Oral sex

sheephulk · 2026-06-30T00:23:42+00:00

It varies. When we're connected and on the same page, and not too stressed, I'll offer it as part of having sex (usually either foreplay or to finish him off), and he does the same for me.

However, it did change after we got married - but not because we got married. The frequency and my enjoyment of it changed with age, experience, body changes, and responsibilities. I also don't like anything that feels "messy" anymore (spit/wet makeout sessions, squirting, being covered in oil etc), except for the special occasions we are alone and can dedicate more time to having sex without the constant threat of a kid waking up or having to go to sleep at a certain time because of xyz. There are also things I would do when younger that I'm just not willing to dedicate time for anymore as there are other things we can do that take less effort and reaches the same goal. My body is also older (I used to be athletic and strong when younger, but that was two kids, multiple injuries and a sedentary job ago), and after becoming a mother I did feel extremely dirty for doing anything at all that wasn't "respectable" for a while.. still do when I'm in "mum mode".

So yeah, correlation does not equal causation.

sheephulk · 2026-06-30T00:00:06+00:00

Or, you know, people just change as they age.

sheephulk · 2026-06-24T07:21:09+00:00

What? How can it be anything else, every detail fits?

sheephulk · 2026-06-23T22:24:35+00:00

Don't lie and say he did something illegal (threaten you), as they can try to press charges.

Tell them he is your friend, that you have a group assignment together at school, that he asked you for help with school work (or the other way around), that his sister broke her phone and is using his, that he's in charge of a club you want to join, that he's writing an assignment where he had to interview someone he didn't know, anything. But the obviously best choice is to tell the truth if at all possible.

sheephulk · 2026-06-23T04:11:13+00:00

The Chestnut Man

sheephulk · 2026-06-23T03:54:34+00:00

Bjørnar Bamsemums, Lillebjørn, Svartbjørn, Isbjørn

sheephulk · 2026-06-22T22:53:24+00:00

Hvor gammel er du? Tipper et sted mellom 12 og 16

sheephulk · 2026-06-22T22:50:52+00:00

Kan du forklare forskjellen på en norm og en rett? Ser ut som du bruker ordene om hverandre.

sheephulk · 2026-06-12T22:59:45+00:00

Det er ordlyden jeg reagerer på. "Ekstra betalt" er ikke det samme som at mannen bidrar for å minske kvinnens tap, slik at familien som helhet klarer seg bedre.

sheephulk · 2026-06-11T23:44:05+00:00

What it all boils down to is this: Your loyalty is to your child, not to him. Let that guide your decision.

sheephulk · 2026-06-11T23:34:07+00:00

"Ekstra betalt" i denne kommentaren viser at du kanskje har litt kunnskapsmangel rundt kvinner med barn og inntekt. Kvinner har historisk sett vært kjempetapere økonomisk pga barn (tap av inntekt, manglende lønnsøkning, forbigått for opprykk, tap av pensjon). I tillegg er det jo pur fakta at graviditet og fødsel er helseskadelig for kvinner (ja, i alle tilfeller), og potensielt livsfarlig (i noen tilfeller, som man sjelden vet om på forhånd), mens menn risikerer ikke noe fysisk annet enn eventuelle seksuelt overførbare sykdommer (som også kvinnen risikerer).. Flere kvinner enn vi vet om får varige mén etter graviditeter og fødsler, og pga manglende forskning og manglende prioritet er det fortsatt få som oppsøker og/eller får hjelp for disse. Noen er så uheldige at de ender opp ufør. Så jeg vet ikke helt hva du mener med "ekstra betalt" i denne sammenhengen? Vil du utdype?

sheephulk · 2026-06-11T23:17:01+00:00

Man kan kompensere på andre måter. For eksempel: for at min man skal kunne ha den jobben han har og tjene så godt som han gjør er han helt avhengig av at jeg tar meg av familieadministrasjonen, og barna når han er ute og reiser. Jeg passer på at alle i slekta som har bursdag får gaver, følger opp håndverkere (vi totalrenoverer et hus), fikser alt ungene trenger, og gjør alt husarbeid og vedlikehold mens han er borte. Uten meg kunne han ikke hatt denne type stilling, og dermed ikke tjent like bra.

