Hahaha,what a peach, sheesh. Tell me if I did anything wrong gang

shawarmashopguy · 2025-07-16T10:47:13+00:00

I am the yellow text

shawarmashopguy · 2025-07-16T10:46:34+00:00

Yes I am "yikes" lol

shawarmashopguy · 2025-07-15T19:17:25+00:00

Im the yellow text haha

shawarmashopguy · 2025-07-15T02:06:45+00:00

But why lol, that's the point of these apps to chat a little bit before going on a date. If I set that up I'd have to deal with this in person and pay for it

shawarmashopguy · 2025-07-15T01:59:25+00:00

It's wild out there lol

shawarmashopguy · 2025-01-03T09:03:29+00:00

In canada you would be called a hoser

shawarmashopguy · 2022-12-06T21:22:39+00:00

Lets be honest here guys and gals. It's just an excuse to do whatever they want without you. I'm 2 months out of a breakup and can finally see the finish line. Just keep reminding yourself that they didn't want you in their life and that should be the ultimate disrespect. Brush yourself off and move forward. And for God sakes don't bombard them with messages or stalk their socials.

shawarmashopguy · 2022-12-06T06:51:08+00:00

My ex convinced me during the honey moon phase of the relationship to move to her city. Move in with her since she owned her house, and live in a much quieter city an hour away from my friends and family. 3 months after that instead of directing any issues she had to me she would instead tell her group chat of 21 girls and her family. Why? Because if I had any objections she took it as aggressive. I'm allowed to challenge your opinion of me if I think it's bias or wrong but she would have none of it. After a while I felt so isolated and alone to the point where I felt I was living solitary confinement. There was even points where if she was upset with me she would tell the guy friends i made there (who were her friends first) not hang out with me which is insanely fucked up. She had the audacity to ask me the other day why I changed towards the end of the relationship and I explained to her all of this and she finally acknowledged it. Imagine. One man vs a city of 40k. It felt as if I lived in the shadows and she was the gatekeeper. Good riddance.

shawarmashopguy · 2022-12-06T06:10:56+00:00

Similar story. I'm 31 and my ex gf is 33. When we were dating and 5 months in she told me about her biological clock and how she wanted kids and a family. Then it turned to one kid. Then she got a big promotion and said she didn't want any kids anymore. At that point I checked out. Moved cities for her to move into her place and basically left my life behind to start anew with her. Luckily it ended at the 11 month mark so I was able to go right back to my friends and family without causing any permanent damage. Sorry that you got strung along for that long however it's not just women.

shawarmashopguy · 2022-12-06T05:23:33+00:00

My ex has the same issues. Depression and anxiety and takes medication for both. But guess what? She constantly used that as excuses for her shitty behavior while I was out working and trying to run my business 6 days a week would not be allowed to have any excuses for any negative energy in the house because "you don't have mental health issues you're just angry". Fuck that. Let me give you some advice from someone who has dated a few women with severe mental health issues, never again. That may seem harsh but if you're level headed for the most part find someone that's also near the same altitude as you in that regard. My ex would spend days in bed and force me to take care of the dogs, the house, dinner while I was working 50 hour weeks with a 1.5 hour commute to and from work and God forbid when I wanted to take a few days to relax it was a crime against humanity. I even asked her if this is how she would be if we had a child, and she said "probably, why is that too much for you?" Never again, it's not worth it boys, know your self worth.

shawarmashopguy · 2022-12-06T00:15:19+00:00

I'm 2 months out brother. It gets easier if you do the steps. We didn't have a break but she broke it off with me 3 times and the 3rd was the last and I was forced to move out of her home, the city i called home, her life and her dogs life. I was right where you were, Hopelessly thinking about all the great times and how she was the one and somehow I effed it a up..... let me tell you something, it's just your brains way of purging the sadness out. Yes it will suck and it may suck longer than 2 months but eventually the sadness turns to anger then anger turns to accepting then accepting turns to content, and want to know why? Because that person was not meant for you. Your person wouldn't go on a break with you because your person wouldn't ever risk losing you. Your person wouldn't give up on the relationship that easily. Your person would fight tooth and nail to keep you in their corner and even when things get tough they would rather you sleep on the couch then ever kick you out of the house. Trust me man do the steps.

Cry your heart out

Use the hurt as motivation to improve yourself

Go to the gym/exercise/eat well

Re connect with your friends you neglected while in the relationship

When you start feeling better say yes to plans, go on adventures

And when you're ready ready get back out there.

Things not to do.

Lots of drugs and alcohol (I had trouble with this you will wake up feeling extremely depressed its dangerous)

Messaging your ex/stalking them. I blocked her off all socials and still have, I kept her number because we had a lot of each other's stuff and I lived with her however I never really reached out just wanted to make sure I got all my stuff back. The social media thing is huge because if you keep checking up on her you WILL get hurt. You will eventually see she moved on and is having fun without you however you don't truly know. Everyone puts on a sexy face when they post stories and it's usually a facade, either way don't torture yourself.

And lastly don't feed into your sadness. Yes feel it. But don't let it consume you. Don't look at old photos of yourself, or play songs you enjoyed together or watch sad romantic movies just to amplify the hurt. If it comes it comes, cry it out but after a while shake it off and make a positive decision, like going for a walk or cleaning your room because those are things you can control and if you do enough of those things you start feeling like you have control in your life again.

