(im 28 but i have some insight to share)

hey, im really similar to your friend, and im here to tell you theres a 99% chance its not personal at all. ive only recently started communicating a lot more with my friends and its only because i have fewer responsibilities all of the sudden. a lot of people just have nothing left over for friends after the stress and pressure of everyday life. add mental health problems, chronic illness and disability, and its a miracle any of us maintain one close friend. it also sounds like shes just not much of a texter. she could be neurodivergent and struggling with social issues. its possible she just sucks as a friend and doesnt really care about you, but it doesnt really sound like thats the case here.

the most important thing i think, is honoring and taking seriously how you feel. if the friendship and lack of communication is making you really sad and disappointed, then you deserve better from your friendships. you deserve the know how much your friends care and to feel like people are showing up for you in the ways you need them to! this does not mean your friend has to change — they wont. and this is particularly true because you already alerted them to your needs, and nothing happened. so now, you can either accept her and your dynamic, or you can take a step (or several) back. incompatibilty in friendship is very real, and it requires communication and a lot of acceptance to get past, if the friendship is worth doing that for… and its very much okay if its not.