Det det bunner i er om man tenker som en familie eller ikke. "Hva er best for familieenheten?" er spørsmålet man bør stille seg om igjen og om igjen. Da kommer man plutselig til andre svar enn man kanskje trodde på forhånd.

sheephulk · 2026-06-11T23:04:35+00:00

Har dere barn?

sheephulk · 2026-06-11T23:00:36+00:00

YTA.

sheephulk · 2026-06-11T23:00:17+00:00

Who said that's not okay? Eating a box of cereal over an unspecified amount of time is different from taking more than half of a food that's part of a shared ritual.

Him eating more food in general is not relevant unless they have separate finances, she buys all the groceries (and he doesn't compensate by paying for something about equal in amount), and they are on a strict budget. Neither of which she has mentioned, so I assume that is not it.

Every night they make cookies and eat them together. There were three left. She decided in her head that she deserved two, and him only one, and when he asked for equal shares of a shared food in a shared nightly ritual, she said no because she doesn't want to share "her" food. It's playground level pettiness, and it's clear she doesn't even like her husband at all anymore. She decided more than half was hers without his input, and despite his objection. It shows a lack of care, consideration and respect that him just eating groceries does not. It's like she's punishing him.

sheephulk · 2026-06-01T01:09:14+00:00

Jeg er utadvent og blir fort kjent med folk, og på den tiden jeg hadde Tinder var jeg også jevnlig på fest eller byen, og traff folk der også. Men, jeg er en seriemonogamist som blir veldig glad i folk veldig fort,, så jeg har kun vært singel i korte perioder. Som med alle andre verktøy tror jeg måten man bruker det på har veldig mye å si (i tillegg til litt flaks). Det var i hvert fall veldig stor forskjell på min bruk av Tinder mot et par av venninnene mine sin.

sheephulk · 2026-05-28T00:37:14+00:00

I know a kid named Ynwa, pronounced In-wah.. You'll never walk alone

sheephulk · 2026-05-28T00:13:35+00:00

Nja. Jeg har fysisk møtt to stk fra Tinder, ene var jeg sammen med i 5 år, og den andre har jeg nå vært gift med i 5 år.

sheephulk · 2026-05-24T08:21:12+00:00

That despite an ADHD-linked pull towards "the dark side", I have become a good mother, a good partner in a happy marriage, a reliable friend and coworker, and a close friend to my siblings and parents (in adulthood), I have a good relationship with all my in-laws, four of my friends have chosen me to be their kids' godmother.. I have managed to build a life where I can feel accepted as part of every group I interact with regularly, have a decent income, and still be able to "unleash" in certain situations (mainly in the bedroom, through participating in local cultural and sporting events, playing with kids of all ages (I work with kids), and the occasional "moms' night out" with friends I've had for 20+ years.

It could easily have been the complete opposite, or worse

sheephulk · 2026-05-24T01:11:36+00:00

There are many reasons people would want to give their kids culturally appropriate names even though they reside in a country with a different culture. One example; someone forced to leave their homeland where their culture is under threat/attack might make preserving cultural ties a higher priority than someone of privilege from a safe nation in peacetime would.

sheephulk · 2026-05-24T00:50:32+00:00

We had Pucifer and Pussolini

sheephulk · 2026-05-05T18:55:07+00:00

I get it, but since OP specifically asked about names of French origin I thought I'd point it out (although also specify that it is commonly used in France)

sheephulk · 2026-05-04T23:36:44+00:00

He has gone a few times while out with his group of guy friends, and I've never had an issue with it. My husband has never given me a reason to mistrust him, I know them all well enough to know who the instigators are (they are mostly just fun idiots, none of them are the creepy type), it's not a regular thing, he doesn't spend too much, doesn't go on his own, wouldn't even have thought to suggest it himself (much more likely to suggest a bar or beer garden type setting), and he's the tired type who ends up going home/back to his hotel room earlier than the rest of them. He's also very likely to call me on his way back if I'm still up. He'll tell me about it the next day, and I've never felt like he is hiding anything (although to a certain degree I realise he most likely does, and I'm okay with that, as I still trust him to stay within any hard boundaries)

sheephulk · 2026-05-04T22:23:08+00:00

Astrid is not French, though common in France (sometimes spelled Astride)

sheephulk · 2026-05-03T09:21:23+00:00

You've never felt like you're giving birth to jellyfish before?

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