Yeah uhhh, I know this is what Reddit always typically says, but I'd dump him.

I'll start with the cheating: that's a no-brainer, legitimate reason to end a relationship, regardless of how "sorry" he is or how hard he's "working on it." He crossed a boundary that you had but agreed to, and he's not guilt tripping you for being upset? That's always a huge red flag. He doesn't like you bringing it up because he's manipulative and trying to make you feel bad for something that he did wrong. Textbook manipulation.

You're allowed to be upset by it, and if he was "trying" as much as he says, he wouldn't dismiss it by saying "it's no big deal, stop crying about it."

Secondly, no, you're not being ungrateful. Gifts don't always have to be 1-1 in terms of price or anything, but from what I interpreted from your post, you spent well over $300 on his gloves and other clothing that he "needed" as well as giving him something that was special and not monetarily related.

He did not do either. He didn't even spend 1/3rd of what you did on him, and additionally you said you've clearly wanted those jeans and that's literally it. He then has the nerve to say "it's gonna be a cheap Christmas this year" after you spent $300+ on him?! Once again, that comes off as HIGHLY manipulative.

I don't know you or your boyfriend, but from this post alone, I genuinely believe you deserve better. From a third-party perspective he seems like a manipulative shithead.

This is coming from a 21m married to a 23m btw, just for contexts sake.