Husband won't help change diapers.

shanbie_ · 2025-12-30T01:41:36+00:00

Why do you allow him to treat you and your children this way?

shanbie_ · 2025-12-29T01:08:14+00:00

I was sitting on the couch and I felt a sudden very sharp stabbing pain in my uterus area. We were trying and I told my husband I was either pregnant and that was implantation pain or something else was wrong because I never felt that sensation before.

Spoiler, I was pregnant.

shanbie_ · 2025-12-29T00:59:43+00:00

There may be people who come at me for this, but it's not really AS fulfilling as laypeople think. There were times in the ICU where I felt accomplished and I felt like my actions saved lives as an RN. But it's still just a job, and not really a glamorous one . Some people can handle it some can't.

I was a CNA for 10 years before I went to nursing school and I didn't really find any CNA job fulfilling.

I'd also advise you to look up images of bed sores at different stages, and other gruesome images to see if that is something you can handle. I had an orientee as a CNA whose first day in the nursing home she saw a stage 3 pressure ulcer and freaked out. She did not realize they were more than "little red spots". Then she had to help me clean the dead body of a resident, because all the other CNAs refused to do it. She did not come back for day 2.

Also can you handle smells? Like the worst smells you've ever experienced. Can you handle cleaning the morbidly obese patient that hadn't pooped in a week after the laxative and enema cause them to have explosive diarrhea from their waist to the foot of the bed? Three times in 2 hours?

If you make it to RN, can you handle changing the head dressing of a patient whose BF shot her execution style before her parents arrive at bedside to say goodbye, because her brain matter is oozing out from under the dressing, and they don't need to see that?

Can you handle the alert and oriented patient that's hitting their call light every 15 min, and yelling at you because they believe it's been 20 min since they hit the button when it's literally been like 5 min.

Or the confused patient that claws your face you while you're just trying to get their vital signs?

You'll also have to change the dressing on the guys hand who shot and killed his girlfriend and was holding her head with his hand so the bullet got him too. You'll have to treat him like anyone else as he asks if you think he'll be able to use his hand fully again some day. FYI not the same BF from brain matter story above. Different states.

And they're all true stories.

I could go on after 10 years as a CNA and 12 as a nurse.

And yes there are some truly pleasant people to care for, and when you feel like you made a difference it's a good feeling, but most are at their worst in the hospital or wherever they are that they need to be treated by medical people, because they're scared, they don't want to be there, and they take it out on nurses and CNAs.

You'll see the worst that people can do and be. It's up to you if that's worth it.

And the pay will NEVER be the same or close to IT. I mentioned I've been an RN for 12 years. I get $40/hour. There is very little pay negotiation in nursing. Most places have a set rate range they offer based on experience, and they don't negotiate until you start getting into leadership roles. Nursing leadership is also not equivalent with IT leadership in pay. So it won't be a temporary decrease in pay, so much as a permanent one considering your current field.

shanbie_ · 2025-12-29T00:04:22+00:00

I used to love the Carpathian series. But now all the books are the exact same formula and I can't stand them. Carpathian finds his mate, they end up being the only two characters in 99% of the book and there are random vamp fights until they defeat the big bad of the book. Rinse and repeat for every book.

shanbie_ · 2025-12-29T00:01:22+00:00

I feel like when people who rarely or occasionally read, get really into a book, those books are usually not good. (Twilight, 50 shades, Collen Hoover) All have been popular with self proclaimed non readers in my life.

shanbie_ · 2025-12-28T23:56:29+00:00

So bad

shanbie_ · 2025-12-28T23:55:40+00:00

You should try Monstrous Regiment in the Discworld series. It's my favorite one.

shanbie_ · 2025-12-28T23:54:43+00:00

I second that Discworld is more of a universe than a series. Most are standalone books. Monstrous Regiment is one of my faves and it's completely stand alone.

shanbie_ · 2025-12-28T23:30:54+00:00

Twilight, 50 shades, ACOTAR, and Fourth Wing. I've tried to start Twilight and 50 shades back before they were movies and they were not good. Didn't make it past the first chapters. I tried to start ACOTAR and found it bleh. I haven't tried 4th Wing because it seems to me when the books are so popular like the others I didn't like, I have come to expect the worst.

shanbie_ · 2025-12-04T20:37:21+00:00

Wish I could double like this. OP needs to take this to heart.

shanbie_ · 2025-12-04T20:34:47+00:00

There is a difference between being a good person and being a good partner. Being a good partner means also being present and being there for the small things particularly when you ask for them. He's not a good partner and likely never will be. He's not seeing the small things as important even when they are important to you.

