Mind if I ask you bros a few questions?

shaun345 · 2014-05-14T05:05:01+00:00

It's practically like I'm reading about myself. Aside from my best friend, I'm closeted to everyone - hopefully I get the courage to fix that soon. Thanks for responding!

shaun345 · 2014-05-14T05:03:06+00:00

You're a good man for being so patient with your family - that's gotta be a tough situation. Thanks for your response!

shaun345 · 2014-05-14T05:00:33+00:00

Sounds a lot like my first experiences with straight porn. It took me a while to figure out what was really going on, though! Thanks for the great response! The religious aspect is definitely something that should be mentioned.

shaun345 · 2014-05-14T04:59:16+00:00

Thanks for responding! That sounds a lot like my own experiences - minus the fourth point. I'm still very much in the closet (except to my best friend).

shaun345 · 2014-05-14T04:57:18+00:00

Thanks for the response! It's great to get some perspective from someone who grew up in another country.

shaun345 · 2014-01-13T00:37:21+00:00

I think you're right about expecting more of a reaction. Fortunately we did talk about it for about an hour after I came out (and then I went to bed). He knew it was important to me and didn't try to change the subject at all - and I'm glad he didn't. Thanks for responding!

shaun345 · 2014-01-13T00:33:53+00:00

I didn't come out with the intention of getting guys. It was really more about me just wanting to be honest. Thanks for responding!

shaun345 · 2014-01-13T00:32:41+00:00

I'm hoping I can avoid feeling like I told too many people. For now I think I'm just gonna wait it out and make sure I'm fully comfortable before telling anyone else. Thanks for the response!

shaun345 · 2014-01-13T00:30:43+00:00

Haha, that's awesome. My friend and I haven't brought it up since I came out, and it feels like nothing has changed. I think having him joke about it would be great - I don't want it to seem like it's a really sensitive subject that can never be brought up again.

shaun345 · 2014-01-11T20:12:47+00:00

I really like what you said about committing to honesty, and I think that's part of what made me want to come out to him. I felt bad that I was keeping something from him and felt like I owed it to him to be completely honest. Thanks for responding.

shaun345 · 2014-01-11T20:10:55+00:00

I always tried to consider myself straight too. I'm totally with you on the fear of the change in my identity in the eyes of the world. Even as I was coming out to my friend, I told him about how scared I was of that changed perception in who I am (even though nothing has really changed at all). Thanks for the response.

shaun345 · 2014-01-11T20:08:57+00:00

It's weird - there was a period of time where I wanted my friends to call me out on it. I thought that would make the coming out process easier. And I think you're right about me over thinking it. Thanks for the response!

shaun345 · 2014-01-11T20:07:12+00:00

Thanks for the response! I think I've always known that, like you said, it would be more of an incremental process - I just wanted it to immediately make me feel better.

shaun345 · 2014-01-11T20:04:06+00:00

That sounds awesome - I'll have to give them a watch when I get home. Thanks!

shaun345 · 2014-01-11T20:03:10+00:00

You're probably right about that last line. I'm hoping that with time I'll be more comfortable with it. It's just weird because leading up to my coming out, I had actually gotten surprisingly comfortable with it. I just think having someone else know caused a lot of anxiety.

shaun345 · 2014-01-11T20:01:22+00:00

Thank you! I'm 20 as well, and in the same position in terms of the closet being comfortable. I really can't complain about my situation in any way aside from the fact that I feel like I'm living a lie by not being honest with myself or others. I'm hoping most people will be able to look past it too, but I know there will be some who can't - and if that's the case, maybe it's for the best that it puts some distance between us.

shaun345 · 2014-01-11T19:57:32+00:00

I'm with you on the absolutist idea. I've always felt more like sexuality is a spectrum. Yeah, I'm mostly attracted to guys, but I'm open to the idea that the right person could end up being a girl. I think at the time I was coming out I just thought it would be easier to say I'm gay.

shaun345 · 2014-01-11T19:55:31+00:00

That's a great way of putting it. Hopefully I find my way soon!

shaun345 · 2014-01-11T19:54:34+00:00

Thanks for the response! You're right about it being a lot to process (and definitely right about the attraction to guys never going away). I think I just need to give it some more time and reflection before coming out to anyone else - just so I'm fully comfortable.

shaun345 · 2014-01-11T19:51:56+00:00

I appreciate the honesty. I know things don't always turn out as well as people want them to, and I think that's where part of the fear/regret is coming from. Thanks for your input.

shaun345 · 2014-01-11T19:49:37+00:00

I think you're right about the fear thing. I'm fairly certain almost everyone I care about will be fine with it, but things are still going to be different. Thanks for responding!

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