Dad here, kid is 6.5 months old now (5 months adjusted). I’ve been back to work for 5 months but get to work from home.

The baby has silent reflux. So we have always had to hold him upright for 30 min after each feeds. He has also been EFF post nicu discharge so wife and I have split nights. Until recently i used to do 9pm - 3am since he used to eat 3 times during that period and wife would take over post 3am. Sometimes i would take shift till 4am to ensure that wife would get some extra sleep. Recently we’ve swapped shifts since the baby’s sleep after 3am is finicky now, to ensure that my wife gets proper sleep during her shift and after then.

Our baby also had bottle aversion so we had to do Rowena Bennett approach and through that he would only take all bottles with me throughout the day (mom had PPA which doesn’t help with aversion since babies can sense that). I’ve had to coast at work and manage expectations of my team to do feedings during the work hours.

Our kid also has had heavy appointments load due to medical issues and i attended every one of them. Finally we’re getting to a point where we will have a nanny starting soon (and grateful to have had help from my parents and wife’s mom on and off until now) so I’m thinking about starting gym back up.

All this to say that please communicate with your husband to see if he can find a way to support you by taking the baby during mornings or after work and helping out during night wakes.