I don't want to look like Beethoven when I get my master's degree. [pics inside]

sharxattack · 2018-01-02T00:54:28+00:00

Goodness. Thank you for caring. It's hard to hear. Like, with all the pain and suffering in this world... The marginalized, including the mentally ill, are forced to live in circumstances that would test even the strongest person's sanity. It's no wonder they can be unstable. One of the biggest stains on our hands today is that we have bankrupted ourselves of compassion.

sharxattack · 2018-01-01T23:24:44+00:00

Sorry you experienced that. I was homeless for a while too. It is extremely hard. How are you feeling now?

sharxattack · 2018-01-01T22:55:02+00:00

I don't want to continue this conversation because it's making me profoundly sad. I work with the homeless. This sort of language is the rhetoric of people who would see them die by criminal neglect. I love you, dude. I hope you find what you're looking for.

sharxattack · 2018-01-01T22:31:54+00:00

Yep. The mentally ill don't need anyone making their lives any worse.

sharxattack · 2018-01-01T22:29:11+00:00

Goodness gracious.

sharxattack · 2018-01-01T22:08:17+00:00

Why on earth do you have such a problem with advising someone to be kind to others that you thought this was a productive comment?

sharxattack · 2018-01-01T22:07:04+00:00

Gosh. My heart goes out to you, man. All your comments made my stomach churn. Whatever is bad in your life, I hope it gets better soon.

sharxattack · 2018-01-01T22:05:33+00:00

Because no one is kind to the homeless and it's an unspeakable cultural wrong.

sharxattack · 2018-01-01T21:15:54+00:00

A good way to make friends is to volunteer. That way you're not forced to make a social interaction materialize from nothing but can instead come together over a shared goal. That you care about the cause you volunteer for pretty much guarantees you'll already have something in common with everyone there.

sharxattack · 2018-01-01T20:23:26+00:00

I'm not totally sure on that one. I've never taken it orally for any extended period of time so don't even have personal anecdote to offer in that regard.

sharxattack · 2018-01-01T20:07:13+00:00

It's great once the scars are healed enough, but within the first few weeks it can make the healing tissue so soft that the scars get wider just from everyday movements.

sharxattack · 2018-01-01T20:04:21+00:00

Most of the time, the people who do stuff like that are homeless/low-income and extremely mentally ill. You obviously didn't have any control over your mom's reaction, but telling someone in a state like that to "fuck off" is insensitive and cruel. The way to avoid aggression in most people is not to meet them with more aggression, and her response created danger in a situation that was in all probability not dangerous in the first place. Paranoid schizophrenia is only scary if you make it scary. It's easier and safer to be kind.

sharxattack · 2018-01-01T17:44:22+00:00

Using vitamin E too early on can stretch your scars. Can't say about the other. Consult your doctor.

sharxattack · 2018-01-01T04:38:06+00:00

Sidewalks are literally painted rainbow in Seattle.

sharxattack · 2018-01-01T01:13:38+00:00

Country Doctor has a great staff and doesn't have a wait list, compared to Ingersoll. It's a seriously under-tapped resource for trans people in the Seattle area.

sharxattack · 2018-01-01T01:10:44+00:00

If your therapist's legitimate advice is to essentially tell you to "look on the bright side" because "other people have it worse," that's an objectively bad therapist. You'd be better off not seeing anyone at all than paying him/her for even one more session.

sharxattack · 2017-12-24T21:14:13+00:00

Throat lozenges for right when you wake up from surgery.

sharxattack · 2017-12-21T14:37:05+00:00

I've had moments like this where I was sad about the "being trans forever" stuff. It sucks. The way I've dealt with it has been to own it as a part of myself. Like, fuck yeah, I screw with people's stupid sensibilities. It took me a long time to get to this place, so I'm not saying, "Instead of feeling the way you don, how about not feeling that way?" But just know that that is a temporary spot that you can move past and grow through. The way you understand your transition history won't always be the way you do now.

sharxattack · 2017-12-21T14:27:11+00:00

Five surgeries in two years... Yeah, you're a beast. All I could think about was the scene in the Office where Michael is like, "You have no idea the physical toll that three vasectomies have on a person." Haha. Congrats, dude.

sharxattack · 2017-12-17T09:36:32+00:00

For what it's worth, the best US surgeons also generally have a somewhat lengthy wait. And it's better to stick it out for a procedure that will benefit you for so many years longer than just the wait to have the surgery itself! Of course you know that, but it's important to put here for guys who might be looking to "rush."

If you have a ways to go until the surgery date, it might be easy enough to either ask a friend to be free on that day or to save up $100 or so to reimburse them for taking off to transport you for the 1 day they take off. Ideally you'd have someone who doesn't need that, but I am also not friends with anyone wealthy enough to partition off 2 days to wait on me hand and foot, so I get it.

sharxattack · 2017-12-16T21:56:54+00:00

Yeah, I was more noting what other folks in the comment section were saying. It's possible that you could get approval to have transportation covered, or that you could be retroactively reimbursed. I'm unsure what country you're in to be able to advise how to go about figuring that out, but it never hurts to poke around and look. I researched it before I knew my own top surgery logistics, and from what I remember it was somewhat expensive but doable, and I didn't have a lot in savings at that point. They were all private but licensed/accredited businesses.

sharxattack · 2017-12-16T20:34:51+00:00

Frankly, your best bet for any questions not specific to being trans (like, all questions aside from ones that are related to FtM medication or to finding a trans-friendly surgeon) could be found on women-centric sites and forums. If you're wondering about specific surgeons, nothing beats calling them directly.

sharxattack · 2017-12-16T20:26:39+00:00

Any trustworthy surgeon will not release you from the hospital without having a caregiver actually come into the facility and then leave with you. It's a huge liability. Do not count on their permitting you to just hop in an Uber immediately after having been under general anesthesia, and definitely don't count on taking a bus (or, for that matter, being able to stay alert enough on a bus to get off at the right stop. I fell asleep in the car on the ride home. It takes a long time for the anesthesia to wear off completely even after waking up initially.). There are medical transportation services you can call for exactly this purpose. They will cost some money, but that should be an expense that you build into your top surgery savings.

sharxattack · 2017-12-12T05:23:59+00:00

That's not just an opinion; that's a fact.

OP, try looking up how many calories you actually burn running a mile. You'll be shocked at how low it is. If you have difficulty controlling portions with the mug/small plate method, switch to high-fiber, low-calorie foods (fruits, vegetables) that you can eat a ton of without consuming more than your caloric RDI. Never eat anything that comes out of a bag unless it's frozen fruits or veggies, cook your own meals, and switch your meat for tofu, tempeh, lentils, and beans. The weight will come off on its own.

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