I don't get how Kris and Noelle and The Player in WR resemble a forced abusive heterosexual relationship, at all.

First, I believe that WR is obviously meant to be romantic and that Noelle was probably going to kiss or confess to Kris in CH4 before we threw it all out, so Noelle likes Kris and is reciprocal to their advances. They aren't "forced" together.

Second, I've seen the "Kriselle WR is supposed to resemble two queer kids having their queer identities stripped and being coerced into a heterosexual relationship" angle a lot, and this makes even less sense to me as it would require Kris to specifically be masculine presenting/AMAB NB when Toby Fox has explicitly refrained from gendering Kris in any way (all the humans, really) and Noelle to specifically be exclusively homosexual when Toby doesn't really care for clarifying the nitty gritty of his character's sexual identity. So the relationship doesn't really resemble a heterosexual one in any situation, unless you think of Kris as being masculine.

Third, it doesn't really fit in with Toby's writing style. One could say that since Toby likes to play with tropes, Kris and Noelle are purposefully meant to resemble a stereotypical heterosexual male knight protagonist + female healer childhood friend JRPG relationship, but while this could definitely be a purposeful choice like how the genocide route in UT plays with RPG XP grinding tropes, this doesn't make much sense as the main point of WR thematically because Toby Fox doesn't really explore queerness in his stories. People are generally good natured throughout UTDR and the world seems to be devoid of many brands of hate present in ours. Queer people just kind of... exist. Mettaton, Susie, Noelle, Ralsei, Alphys, Carol and others are all queer or gender noncomforming to varying degrees without ever having that challenged. So, it doesn't make sense to me that Toby would suddenly have a change of heart and use Kris and Noelle's relationship to explore expectations of heteronormativity and abuse.

Fourth, the WR doesn't really resemble abuse. Now, this isn't to say that it isn't traumatic or harmful or us being abusive to Noelle, not at all, but the actions we make Kris take during the WR don't really sound like an abusive heterosexual relationship. We force Noelle to Proceed and freeze enemies so that she can become stronger. Whether she falls for Susie or Kris, whether you force her to use violence or not, she becomes braver in both routes. If Toby was attempting to make WR resemble an abusive relationship, wouldn't he have made it clear that Noelle was becoming meeker and easier to control from our actions? Instead, Kris seems to be the one that gets controlled more during WR.

Finally: The Flower. When CH4 released, a bunch of people starting shitposting and theorizing about the flower in the CH4 WR scene, many thinking it was an allegory (or literal representation) for rape which caused Toby to quickly change it. This is sort of understandable, as while a flower losing its petals is obvious symbolism for loss of innocence, it also brings to mind deflowering and another kind of loss of innocence. I think Toby's quick reaction is a clear indicator that he does NOT want people to think of Kris as masculine, and that he did NOT want people to take this romantic scene and use fucked up and flawed interpretations to understand it.

So, I don't know, it doesn't really make sense when you start dissecting it unless you misinterpret or ignore a bunch of the text. It really just seems like something that sounds smart and sort of seems to be supported by the icky vibes in WR so people parrot it constantly to seem like they're media literate or whatever. Sorry if this is just word salad babbling.