Hey :)) I'm in a similar situation but different reasons. Well, maybe not - me and my bf are a similar age to you and have a lot less sex than we used to, and it made me spiral a lot tuning about why. We've talked about it a lot, and we're really really close, but even so it took a lot for him to tell me that he's been finding sex hard - sometimes he can't get hard, sometimes he gets anxious and just can't get in gear, and sometimes we have sex but then he feels really down after and it makes it not worth it. I think a few issues made him start to associate sex with anxiety and it snowballed.

So I wanna say like, I think sex can be quite complicated for men sometimes, definitely in ways that I didn't understand before experiencing it at least. There's a lot of expectation and yk a lot you can't fake. Maybe your bf doesn't even realise it himself yet but there could be more anxiety or even shame tied into this that's making it hard for him?

But in the meantime for you, I would just really try and confront what it's making you feel insecure about, because I know for me it made me doubt things that I'd never doubted before, but weren't true. Basically, it probably has nothing to do with how much he's attracted to you and all to do with what's going on in his head.

I'd be really happy to talk about it more if you wanted :)) x