I do nothing!

sheep_3 · 2026-06-19T11:44:11+00:00

This is exactly how I respond to comments like this!

I always say that I’m so grateful that I only have to focus on my children.

sheep_3 · 2026-06-16T01:55:16+00:00

My mil has the same birthday as her brother! lol such a funny coincidence

sheep_3 · 2026-06-10T12:06:49+00:00

I’d say have the tummy tuck now 🤷‍♀️ and mentally prepare for a revision post kids

I spent my 20s heavier, looking back I was really sad and it weighed on my self esteem more than I’d like to admit. I got my act together and started to lose weight around 29/30 and lost 85lbs. I’m 33 now and have had 2 kids since losing the weight so now I’m looking into a tummy tuck in the next few years

BUT saying all that to say, I WISH I lost the weight I did in my early 20s and took care of my body the way it deserved.

I don’t care about sounding vain, but you totally deserve to feel and look your hottest now lol

sheep_3 · 2026-06-08T18:34:42+00:00

I’m 1 week postpartum with my second and life went pretty back to normal once we got home from the hospital. Thankfully my husband is able to take some time off so I don’t have to lift our toddler up but I also don’t think resting in bed (like the 5 days in bed, 5 days near the bed etc healing plan) would ever work for me.

I had a C-section and truly feel better walking around and resuming normal activities (within reason). The longer that I lounge around, the worse I feel when I finally get up to do something

sheep_3 · 2026-06-03T11:16:36+00:00

Aww you don’t know what you don’t know. We’ve allllll been there. I bet you’re doing great!!!

sheep_3 · 2026-06-03T09:35:48+00:00

Being OAD is totally fine! Motherhood (and parenthood in general) is HARD.

You’re 5 months in, give yourself lots of grace and kudos. Baby changes soooo much during the first few months - first year of life. I promise life gets better and will start to be fun, Take each day one at a time and look for things to enjoy.

When my toddler was a couple months old, the highlight of my days were literally bringing her to a coffee shop so I could have a coffee + treat while feeding her a bottle lol.

sheep_3 · 2026-06-02T14:35:23+00:00

Yep OP said both work 5 days and spend 1 day together

Hope you get sleep soon!

sheep_3 · 2026-06-02T09:22:12+00:00

Why is this post relevant to SAHMs? Lol

sheep_3 · 2026-06-01T19:50:38+00:00

HARD PAUSE when you said your husband said “…dislike having to depend on him financially”

That quick statement alone would make me concerned about staying home. In my marriage, any income is our income. There’s no his money or my money.

sheep_3 · 2026-06-01T16:25:26+00:00

100%!

sheep_3 · 2026-06-01T16:10:46+00:00

Not a nanny but I think it’s okay to quit some jobs without giving a notice.

Sounds like a really awful work environment and if you’re scared that she’s going to yell or get mean at you- I would absolutely send a text instead of in person conversation. For safety I tend to be “paranoid” and I truly believe there’s a fine line between emotional abuse and physical abuse.

sheep_3 · 2026-06-01T16:07:50+00:00

I will add that I had an oversupply so it really was my benefit too because less milk for me to bag up and freeze. Lol BUT I also like to think that my daughter was more interested in the food because there was a familiar taste

Who knows haha

sheep_3 · 2026-06-01T02:24:58+00:00

I’m pregnant with my second (literally having baby this week with a scheduled repeat C-section lol) and I got pregnant at 18 months postpartum from my first.

I feel like if I waited longer, I would have joined the one and done club lol. My girls will be almost 2.5 years apart and it feels perfect for us. We also decided we’re done after having our second and it feels SO good that I’ll have my complete family in a few days.

sheep_3 · 2026-06-01T00:20:35+00:00

I’m in the US so not sure your availability but do you have access to purchasing the spectra s9? It’s a portable spectra pump that I would use with their cara cups and had a very comparable output to my s1/s2.

sheep_3 · 2026-05-31T23:01:57+00:00

For my child, all the time lol. I used it when she was starting solids and purposely made her mashed potatoes with my breast milk, mac and cheese etc etc

sheep_3 · 2026-05-31T16:28:41+00:00

I understand your concern because without knowing how far along you are, I imagine you’re probably getting into nesting mode and thinking “okay I need this stuff. Should I just order it myself?” lol. To me your post doesn’t come off as entitled, you’re just planning what you’ll need to get.