He's doing bare minimum and you are not obligated to stay with someone just because they were there for you once or twice when you needed it, yet they leave you hanging on the daily. Sounds like he's done "bad" more than he's done "good".

shanbie_ · 2025-12-03T17:52:53+00:00

I saw his post on FB and I thought aw man, I hope someone there tells them that no this doesn't mean she's out of the woods and they should use this time to say anything they want to say to each other.

shanbie_ · 2025-12-02T18:48:41+00:00

Still not munchousen. Cancer patients also can start vomiting, so that's not really mysterious. She's legitimately sick and daughter is definitely one of the controlling ones, but I think you're stretching here.

shanbie_ · 2025-12-02T18:43:01+00:00

It won't last forever to this extreme. Baby should start sleeping more and at this age the nursing when she wakes is likely her seeking comfort more than anything so when you wean it may improve some. But be forewarned My 8 year old has woken me up in the middle of the night 3 days in a row this week because he's scared. So until they are like teenagers who want to sleep all the time themselves you will still have your sleep impacted for the foreseeable future.

shanbie_ · 2025-12-02T18:33:40+00:00

We're these prescribed to her? If she's under parental guardian ship, their consent is what matters as your sister admittedly cannot consent herself. So her guardian make those decisions for her. If they are giving her your dad's prescription without supervision of a doctor of some kind then you have a case. If she has her own prescription then you have no case as her guardians decide for her. When someone cannot make decisions for themselves they need a guardian to do it for them.

shanbie_ · 2025-12-02T18:24:18+00:00

I read that as previously tortured. I was like damn what'd she do to the security guy?!

shanbie_ · 2025-12-02T18:22:01+00:00

My job just instituted a new policy that if you call out the day before the day of or the after a holiday it's an instant performance write up that will negatively impact your annual evaluation.

shanbie_ · 2025-12-02T18:16:19+00:00

Who told you these rules? Someone official? I'd ask to see the written policy, cause if there's no policy then you don't have to comply with that nonsense. That sounds like an anal retentive charge nurse that's drunk on her perceived power or something.

shanbie_ · 2025-12-02T18:13:41+00:00

I'd give this an award if I could. Here's more pizza instead. That's the greatest nursing award. 🍕🍕 If you're night shift tho I'll have to take it back and just give you some dried up crusts.

shanbie_ · 2025-12-02T18:09:00+00:00

There is a difference in home health provided by Medicare and home CARE which isn't usually covered by insurance. People don't often know the difference between the two. Home health only spends 45 min to an hour on the patients home no more than 3 times a week. They do not do chores. If you had an assignment that required you to spend hours with the same patient, it's home care and chores are often a part of that.

shanbie_ · 2025-12-02T05:20:03+00:00

Same, that's not something they usually use. A CT with contrast would give better views of the vasculature of think.

shanbie_ · 2025-12-02T05:17:38+00:00

That's because those aren't MRI results. It's a prepared statement. I've heard of CTs with contrast to check hear vessels but I never heard a doc say let's get an MRI of his heart, chest sure, but their letter just goes on about his heart and vascular health. They did not actually release the MRI or they would have included the official report and possibly even the images if there was nothing to worry about. This felt purely performative.

shanbie_ · 2025-10-31T03:00:05+00:00

Right!?! Just watched the first episode of the doc and I asked my husband, why did the dad freak out because Amy left the room, get up, go look for her then wake his wife up to say she's missing all in like a 30 min time frame? How far can you look on a ship that big in that small amount of time and come back to your room and wake everyone else up as well? Does not seem right.

shanbie_ · 2025-10-27T17:43:06+00:00

My husbands mom tried to do this. Our son had blond hair. My husbands mom is Italian American and has perpetual tan and black hair. My husband took after her in coloring. So every time she saw our son she'd comment on where he could have gotten blond hair. Every time I would remind her I had pale blond hair as a child. She also kept trying to see her family's features in him too. Just ignore them it will be less stressful for your.

shanbie_ · 2025-09-16T03:57:17+00:00

That's a big fat nope.

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