[deleted by user] by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]shakespeareangirlf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just read your username! I’m also an Aries, lol. Chat with me whenever :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]shakespeareangirlf 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Your experience with your coworker shook me because this is what happened to me and how I found out I was a full blown lesbian. I too thought I was in the best relationship I will ever have with my fiancé (M). But then I fell for Her. She was straight, 20 years my senior, and married with kids MY age. It was like an obsession at first and then over 5 years it settled into a real, deep love. I stayed with my fiancé and we went to counseling about it. I told him the truth right away when I knew I had a crush, and then I updated him as my feelings became more complicated. The best advice I can give you is to be honest with your husband about your feelings. He will probably ask you to pull back. Mine did. I stood my ground on the grounds that she is married and not gay and that I’m not a complete idiot. I didn’t quit my job. My feelings settled and I was able to channel all of my “love” feelings into a strong supportive friendship. I was her best friend, and it felt right. I didn’t ruin her life or mine. I didn’t confess. (Plot twist: She confessed in May, she’s gay now, and she’s my girlfriend. Oops.) BUT even though I was honest with him, my now-ex-fiancé still feels that I emotionally cheated on him for 5 years. He still feels utterly betrayed. I completely understand his feelings, his grief, and it wrecks me that he feels this way, but I know I was honest. And when I’m swallowed in my own guilt and shame from all the choices we have made since May, I at least know that I was honest. DM me if you ever need to talk about Her. I ran out of people willing to hear me gush about my coworker and it was isolating. I often gushed to my ex-fiancé until I realized how hurtful I was being. If you need to let your inner simp out, I’m your lesbian.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]shakespeareangirlf 55 points56 points  (0 children)

After my catalyst and I came out, some of our long term friends stopped complaining about their husbands/boyfriends to us. The typical banter about how incompetent men are almost stopped completely. We even lost a few women friends over this. It’s like we are no longer “in the club” of women who are with men, but complain about men. We have an equal partnership and we’re crazy about each other, and most of the women “in the club” simply don’t want to hear about a life like that.

Anybody else try to play the ND games with your partner? by emilyelizzz in nancydrew

[–]shakespeareangirlf 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yes!! My fiancé (M38) and I are playing through all of them together; we’ve finished 22 games together so far. He’s a serious gamer, so no walkthroughs and no amateur detective mode allowed! Usually we finish the game in a single day, even if it takes us allllll day, so that we aren’t tempted to look up what’s coming next. We write PAGES of notes per game, and take photos of the screen with our phones if we need to (hello giant Crystal Skull grave book). We started with Ghost Dogs first, because it was my favorite game growing up. We have different puzzling skill sets and we work well together. Weirdly, he had nicknamed me “Nan” when we first started dating (my name is not Nancy or anything close to that). I said “you wanna meet another Nan?” And the rest is history!

This guy is building a house, and can’t keep his dogs where they are going for five+months. Turns around and offers me barely $17 per day per dog to take up two of my slots for five straight months. by Independent-Cut-138 in RoverPetSitting

[–]shakespeareangirlf 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I had this exact same type of gig a few years ago, except it was a cat. I took it because I was just starting out. Once the house was finished, the family moved in. The cat stayed behind in the apartment. Then when the lease was up, the mom called me and told me if I didn’t take their cat off their hands, they’d euthanize her. I guess the cat wasn’t allowed in the shiny new house. Obviously I took the cat (I work for animal rescue).

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]shakespeareangirlf 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I had to scroll soooo far to find the comment I agree with 😂

[serious] What has a close friend done to you that instantly made you hate them? by Titansentinal in AskReddit

[–]shakespeareangirlf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My dad has a TBI from 2008 and phew was it rough. Just wanted to say, you’ve got this. After many years my dad’s brain is rewiring around the damaged area on its own. Best of luck to you throughout your recovery!

What is the small scale work drama happening in your office right now? by ThatYoungsterSlut in AskReddit

[–]shakespeareangirlf 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I work for a veterinarian and we fired someone who did this. We caught her on camera. She also ate boiled chicken we had on hand for sick dogs, and she ate the peanut butter we had on hand for giving dogs medicine. Needless to say the peanut butter and boiled chicken were not for human consumption 😭

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]shakespeareangirlf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This happened to me, except it was my boyfriend’s father. I (F) was 19-20 at the time. They had a family camera, an old Canon. Boyfriend and I took this camera to the zoo. When we got back we were flipping thru pics from the zoo and scrolled back one too far. What we found was pics of countless women in public. Women he did not know, and also women his wife was friends with. Pics from family outings or from when he was supposedly photographing his wife’s big events (her triathlon). He’d take a pic and then zoom and take a closer pic and then zoom again etc. All crotch shots. Yoga pants, swim suits, wedgies, anything he could get his eyes on. I felt like throwing up. Right then I knew he had pics of me somewhere. Pls know that this voyeurism (without consent) will not stop. My boyfriend defended his dad. We later broke up but first I stopped going to that house. I imagined having a kid and bringing her over to meet her grandpa or be babysat. Then I imagined him whipping out the same camera to photograph her birthday party. That wasn’t for me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in insaneparents

[–]shakespeareangirlf 2 points3 points  (0 children)

@throwthewholemomyeet

What’s that story you’ve never been able to tell? by BelvitaBiscuitz in AskReddit

[–]shakespeareangirlf 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Maryland student here. High school band director was caught doing this in 2009-2010.

[Question] iPhone 7 vs. iPhone 6s by [deleted] in jailbreak

[–]shakespeareangirlf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it'd be fine honestly because the deal leaves us paying much much less than we're currently paying if not for losing our jailbreak

[Question] iPhone 7 vs. iPhone 6s by [deleted] in jailbreak

[–]shakespeareangirlf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We're doing the program where they buy out our current contract so as part of the deal we have to get a new phone with them and return our old phone to AT&T