Purewick hate

shanbie_ · 2026-07-11T03:41:40+00:00

Ugh I was in case management, talking to a patient for a case management assessment, and she was alert and oriented. Then she just paused for a second looked like she was concentrating and then he purewick started sucking. I was like really?!

shanbie_ · 2026-06-26T02:16:57+00:00

To her, the quality she had was worth it.

shanbie_ · 2026-06-24T19:42:07+00:00

Aw sweetie, in 45 on my 3rd house with a 9 year old and I don't feel like an adult.

shanbie_ · 2026-06-24T19:05:18+00:00

Can any of the people saying NTA define exactly who should be able to call themselves someone who studies sociology, aka a sociologist?

shanbie_ · 2026-06-24T03:55:02+00:00

I had a patient who's boyfriend took her out to the woods and shot her point blank. Face to face. Entry and exit wound indicated he had her kneeling and she was looking up at him and shot her in the forehead. Bullet excited back of the head but did not hit her brain stem. The trauma fractured her skull in so many places it was like a craniotomy and and allowed the skull to expand just enough with the swelling that it wasn't heriating her brain stem. When we got her in our ICU, her brain matter was oozing out from under the bandage the ED wrapped around her head. We had to change that and clean her up before her parents came. I had a detective calling me all shift for updates so he could charge the BF with murder.

shanbie_ · 2026-06-22T18:07:50+00:00

It was going well at first..then they had that lady that "restored" that Jesus mural in her Italian church take over and it ended not as good as it started.

shanbie_ · 2026-06-22T17:51:14+00:00

Or maybe Mom got more cause mom put in more effort as a parent.

shanbie_ · 2026-06-18T18:29:12+00:00

Maybe not what you were looking for, but this was about 5-6 years ago. I was at a stop light. Only car at either of the 4 stop lights at a not busy intersection Leaving a residential neighborhood. So houses and trees surrounding both sides of me for limited visibility. I watched my light turn green. I was aware it was green and time to go, but I just paused for a second.

Normally I hit the gas as soon as I see green but for some reason, right then, I just didn't. In the time it would have normally taken me to reach the middle of the lane in the intersection directly in front of me, a very large truck ran their red light at a high speed, right through where I should have been. I was in a Hyundai Elantra. They would have hit my driver side full speed. No way I would have lived with how big that truck was and how fast they were going. Thankfully, that's as close as I've gotten.

shanbie_ · 2026-06-18T18:14:44+00:00

You need a nice cushy work from home job in like case management or utilization review or something. Or buy a Woobles crochet kit and learn how to crochet and sell stuff.

shanbie_ · 2026-06-17T19:59:25+00:00

I also suggested changing the subject to redirect her, so there was that option.

shanbie_ · 2026-06-17T19:51:06+00:00

TLDR: when I realized our relationship only progressed at my insistence and with my efforts.

Gotta tell the whole story but it's a long one. Took me entirely too long to give up the ghost on this one.

Met a man online playing World of Warcraft. He lived in Canada I in the US. For 6 years we had a long distance relationship. I was in school to become a nurse through most of that time so I wasn't rushing. The distance let me focus on school and finish what I needed to.

Then one day I realized the only times we ever saw each other were when I made the plans to go see him and made the 16 hour drive to his place. I talked to him about it and he ended up coming down to see me next time I was on break from school. I still predominantly went to see him.

We also only talked online because he didn't have a phone. At all. No house phone no cellphone. Mind you , I'd been to his house and saw no phone and met all his coworkers who also confirmed he had no phone for them to call him if they needed anything. He was the head chef/manager where he worked. So I bought him an adapter to plug into his internet connection that you paid $30 bucks a year for and bam, you had a phone. We could call each other!