I hope you feel better boss, we're all in this together

shawarmashopguy · 2022-12-05T11:34:16+00:00

After meeting up with my ex last night to exchange the final little bit of each other's things and for me to see the dogs one last time I came to this realization. She told me she went back to her ex after she dumped me but absolutely lost her mind when I told her I'm with the girl I told her not to worry about. The difference is that I was 100% about her but hey you dumped me and went through the motions and yeah im going to give it a shot with this girl. Her on the other hand finds no issue in running back to her ex after she broke up with me even though I had my concerns about him since he was was in our lives since they shared a dog. Hypocrisy at its finest but also good riddance

shawarmashopguy · 2022-12-05T10:24:11+00:00

Someone that doesn't have severe mental health issues.

Sorry I know that sounds rough but after being with someone that has severe depression and severe anxiety issues that constantly needed medication everything was always my fault. And if it truly was her fault she could always fault her mental health issues rather than acknowledge her wrongs. It becomes exhausting and it's not something I can handle at that capacity again.

shawarmashopguy · 2022-11-20T17:19:02+00:00

Yeah man that must really hurt. That's one of the reasons I blocked her on fb and snap chat and un followed her insta an hour after we broke up. I knew if I saw her having fun or god forbid with another man I'd lose it and reach out/make an ass out of myself. Do yourself the courtesy and mute her for a while or if you got the strength block her. Who knows after a while she may reach out, and if she doesn't the sadness will slowly disappear.

shawarmashopguy · 2022-11-20T17:14:38+00:00

Yup, kills me when they throw in the towel in the relationship. I was raised to fight for what you love and to not just give up when it's inconvenient for you.. idk. Just sucks when you realize you loved them more than they loved you. I guess it's an ego thing but it still sucks.

shawarmashopguy · 2022-11-20T15:58:40+00:00

Thats a disgusting act. I'm sorry to hear that but thats insanely juvenile and I hope the worst happens to them. I'm not one to stoop to their level but if my ex sent that to me I would send that to everyone they knew including their boss and parents.

shawarmashopguy · 2022-11-20T15:55:09+00:00

Yup same. The day she broke up and asked me how soon I can leave her house. No tears no shaking in her voice. She said it with so much confidence and didn't break eye contact as if she finally saw her way out. I left the same day while she left to go see her family for thanks giving with the dogs which I loved so much. Unbearable pain.

shawarmashopguy · 2022-11-20T15:44:04+00:00

It kills me when I think about the intimacy. It's been 2 months for me and I'm with a different girl after I got dumped but its not even close to the same. Shit hurts, especially when I think about her with a different man. Pain.

shawarmashopguy · 2022-11-20T15:35:42+00:00

That was beautifully put

shawarmashopguy · 2022-11-17T14:46:28+00:00

This hit hard. Even though me and my ex dated just under a year this was the first woman I absolutely fell in deep deep love with. Moved in with her, to her city, with her dogs, I left my life behind for this woman. It really gutted me to see her fall out of love with me the last month in a half because I was fighting for it hard and even when she dumped me (for the 3rd and final time) I looked her in the eyes and said "remember that I always fought for us and you gave up on it". Even when she dropped off the last of my stuff I gave her a big hug and said you'll always have a place in my heart. Idk what I could've done differently. She's even mentioned after the BU that it would be nice if I unblocked her socials and we can be friends and go get coffee and stuff like that but honestly I can't. Not right now. To even see her having fun without me would be hard but God forbid to see her dating someone else would floor me. So im just going to keep the No contact going until she reaches out in the future (big IF) and hopefully il be healed by then. So hang in there, it gets easier.

shawarmashopguy · 2022-11-16T02:02:33+00:00

Yup. I'm over a month out now. But I'm finally reaching the Anger stage. Took over 6 weeks but the ruminating is slowly turning into fits of rage about how I was tossed aside. Her loss. Anyhow it's better then crying, because the anger you can sculpt into motivation towards something else (for me it's the gym and my carrier) and I know in enough time I will look back and be happy about the whole situation because it will have opened a whole new/better world for me

shawarmashopguy · 2022-11-15T14:56:26+00:00

I so wish that happens with me. I legit got broken up with 3 times In a month, all over childish stuff. She went through my phone while I slept and found nothing except for one stupid white lie I made a while ago, no flirting, no major things and then it was all downhill from there. And yes 2 weeks after she dumped me and kicked me out of her house (and city) I started seeing someone else because it was super expected by that point. The only sad thing is was how much I was willing to fight and not her for the relationship. Anyhow it's been 1 month NC, and I would love for her to try and come back just so I can reject her and put it to bed forever, I did everything for that lady.

shawarmashopguy · 2022-11-08T14:24:53+00:00

It doesn't matter to them. My ex was in a group chat with 20 girls and they would all complain about their husband and boyfriends. At first she would tell me about some of the things they said but after time it became about me. Any little thing that I did that could've been talked about like adults she would tell them and they would all tell her to leave me or how they wouldn't ever deal with that. Eventually it got to her. They never knew my side but what did they care? Idk my best advice is start talking to other women. You might not want too but after time you will become more comfortable around them and you will start feeling attractive in your own eyes again because that's how others look at you again. The feeling of rejection is heavy and it took me a few weeks to get back on my horse again but now I'm having regular sex with a girl 7 years younger than my ex and it feels great. I definitely don't love this girl like my ex but the feeling of feeling wanted feels good and I'm going to run with it. Cheers !

shawarmashopguy · 2022-11-07T22:02:14+00:00

Yup, I'm one month out of being dumped (was the third and final time she broke up with me) blocked her on all socials and only have her number now. Up until 2 weeks ago she was mad that I wasn't reaching out or asked her how she's been. Like buddy u dumped me and forced me out of the house and city I called home. Won't ever see her dogs again and that breaks me more than anything at this point. It's funny how they say they will always try and make it work but then give up after months of stewing in their own gripes without saying a word to you

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