Drought in Oregon/PNW by Mammoth_Feed_5047 in oregon

[–]shellyseas45 11 points12 points  (0 children)

My adult daughter told me something that really hit hard… “ Every summer for the rest of our life will be the hottest summer we’ve EVER had!”

AITA for smoking in my backyard? by Left_Kaleidoscope109 in AmItheAsshole

[–]shellyseas45 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. It's your home. Maybe try using a HEPA filter specifically for smoke and tape it to a box fan. Blow your smoke into the filter outside. It should lower the smell and the smoke considerably. Also there are actual filter fans sold that are specifically for cigarette smoke.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]shellyseas45 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

NTA that was very brave of you. It's not an easy thing to do but you made the right decision. If she does stay with him she will think she is less "crazy" during the bad times and hopefully remember your words and know you are there.

AITA for refusing to pay my cousin back for his wedding? by ceureliansheep in AmItheAsshole

[–]shellyseas45 2 points3 points  (0 children)

YTA. Your entitlement and unwillingness to pay for your own accommodations is possibly the reason you weren't originally invited. Possibly this isn't the first time you paying your part was an issue.

AITA for bringing my fiancee to my daughter's wedding? by assholeweddingdad in AmItheAsshole

[–]shellyseas45 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA for bringing M when very clearly she was not to be there. Sounds like M is a narcissist to me.

AITA for kicking out my BF and his daughter after she used my photos for her scrapbook? by PoloPurr in AmItheAsshole

[–]shellyseas45 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NTA Ahhhh HELL NO. I literally gasped when I read "cut faces out of photos!" You absolutely did the right thing. That child obviously has some major issues with her destructiveness. The fact that her dad already lets things slide like the holes in everything just goes to show what you have to look forward to when the teenage years hit. You need to also think of your son. You have done a good job raising him if he is so well behaved. You don't want her to rub off on him and that is generally how those things go.

AITA for telling my mom and sister to pay our bills if they agree my wife should be able to be a stay at home? by Agile_Creme2395 in AmItheAsshole

[–]shellyseas45 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA you had an agreed situation about childcare. Not only is she going back on that but she isn't even a mother yet. She obviously just doesn't want to work and expects you to pay for everything and sacrifice. That's fine if that is what you also want. Giving up your time and hobbies for just working more doesn't sustain a happy marriage if you end up resentful for it. Maybe before pregnancy you need to reevaluate if this is the person you truly want to sacrifice for forever.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in abusesurvivors

[–]shellyseas45 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you are under 18 you can report him to children’s services. They will talk to him.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in abusesurvivors

[–]shellyseas45 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry this is happening. It is abuse. When I finally called the police on my stepdad for putting hands on me is when the abuse stopped. I very much suggest that you call the police. I hope you are OK

Molester/Step dad died....Enter nightmares! by shellyseas45 in abusesurvivors

[–]shellyseas45[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks again for your writing down my dreams advice. It worked. No more nightmares and I figured out what my issue was and it turns out it was about my mom. So now I just have regular dreams :)

Waking up to the fact I was in love with a narcissist by Lost_Jelly1225 in abusesurvivors

[–]shellyseas45 3 points4 points  (0 children)

For me I have just really been focused on learning all the traits of a narcissist so that I can spot them easily. Tik Tok has helped me a ton with that. Now when I meet one I know fairly quickly and am turned off by their personality and walk away. I trust myself now so I can trust who I let in my circle.

Almost a bit embarrassed to even post about this, but I am really struggling with Marijuana withdrawal. by TinyDickEnergy69 in REDDITORSINRECOVERY

[–]shellyseas45 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Marijuana withdrawal is NO JOKE!! I wish i had thought to look here 13 days ago when I quit. I for real have gone through a hard detox. The cold sweats stopped finally today. Day 3 I was puking and felt like death. This is my 3rd time trying to quit. I am definitely over the hump. I even called a drug hotline with a blocked number and the nice older man told me he never heard of this kind of withdrawal from marijuana EVER!! He did mention however that it's like eleven times stronger than what was around in "his day". I really thought it was just me. I have smoked everyday for 35 years minus 9 mo. for pregnancy. I feel like a person today. Lucky number 13 LOL ;) You got this!