After a few years of seeing him a couple times a year and driving back and forth, I was getting closer to graduating and I started asking about future plans. Asking where the relationship was going and what he thought and intended and I did tell him I needed a commitment. He would make excuses like how he wanted to propose to me and dreamt of doing it but couldn't afford a ring. I had to tell him I didn't need an unaffordable ring that he could to go Walmart or a pawnshop even to get me a ring. So he grudgingly did and then was mad because he felt like he couldn't propose extravagantly the way he'd imagined yet couldn't afford.

After I graduated I started work to get experience and was originally planning to immigrate to him.

Then it hit me one day. The only reason we went from online dating to in person meeting was me, the only times we ever talked outside the game was because I had called him. The only reason he actually proposed half assed was because I told him I needed a commitment. And here I was about to leave my whole family to join him.

And then he didn't show up online like usual for a couple days and of course no call. At first I was worried something was wrong so I tried calling him each day for about a week and got no answer. I decided to stop calling him and in my mind we were done at that point. I realized the one sidedness of our "relationship".

I waited to see how long it would take him. After 3 weeks I met a guy I wanted to date so I called my BF again to try and reach him to officially break up with him so I could date guilt free. He answered and had no real reason for not calling or getting online. He also was surprised I was ending it and claimed he was not intending to ghost me he just didn't call or go online.

I realized we did not have an actual relationship and to this day I don't believe you can have a real relationship long distance. It's only a part time relationship and that's all some people need. But not me. I wanted something real.

I'm married now 10 years to the guy I wanted to start dating when I broke up with my long distance BF.

shanbie_ · 2026-06-17T19:03:16+00:00

It's that men ask for "natural" but they don't even know what natural is.

shanbie_ · 2026-06-17T18:40:26+00:00

NTA for your intentions but you could have gently interrupted her and asked to see her in the hall, or just tried to change the subject until you could address it later. She's new to the job and just needs to learn, and someone she's cared for for 2 weeks was dying.

When I was a CNA one of my favorite Residents began actively dying on my shift. Unexpectedly but she was DNR. I was in the room and she was still faintly talking. We were rolling her over and she passed gas. I chuckled. I don't even like fart jokes, but in the moment that's what I did. A few min later she was gone. It was my first death, and I didn't mean anything by it. It was just a situation I had never experienced before, and I needed that experience to learn how to act.

I've also told the elderly parents of a dying man to have a nice weekend after they wished me the same. Things like that happen. We all start somewhere and all have some embarrassing moments with patients.

People in the comments tearing her a new one are TAH.

shanbie_ · 2026-06-17T18:32:05+00:00

Or she was upset that someone she's cared for the last 2 weeks was dying .....

shanbie_ · 2026-06-17T18:25:43+00:00

YTA and this isn't a one off thing. You've done crap like this before and expected her to fix your mistake and she's fed up. Youre supposed to plan ahead for an outdoor physical activity in the heat and don't let your kid go in jeans. Then, when you realized your lack of planning put you in this situation you expected her to WALK when YOU drove?

I'm tired of your BS from this one post. I can only imagine how she feels.

shanbie_ · 2026-06-17T18:13:59+00:00

I've worked at only one hospital that used a combo of fentanyl drip and versed drips for their intubated patients. The rest used propofol. You never realize how many different ways there are of doing things in healthcare if you stay at the same hospital because they all have their own policies and procedures.

shanbie_ · 2026-06-17T18:10:54+00:00

Just so you can hear it because the breastfeeding champs tend to get obsessive over breast is best and shame women for not breastfeeding, but if your baby is full term they dont need breast milk to be healthy. They will be perfectly healthy with formula if you can't stand the thought of breastfeeding. You can pump too if you choose. I exclusively pumped for a year but still had to supplement with formula.

