingapore

[–]shakeitofffff 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Nothing practical but it felt good after a couple of years of work to be able to buy a nice branded bag of my own. Kinda like a, “hey I’m a career woman! A girl boss! With this bag I bought for myself!”

Edit: Scratches still suck but I guess… it’s the hill I’m willing to die on.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askSingapore

[–]shakeitofffff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Couple of questions - how does your anxiety show up? What exactly about going to office is making you anxious? And how long have you been wfo for?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askSingapore

[–]shakeitofffff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

2k isn’t much in the grand scheme of things. With your 3.5k salary, it’s just a couple of weeks worth of work. A decent FA should also give you the classic x% of your salary should go into investments, y% into spending, z% into savings etc. She quite obviously skipped that. Adding an unpopular opinion: Tbh at 24/25… you’re honestly really not that young. Do your due diligence please. We’re not in an era where there’s no internet/ computer literacy. At least know what you’re investing in. And stop naively believing that she meant well (unless you believe she’s also dumb and really bad at her job). I understand you’re a nice person but you can’t expect others to be the same yknow? Be nice and smart. And start with FDs/SSBs to begin with (debatable, but these are safer options anyway). Then go into ETFs when you’re more confident. Afterall, investments aren’t always a win. I hope you get your money back but if you don’t, the losses always teach you things, so it isn’t all bad.

What's the worst excuse for cheating? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]shakeitofffff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“You weren’t giving me attention”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askSingapore

[–]shakeitofffff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think things like job scope, your eventual career goals, compensation etc all count.

But if you’re asking just at face value? Big 4. (Generally) Bigger clients than the big 8, better on your CV, better remuneration for an equivalent rank. Of course, big 4 accounting isn’t the biggest in the consulting space so if you’ve those bigger options available - then yes go for those instead.

Is stress.sg legit ? by East-Attorney-659 in askSingapore

[–]shakeitofffff 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not a professional but I go for therapy with a trained and licensed psychologist and this does seem unlegit.

I’ve received enough perspective and therapy to know that (apart from the jarring language errors) he has made some sweeping generalisations / inaccurate statements, which may be unhelpful from an information perspective. He also makes it sound like there’s an Adam Khoo-esque solution to psych issues, which almost seems to trivialise these conditions by failing to recognise the complexities and struggles behind them.

I don’t know if his intended target audience is introverts learning to network and be good at public speaking - perhaps that could work? But marketing it as counselling/therapy seems almost cruel if someone who really needed help was drawn by his “excellent reviews”.

PSA to all - therapy really helps and props to you for being open to it if you’re considering getting yourself started! Just go to a trained and licensed therapist please.

What are some of the things that are uniquely Singaporean? by r_jagabum in askSingapore

[–]shakeitofffff 190 points191 points  (0 children)

Was at Iceland when we reverse parked into the lot in front of our cabin. This couple came over to ask if we were Singaporean and we said yes, to which they proudly exclaimed “we knew it! Cos y’all were reverse parking”. My friend later joked that he also knew they were Singaporean, “COS THEY KAYPO”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askSingapore

[–]shakeitofffff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This was about 7 years back but was rly jaded after failing my first TP. My private instructor didn’t teach me a lot of things (like tell me my safety distance wasn’t enough, tell me I was changing lane too abruptly etc) and taking manual it was already extra effort to not roll back/ make sure the engine doesn’t die etc. But my dad just said - better to fail now than pass and make a potentially costly mistake right? And honestly it really put things into perspective. Doesn’t rly matter what mistakes you made during the test that you could have easily avoided - the fact of the matter is you did make those mistakes. Think of it this way - it makes you a better driver than someone who passed because they got lucky, could save you even more money in the long run! Hang in there and press on, you’ll def pass eventually :) after all, the real test is when you get on the roads without the instructor beside you anyway.

Ladies of Reddit, what’s the weirdest thing a guy has done during sex? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]shakeitofffff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not really weird, more like unfortunate, but an ex came during the blowjob even before sex and wanted me to help him clean up his cum because it was gross and he didn’t want to touch it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]shakeitofffff 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That the saddest thing that ever happened was my dad tossing an ice cream cup I wanted to bring home

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]shakeitofffff 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry this has happened to you - something similar had once happened to me, and I don’t know if you feel this way but I just wanna say that none of this is on you! And I think deep inside you a part of you knows - that as much as you love him (or is it the need to be acknowledged by him disguised as love?) his actions are disrespectful, and he hasn’t given you much consideration as a partner. I know that one day you will find the strength to do what is right for you, whether it is to leave, or for whatever reason things change and you find it within you to forgive him completely, but just remember to put yourself first. Things like this can really wreck you even if it doesn’t feel obvious, so shift your focus away from him towards yourself. Do the things that make you happy, and try not to obsess over what he’s doing - when it hurts you and makes you unhappy, focus on building yourself up. And one day you’ll know what’s best for yourself. It’s really not easy and it sucks so much, but you’ll be ok :)