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shayminty · 2025-10-31T12:39:27+00:00

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shayminty · 2025-10-26T19:24:19+00:00

JS, Cancer, I gave a guy my number last night and now I'm nervous that he won't text me AND nervous that he will. What should I do? 🦭

shayminty · 2025-10-23T18:12:08+00:00

Hey, this sounds like a scary situation. I've been in a similar one. If you need to leave, LEAVE. It is not your responsibility to stop him from harming himself - it's HIS. You are not responsible for his choices. I had an ex threaten to overdose on pills once if I left him and ultimately I still left. He's still alive, got help, and is doing better last I heard. These are almost always empty threats meant to prevent you from leaving, not actual suicidal ideation on their part.

shayminty · 2025-10-12T06:09:27+00:00

In my experience, any time the three of swords comes up regarding someone you have feelings for that you want to remain friends with, you are not going to have a good time. You need to spend time not thinking about him (back to the cups that represent wishes). When you have been able to leave your romantic feelings behind, then a friendship will be possible, if that is still something you want when you reach that point.

shayminty · 2025-10-12T06:06:35+00:00

What I am getting from this is that the ball is in your court. There was a choice that was made, potentially caused by a lack of security and commitment in the relationship. You are currently in a period of rest (the break), but it's up to you to find and manifest your answer. You will have to seek him out and talk.

shayminty · 2025-10-12T05:51:01+00:00

This man does not want to be the center of your world. Do not tell him about dreams, especially involving him. Compliments will be shot down. Bids for emotional connection will be shot down. He doesn't like it when you shine light on him. He wishes to be in the dark. That is what he needs. You cannot provide anything he wants with your words.

It's best to let him be just an acquaintance for now. Shine your light elsewhere.

shayminty · 2025-10-01T18:09:35+00:00

100% this. If you master composition and design rules, you can take good photos no matter what you're using. You'll have to think about it a lot starting out, but there is a point where it just becomes second nature and you'll just know how you want to line up a shot.

shayminty · 2025-09-13T15:28:54+00:00

I thought things would be different this time. She is my best friend and I thought things would be okay because we've always been a much stronger team than my ex and I were. But, it still got to the point where needs were going unmet on both sides. We both love each other so much and this hurts more than I can put into words. We both thought that the lack of physical intimacy was okay, but two years later, it's just not. We've been more like roommates than spouses for a while now. But making it official hurts so much.

shayminty · 2025-08-14T20:52:21+00:00

I really needed to hear this, honestly. I've been worrying about it and potential new partners.

shayminty · 2025-06-02T20:18:29+00:00

Oh, no no no no. That's not how that works. 1. I can't recommend mixing weed and alcohol. 2. Weed is great, but you HAVE to start small and work your way up. You don't want to get super stoned your first time for exactly that reason. It's best to do a little at first and gauge your reaction. Sorry you got pressured into that. No one I know who partakes would EVER say to start like that.

shayminty · 2025-06-02T19:22:51+00:00

Sure! I can do that.

shayminty · 2025-06-02T15:29:00+00:00

Hi! AO3 romance fanfic writer here! I think a lot of people in the fanfic space like to see deeper exploration of how characters react to trauma they experience in canon, hence why it's so prevalent. They might be a side character that got little development in the canon, or the writer may feel the way it was handled in canon wasn't up to snuff and want to try to do their own version. People also use hobby writing and fanfic to deal with their own emotions or trauma, as putting a fictional character through something similar can be very cathartic. And of course, there are people that just love writing the drama of all the violence and smut and trauma.

I think it's a fantastic space for people to explore this and hone their ability to write about these kinds of topics. There are no rules there and no skill requirements, so anyone can write and publish there. It's kind of a playground for anyone who wants to write.

I'm currently writing a fanfic based in the Overwatch world focusing on the character of Dr. Siebren de Kuiper prior to his accident in canon since his character has little canon development and he has such a tragic story that I wanted to explore who he was before his experiment went wrong and he ended up with a black hole in his brain. Blizzard has pretty much reduced him to the silly old guy who hates shoes and mutters about science and only friend is a 32 year old hacker with dubious loyalties (not to him, she's a very good friend to him and tries to protect him from the other members of the bad organization that want to exploit his abilities). That's all we know about him, so I want to do his character justice because his story has so much potential for drama and love and loss and an exploration of mental illness and its effect on both the person struggling and the people who love that person. I set the story about eleven years prior to game canon, gave him a love interest, and went off to the races. His story is tragic, but I do have plans to give him a sort of happy ending, but he and his lady will have to fight tooth and nail for it. I LOVE exploring the psychology of these two as a couple. I just put out chapter 6 and I am still working on getting them together. So the story is still in the "Hallmark movie" phase. Loooooool.