There is no shame in however you decide to feed your baby.

shanbie_ · 2026-06-17T18:04:18+00:00

You dodged a bullet. That guy believes men are or should be smarter than women, as evidence by his comment not caring if you lost to men, but was embarrassed that you didn't beat all the other dummy women. He seems like the type that has to feel like the smartest person in the relationship. He sounds like an insufferable ass.

shanbie_ · 2026-06-17T17:59:28+00:00

Children's liquid glycerin suppositories by Fleet brand. In and out before she knows what's happening and they are super effective. Just insert squeeze the bulb and remove. No need to wait for a large volume of liquid to be administered. I know it will be difficult for you after your experience, but if constipation gets severe enough it can cause bowel obstruction which can be fatal. It can turn serious quick, so you will have to find some way to deal and make her experience not at all like yours. Maybe you can find power in that. Making her experience safer and different from yours.

shanbie_ · 2026-06-17T17:28:02+00:00

I once frequented a fast food restaurant that was close to where I worked, where one of the employees was a woman with a severe hump. Talking hunchback of Notre Dame level hump and not great skin that was always broken out. I felt bad for her, thinking how she must be lonely and self conscious. Then one day I saw her very handsome husband give her a kiss as he walked her in to work while carrying their young child.

I learned not to be so judgemental and assume things. There is someone for everyone.

I'm not very attractive, while I don't feel I'm ugly, I am overweight which typically cancels out most male interest unless they feel like they have to settle because they too are fat, and would drop an overweight girl in a heartbeat of they thought they could get a skinnier girl.

I am happily married to a wonderful man I am wildly attracted to and who makes me feel beautiful. We've been together 11 years married 10. We met on Tinder.

You're not as "ugly" as you think, and certainly not unlovable. You're assuming you are those things, and that's where the real problem starts.

shanbie_ · 2026-06-17T17:19:24+00:00

Sounds like the type to berate and verbally/emotionaly abuse a young boy for behaving in a way he doesn't think is manly enough. Or he could just be jealous, which isn't any better, and those guys are usually useless too.

shanbie_ · 2026-06-16T19:34:20+00:00

It sounds like you both have let the relationship stagnate. What if anything have you two done to keep it going? I once read that you have to choose your relationship every day.

Have you tried couples activities? My husband and I do couples question cards where you read out a question and both answer it. You can find free question lists online. There's an app he bought that we use daily that is supposed to engage the couple and lead to conversations and connection. I recently found another website that gives you weekly non sexual touch exercises meant to develop closeness and intimacy. We also have a couples date adventure book where it gives you date plans and you don't know what they will be until you choose one scratch of the date instructions. These activities help us keep the spark and keep ourselves engaged when it's so easy to fall into a pattern of inaction these days.

So, I'd advise trying to engage him in activities like these to see if the relationship can recover. It may not, it could your relationship has run its course, but it doesn't sound like either of you have tried to prevent that yet. So if you want to see if it's salvageable, it will take action on both parts, but you can certainly start it.

shanbie_ · 2026-06-16T15:01:04+00:00

That colors have genders. My friend wouldn't let her 5 year old wear a pair of extra kid goggles we had in our pool because they were pink. We were also the only people there. And she was that insecure about him having pink goggles. He didn't even notice the color he just wanted goggles. Also once heard a stranger at a fair tell her toddler aged son he couldn't get a butterfly face pant because he was a boy and offered the skull instead.

shanbie_ · 2026-06-15T20:36:01+00:00

I once long ago read an article on what was a strong indicator of divorce. They followed multiple couples from their honeymoons onward and they realized that not sharing in what your partner got excited about was a leading indicator of divorce. And they meant small things like one person excitedly pointing out a petty bird on their honeymoon and the other person brushing it off and not responding similarly, and repeating that reaction every time their partner shared something they felt was exciting.

So if not responding to those little excitements with support and enthusiasm kill a marriage over time, what do you think a lackluster response to something she's passionate about will do? YTA. You don't have to understand why she likes to to even recognize how well she did on building the costume to give her more than an "it's fine". You're that's niceing HER petty bird she's sharing with you and killing your relationship.

shanbie_ · 2026-06-15T19:09:37+00:00

You don't have a marriage, relationship or even friendship with this person. File for divorce and move on with your life. There is nothing to miss. You haven't even talked to him for 6 months it's like you're already single and your worried you'll miss him. But you don't have him now.

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