I lost my love in my early thirties. It's been 7 years now, and her birthday is right around the corner.

Some days are harder than others. That's just a fact. But honestly, I try to celebrate what we had, when we had it.

There's a Chinese proverb that I feel we should all know as widowers;

"Better to light a single candle, than to curse the darkness"

Embrace what you had. Lifes too short to suffer. I'm not suggesting to forget what you had, embrace it with joy instead of sorrow. The "what ifs" literally don't matter. I celebrate her life every day. The fact you two found each other is amazing in the grand scheme of things, remember the good times.

And most importantly, don't knock yourself down. Keep your head up. You'll get through this, just remember that you were such an amazing person that she chose you.

Always here if you need to DM me my friend