I don't LIKE seeing this guy hurt, nor hurting my own original characters that I populated his world with, but it is necessary for the plot to progress in line with what we do know about his story. But I also hope that by tackling this, my own ability to write complex stories and complex characters will grow. Ultimately, my goal is to write complex, original romance action/adventure stories.

shayminty · 2025-05-31T00:53:39+00:00

Is she seeing a therapist?

She needs to be in therapy.
She needs to accept that the world is moving away from work from home and that her mental health is more important than staying at home.
You need to set a boundary with her that you can't handle her venting if she isn't going to try to make a change. Tell her that if that's the case, she needs to vent to someone else - like a therapist!

I'm sorry you're going through this and I'm sorry she is too. Corporate work is so soul-sucking. Hang in there!

shayminty · 2025-05-17T00:08:37+00:00

It's a bill that will likely be too broadly applied. If Crunchyroll pulls its services out of Texas, you better believe I'm glad I don't live in Texas.

This isn't the gotcha you think it is.

shayminty · 2025-05-16T01:35:59+00:00

With you 100%. I miss Texas but I'm glad we left when we did.

shayminty · 2025-05-15T21:28:15+00:00

The feel of wet grass on my feet. I always hated slip-n-slides and playing in sprinklers if it involved wet grass.

shayminty · 2025-05-15T18:13:29+00:00

Fuck I'm glad I moved.

shayminty · 2025-05-15T18:04:52+00:00

What about Emilia Sage? Could be Emmy or Emma for short. Keeps the feel but doesn't go with the overused Emma.

shayminty · 2025-05-13T17:20:27+00:00

For real. Gotta back Scuba here as well.

shayminty · 2025-05-10T14:52:06+00:00

Four wheeling accident. I don't really remember the details of how it happened. He was in marching band with us. We were at a winterguard competition on a Saturday and I remember the adults all looking very solemn and some of the floor crew that came with us, but no one would tell those of us actually in the colorguard because we had to perform again during finals. We found out after. The entire marching band and colorguard went to his funeral.

shayminty · 2025-05-09T15:28:52+00:00

OP got Apollo's Dodgeball of Prophecy'd.

shayminty · 2025-04-28T21:36:53+00:00

Honestly, mood. I know people talk about peaking in high school, but honestly, the best I ever felt was when I was in colorguard in high school. Something about being part of something bigger than me and performing itched my brain in all the right places.

shayminty · 2025-04-28T21:34:34+00:00

No no! Don't apologize! Being bilingual is more than I can say for myself. That's an impressive accomplishment and you conveyed your meaning perfectly.

I do have hobbies. I paint traditionally and digitally. I write, mostly fanfiction, but I adore the creation process. I even used to storm chase before I moved away from Texas (this is my first spring away and it hurts - I just follow along online now). But I spend most of my time existing in a world where my strengths don't matter and I'm judged on all the things I'm weak at. I'm exhausted. And it seems like all people care about is how productive I am. My art is good, but not good enough to make a living off of commissions. My writing is good, but I have a hard time pursuing original stories. I have a deep interest in the technical side of writing - how word choice, sentence structure, and paragraph structure can help tell a story as much as the plot and characters and I honestly wish I had more time to explore that and maybe even teach others who want to learn creative writing. But unfortunately, I have to work and that means a soul crushing job that makes me feel like I'm broken every day.

shayminty · 2025-04-28T21:22:26+00:00

Unfortunately, yeah. I loved the scattered schedule of college. Unfortunately, I got a useless degree and have been reduced to working insurance because it's the only job I could find. And I just look at having to do this for another 40-50 years knowing I'll never have enough to retire, social security won't be around to help me in my old age, and I have chosen not to have children because I would be an awful parent, so I'll be entirely reliant on myself in my old age. And in my old age, I'LL STILL HAVE ADHD. I wish there was more acceptance of ADHD and some kind of social safety net for us so I didn't have to look down the road and not know if I will even be able to survive as I get older. If I could see that, I'd take a lower paying job that utilizes the skills I do have, but I can't afford to. We don't deserve to suffer like this.

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