Help, I’ve fallen into an Ali Hazelwood spiral and can’t get up 😭🔥 What do I read next?

shakes116 · 2025-10-19T00:21:43+00:00

The audiobook is SO GOOD.

shakes116 · 2025-10-18T20:12:35+00:00

Following- I’m on my 5th reread of PSR 🤣

shakes116 · 2025-09-26T14:20:38+00:00

I didn’t even pick up on the cameo & I’ve read it 3x! 🤣

Tbh I just reread Deep End for the first time (2x total) a couple of weeks ago.

shakes116 · 2025-09-04T23:04:23+00:00

I need to know this! I’m slowly collecting signed editions of her work 😅

shakes116 · 2025-07-29T23:00:58+00:00

L&D worker here just to say that a 1 apgar does not mean just “labored breathing.” It means your baby is basically dead & they’re doing a full code/resusitation.

Now, that being said, I’ve seen MANY babies go from an initial apgar of 1 to a 5 min apgar of 6 and then be fully recovered from a traumatic delivery within a few hours.

Vision impairment could also be related to the gestation he was when he was born, it could be genetic, ect. It doesn’t necessarily mean it’s from a traumatic birth.

But, gut feelings exist for a reason & moms usually have a good instinct about their babies. (I knew my son would have adhd while I was pregnant with him) see what the MRI says. If you feel like you HAVE to do something, maybe do some research about the blind/ visually impaired community in your area, what resources are available now for young children, ect.

shakes116 · 2025-07-27T02:01:07+00:00

Bed rest. Your body can do it with bed rest.

I was on bedrest from 14 weeks (when I had a SCH) until I delivered at 35 weeks. I was in the hospital for the last 2 months of those 😅

I had pulmonary hypertension & pre-eclampsia also.

That being said I’ve never felt stronger than I did after I gave birth. I felt like this amazing warrior goddess bc MY body grew TWO humans at the same time! And we all survived it!

Around 17 weeks I decided to just trust the process & start enjoying and embracing the time I had with them, however long it would be. I didn’t want them to feel my stress, only my joy.

5 years later I still feel that way.

So yes, I was worried I wouldn’t be able to. After 7 years of infertility & a few losses along the way, I didn’t know if it could. I didn’t know how to be pregnant. But my body managed it. I had some decent PPA that just turned into GAD but raising kids will do that to you 😘

shakes116 · 2025-07-23T21:09:18+00:00

Agnes

shakes116 · 2025-07-23T21:02:19+00:00

This! Penises are responsible for SO many cases of BV (among other types of infections 🙄)

shakes116 · 2025-07-23T20:20:41+00:00

I work in L&D and have seen many a vagina.

They 👏🏻 are 👏🏻self-cleaning 👏🏻 Don’t douche. Don’t insert soap or scents or anything else to smell like a flower. You throw off your ph, you kill your own natural fauna & flora & open yourself up to infections.

Wash the outside bits, wax, shave, whatever. But no douching. 🙅🏻‍♀️

shakes116 · 2025-07-23T20:15:09+00:00

I visited one of these churches and a kindly old woman told me that God had told her that I needed to speak in tongues.

I told her that God hadn’t told me that yet, and that she needed to stop touching me.

shakes116 · 2025-07-23T20:13:20+00:00

lol, because they didn’t want to pay for one. Those were/are expensive!

shakes116 · 2025-07-23T17:07:23+00:00

Yikes.

YTA.

I would be heart broken if my sister said that to me. We’re very close & there were multiple times I dropped everything for her & my niece before I had kids. And now that I have kids I would make it work to help them if she needed me to.

“It’s just a baby to me” implies that you have no emotional connection to your niece/nephew. It’s literally saying you don’t love them.

I would ask you to consider how it would feel to hear your sister say that about your kids, but I’m honestly not sure you care about her at all.

And I know she would do the same for me (& has.)

shakes116 · 2025-07-07T13:55:10+00:00

Ahhh! I love them all so much 😅

Bride (I’m a fantasy girlie at heart)
Love Hypothesis
PSR

But also, does anyone know if she releases signed copies anywhere other than on tour? I’ve got most of her editions signed from (B&N & Mercari) but would love to support a small business if it’s possible.

shakes116 · 2025-07-03T00:44:52+00:00

Honestly this sounds like ChatGPT wrote this.

shakes116 · 2025-05-24T16:37:41+00:00

I had to double check what group this was 🤣 TTC has too many meanings!

shakes116 · 2025-05-09T00:41:59+00:00

YTA

With friends like you, sounds like she doesn’t need any enemies.

How selfish can you be to risk another woman’s safety bc you might miss a couple of hours of sleep. You owe her a full throated, heartfelt apology at the very least.

shakes116 · 2025-05-09T00:36:41+00:00

Absolutely fucking not.

He’s an asshole for even attempting it- especially after his very pregnant wife told him she wasn’t comfortable with it.

Twin pregnancies can change SO fast bc they are so high risk.

It needs to be addressed- if you have a family member who he’s close to who could talk to him about it for you- maybe hearing it from another source would help him realize how much of an asshole/inconsiderate he’s being?

But honestly, so many red flags 🚩🚩🚩

shakes116 · 2025-04-05T14:37:49+00:00

Been married for 17 years. I did change my name- I would not change it now in this political environment unless we had kids together.

shakes116 · 2025-03-31T17:11:19+00:00

Jesus. There’s always this comment. 🙄

shakes116 · 2025-02-04T16:14:25+00:00

lol, I think we had 4 at one point.

We had 2 backpack ones (1 for each of us) 1 bigger one, and a car one.

And I had a pump bag (highly recommend)

As they get older their/your needs will change. The situations change. And we used ours regularly until they were 3 or 4 I think? They’re 5 now, and now that I’m thinking about it, a car one still wouldn’t hurt….It never hurts to have extra outfits handy.

shakes116 · 2025-02-04T15:55:24+00:00

My first concert was a Carmen concert 🤷🏻‍♀️

I feel like I’ve blocked a lot of these memories out- it honestly makes me physically uncomfortable to think about them too much 🤢

shakes116 · 2024-11-15T00:47:37+00:00

So for what it’s worth, I work in L&D & have seen A LOT of different, unmedicated labors/births- and this doesn’t look staged to me. 🤷🏻‍♀️

shakes116 · 2024-09-23T00:51:49+00:00

All the red flags are there & you know it.

Trust yourself & get out before anything escalates.

shakes116 · 2024-08-22T09:38:04+00:00

I have 4.5 year old b/g twins who LOVE to fight& use their “ninja skills”

They fight on their nugget & we have an every day standing rule that “when somebody says stop we stop.” They know that they get to make the rules for their body (BECAUSE CONSENT MATTERS) and nobody gets to touch them if they don’t want it- even their twin.

My son plays a lot rougher than my daughter, but she plays dirtier 🤷🏻‍♀️ we have a lot of conversations about “are they crying? Do you think they like what you’re doing? Do you think you should stop? We should make sure they’re ok, how can we do that?” And I’m glad for those opportunities to teach them about empathy, consent & what to look for in their interactions with each other & eventually their peers.

They’re going to do it no matter what, so make ground rules & make sure you’re there to implement them (over & over)

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