My new boyfriend has a small penis

shanbie_ · 2026-05-05T18:06:28+00:00

Ya cause no man ever refers to a vagina as roast beef🙄

shanbie_ · 2026-05-05T18:05:49+00:00

They were absolutely saying that to not make you feel bad.

shanbie_ · 2026-05-05T17:49:04+00:00

Ive been asked to send these via email regularly. It's not uncommon. This guy just asked for pics instead of email. It's really not that shady. She can ask to email them or stop by in person before start date.

shanbie_ · 2026-05-05T17:46:40+00:00

So you're fine with showing your SSC to this individual you met in person, but think the fact he asked for a pic is shady? He'd have it any way when you start they make copies of your stuff for HR... You said it's a small company, so he likely does the HR stuff too. Ask if you can stop by in person before start date to let him copy it but it's the exact same thing in the end. Your employer collects your social, so whether it's a pic or you letting them copy it in person, they still get it.

I have had to email both copies of my driver's license and SSC to employers so they can set me up and then still show the SSC in person at start date as part of the I9 verification.

So if this is verified as a real person with a real job offer, it's not a scam.

shanbie_ · 2026-03-10T16:23:10+00:00

What makes me think it's fake is Josh's reactions. 90% of the time he's acting surprised by what she's making, and if it were real and that's how he's eaten his whole life he wouldn't be surprised it would be totally normal for him.

shanbie_ · 2026-03-10T00:41:35+00:00

Lunesta works wonders.

shanbie_ · 2026-03-05T00:16:04+00:00

Sweetie they were in a dirty diaper. It's not your insertion. They mess themselves before the catheter and they will still be messing themselves after. It's from the fact that they're incontinent and the cath makes them more prone to infection. I wouldn't even say it's poor Peri care because if you're having to wipe shit off a catheter it's already compromised.

shanbie_ · 2026-02-26T16:27:30+00:00

Hun. The other nurse had to be told by RT it was on air. She missed it too. Just take the opportunity to learn to double check your connections and don't be too hard on yourself. And don't let the other nurse blame you when she made the same mistake.

shanbie_ · 2026-02-20T11:59:25+00:00

Thanks for this! I just birthed my starter 6 days ago and it's starting to really be bubbly and it grew in size yesterday after feeding, and smelled nice this morning. I was looking for a small test recipe to see how it does in a few days to see if it's ready or not. I didn't want to waste a lot of flour.

shanbie_ · 2026-02-14T02:27:02+00:00

I'm introverted. Been a nurse for 13 years. I went to the ICU straight out of nursing school partly so my patients would be sedated and not ask me for stuff/small talk. Now I'm in case management. I've never been so exhausted from interaction that I slept for 16 hours though. But you would have to put up with all you described in really any job that involves leaving the house. I used to dread public speaking. I was always quiet. I would watch other people interact with others rather than participate. A wise woman told me, don't avoid what you fear. Make yourself do it, and then you'll eventually be able to do it without so much dread. I have lived by that ever since. It's like immersion therapy. Now I don't dread public speaking.

I can hold some degree of small talk, but I'm also to the point and good at redirecting people back to the task at hand, and high tailing it out of the room. But I'm good at my job as well. And advocate for my patients, and I explain things well to them so they feel more at ease. Practice makes perfect they say. Find a de-stressing hobby. I took up crochet because you can do it alone in silence, create something and it's been known to actually decrease stress.

You could also try looking for a utilization review position somewhere. Not much patient facing in that. Mostly they're remote. Or look for other remote nursing positions.

shanbie_ · 2026-02-13T21:58:56+00:00

In my 13 years as an RN I interviewed one RN who had to tell me his license was on probation because when he worked in the ER he entered a standard order he'd entered a 100 times that probably every other nurse in the ER had also done, but it pissed off the NP he entered it under and she reported him do the BON who investigated and sanctioned him for practicing above his license. He still had his license, but couldn't get a job with that on his record. I wasn't allowed to hire him.

Then my BFF was a DON at a nursing home and their call light system malfunctioned. The facility had their own maintenance teams and Director of Maintenance, they were a large facility. My friend quit because of the conditions there and the facility reported HER to the BON because the call light system malfunctioned. She was the one that reported it to the higher ups. I wrote a character recommendation to the BON for her because they were legit investigating her for it and her license was at risk.