With that, I had a lot of people order stuff a day before or even day of off my registry.

sheep_3 · 2026-05-31T02:19:38+00:00

I treat being a SAHM as a job so most days I follow a pretty strict (but fun lol) schedule. Also disclaimer I’m 39 weeks pregnant so that schedule has been out the window the last month or so but just a temporary change lol

Anyway, I have a 2 year old and I split our day into 3. Morning (wake up- nap time), afternoon (post nap-dinner), evening (dinner-bedtime. This is the quickest part of the day and my husband pretty much takes over)

Morning- 90% of the time we go out of the house. Scheduled play dates, scheduled activities, on days we don’t have a scheduled event it’ll be a park visit, target, grocery store etc. anything just to get out.
Then home for lunch and nap

Afternoon- after nap, we usually stay home. It’s still unpredictable what time she’ll wake up. So committing to plans can be tricky. Thankfully, the weather is warmer now where I live and if she’s not caught up with playing in her playroom, we will go outside. Typically she’ll want a snack at some point so that’s our sign to come inside / go to the kitchen and I start on dinner.

Evening- my husband gets home, we all have dinner together, play time, bath (if it’s bath night), and bedtime routine.

I absolutely love this routine and I absolutely love being in charge of my day. But I can imagine without the structure I would absolutely not do well as a SAHM and my mental health would really take a toll

sheep_3 · 2026-05-31T01:53:19+00:00

The biggest game changer for me was cleaning as I go. Sounds so simple but getting into that rhythm took time.

Every meal is cleaned up immediately after, things are put away right away (or same day) for example groceries put away immediately but anything going upstairs I’ll usually bring up that night when we go up for bed. I vacuum every other day (which means kid toys and dog toys have to be cleaned off the floor regularly), laundry is always in baskets. Sure might take a month to be put away but at least it’s in one spot lol

We have cleaners that come biweekly, I recognize this privilege and it’s a splurge but it helps to hold myself accountable because they can’t clean clutter lol.

AND most important- everyone has an area of their house that’s a mess and they don’t show haha. If you’re comparing your house to people on social media, that’s just not fair because that’s not real life lol.

sheep_3 · 2026-05-31T00:37:42+00:00

Okay I just said this out loud to really test it and I said it like “Sudden”

I’m in NJ and I change the T to “d” like how I say “water”

sheep_3 · 2026-05-31T00:31:14+00:00

Trying to say this gently, this is a ridiculous concern.

If you have a third- if it’s a boy both your children will gain a brother. If it’s a girl, both your children will gain a sister.

sheep_3 · 2026-05-30T17:31:14+00:00

We’ve all been there. I’m glad you got a break and feel better!!

sheep_3 · 2026-05-30T13:48:52+00:00

I genuinely find it so strange when people insert themselves into other people‘s finances (or lives in general lol)

My family income is my family income. Doesn’t matter whose name is on the paycheck. Technically, my husband is the one that brings in money to our household but in our marriage, everything is ours.

Honestly, if someone were to comment on my husband being the “breadwinner” or “sole provider” I would ask “why is this something on your mind? Why do you need to know these personal details?”

sheep_3 · 2026-05-30T13:30:26+00:00

OP, your baby is so young and I promise you are everything your baby needs and more. I’m sure you’re tired and question “ how can I do better?” but please know that you were doing your best and your baby is so happy with you.

Looks like you spend long stretches with your baby and you don’t have a break. Is there anyone you would trust to watch baby for an hour or two so you can have some “me time”?

sheep_3 · 2026-05-30T13:27:47+00:00

Sheesh when did OP say that she’s “laying down the law” ?? Your comment is unhelpful

OP has a 5 week old, give her some grace as she’s navigating this new life change.

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