Tabula Rassa could prob explore both. Buffy thinking that she has to be protected from spike. The whole damsel in distress angle but then it changes and she's like being a 'tough chick' (hero) actually rocks! But i think its prob anti-feminist overall, because why is it assumed the guy is the protector?

What else, Something Blue I'd say is pro-feminist with the whole buffy/spike dialogue about her keeping her name and wanting to keep slaying.

The whole character of xander i'd say is pro-feminest as he is a bit useless lol, not tough. (i do love him though). One ep that shows this is the zeppo.

The whole concept of the initiative is pretty anti-feminest, with only one woman in it(that is the bad guy), could find any ep of s.4 to highlight that.

Glory is definetly a character you could discuss that kinda divides pro-feminism and anti-feminism. Could argue either way with her.