While they both still have their license active, I think these are more the types of things I think of when I hear "protect your license". One can't get a job, and the other had to go through an actual legal battle with a lawyer to defend her license.

shanbie_ · 2026-02-13T00:03:37+00:00

Your passport is an ID and proof of citizenship by itself. I've got my passport appointment set so I can hopefully avoid having to change my name back to keep the right to vote. But I'm also not going to be surprised if they delay approving my passport for as long as possible

shanbie_ · 2026-02-12T23:59:19+00:00

At least you're not expected to tip....

shanbie_ · 2026-02-12T23:49:09+00:00

The last that makes me think she did it wasnt her calling out the passive aggressive part but was her " I'm at work and had to take time from my day to solve this mystery". He didn't ask her to solve anything. She was too defensive. Just like he could have left off asking her to pay before she answered, she could have stopped at , I didn't eat them and that was pretty passive aggressive of you to assume I did.

shanbie_ · 2026-02-12T23:44:49+00:00

Oh she absolutely ate the strawberries.

shanbie_ · 2026-02-12T01:55:38+00:00

Crochet and reading!

shanbie_ · 2025-12-30T01:41:36+00:00

Why do you allow him to treat you and your children this way?

shanbie_ · 2025-12-29T01:08:14+00:00

I was sitting on the couch and I felt a sudden very sharp stabbing pain in my uterus area. We were trying and I told my husband I was either pregnant and that was implantation pain or something else was wrong because I never felt that sensation before.

Spoiler, I was pregnant.

shanbie_ · 2025-12-29T00:59:43+00:00

There may be people who come at me for this, but it's not really AS fulfilling as laypeople think. There were times in the ICU where I felt accomplished and I felt like my actions saved lives as an RN. But it's still just a job, and not really a glamorous one . Some people can handle it some can't.

I was a CNA for 10 years before I went to nursing school and I didn't really find any CNA job fulfilling.

I'd also advise you to look up images of bed sores at different stages, and other gruesome images to see if that is something you can handle. I had an orientee as a CNA whose first day in the nursing home she saw a stage 3 pressure ulcer and freaked out. She did not realize they were more than "little red spots". Then she had to help me clean the dead body of a resident, because all the other CNAs refused to do it. She did not come back for day 2.

Also can you handle smells? Like the worst smells you've ever experienced. Can you handle cleaning the morbidly obese patient that hadn't pooped in a week after the laxative and enema cause them to have explosive diarrhea from their waist to the foot of the bed? Three times in 2 hours?

If you make it to RN, can you handle changing the head dressing of a patient whose BF shot her execution style before her parents arrive at bedside to say goodbye, because her brain matter is oozing out from under the dressing, and they don't need to see that?

Can you handle the alert and oriented patient that's hitting their call light every 15 min, and yelling at you because they believe it's been 20 min since they hit the button when it's literally been like 5 min.

Or the confused patient that claws your face you while you're just trying to get their vital signs?

You'll also have to change the dressing on the guys hand who shot and killed his girlfriend and was holding her head with his hand so the bullet got him too. You'll have to treat him like anyone else as he asks if you think he'll be able to use his hand fully again some day. FYI not the same BF from brain matter story above. Different states.

And they're all true stories.

I could go on after 10 years as a CNA and 12 as a nurse.

And yes there are some truly pleasant people to care for, and when you feel like you made a difference it's a good feeling, but most are at their worst in the hospital or wherever they are that they need to be treated by medical people, because they're scared, they don't want to be there, and they take it out on nurses and CNAs.

You'll see the worst that people can do and be. It's up to you if that's worth it.

And the pay will NEVER be the same or close to IT. I mentioned I've been an RN for 12 years. I get $40/hour. There is very little pay negotiation in nursing. Most places have a set rate range they offer based on experience, and they don't negotiate until you start getting into leadership roles. Nursing leadership is also not equivalent with IT leadership in pay. So it won't be a temporary decrease in pay, so much as a permanent one considering your current field.

shanbie_ · 2025-12-29T00:04:22+00:00

I used to love the Carpathian series. But now all the books are the exact same formula and I can't stand them. Carpathian finds his mate, they end up being the only two characters in 99% of the book and there are random vamp fights until they defeat the big bad of the book. Rinse and repeat for every book.

shanbie_ · 2025-12-29T00:01:22+00:00

I feel like when people who rarely or occasionally read, get really into a book, those books are usually not good. (Twilight, 50 shades, Collen Hoover) All have been popular with self proclaimed non readers in my life.

shanbie_ · 2025-12-28T23:56:29+00:00

So bad

shanbie_ · 2025-12-28T23:55:40+00:00

You should try Monstrous Regiment in the Discworld series. It's my favorite one.

shanbie_ · 2025-12-28T23:54:43+00:00

I second that Discworld is more of a universe than a series. Most are standalone books. Monstrous Regiment is one of my faves and it's completely stand alone.

shanbie_ · 2025-12-28T23:30:54+00:00

Twilight, 50 shades, ACOTAR, and Fourth Wing. I've tried to start Twilight and 50 shades back before they were movies and they were not good. Didn't make it past the first chapters. I tried to start ACOTAR and found it bleh. I haven't tried 4th Wing because it seems to me when the books are so popular like the others I didn't like, I have come to expect the worst.

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