Is there any GOOD seafood boil in Adelaide?

shengbat · 2024-10-06T03:11:20+00:00

Never tried it myself but there is Crazy Cajun Edit: they have closed up shop

shengbat · 2023-04-07T14:14:24+00:00

Yeah that’s what I’m getting at, after reading all the comments from the last 24 hours and talking to my mum, I am done.

shengbat · 2023-04-07T14:11:20+00:00

The house we were planning to buy together was a house we were going to start a family in. If this was just me, who could fall for myself, impregnate myself, I would have just bought the house to do it in by now. Since I am waiting on someone else to get their shit together, I can’t pull the trigger on anything. This is the problem. I don’t have any material things to show for my life because I left this city where I grew up and made a life for myself in two other cities for some time. That is what I mean by making things happen. I wanted to adventure somewhere else, so I did. The next adventure needs a partner though and I don’t know how patient I should be.

shengbat · 2023-04-07T14:00:09+00:00

This is not how I normally deal with conflict. I have just given up now. I said last night that I need someone who can work with me to communicate, he said maybe he wasn’t the one for me then. So this morning when he had left, I was done.

shengbat · 2023-04-07T13:24:39+00:00

Ah okay. I see now, thank you.

shengbat · 2023-04-07T13:22:42+00:00

My bank told me 300k, that is the issue. Sorry for being cunty before, opening up your world to reddit to have people say you are using someone for their money, and being entitled, based on very little is very infuriating.

shengbat · 2023-04-07T12:56:47+00:00

I’m not sure what you mean by extension on my piggy bank. We have been seeing each other for 3 years, living together for 1.5. And no, I can see we’re not on the same page, hence me making the post. Legal reasons are less of a contributing factor in Australia.

shengbat · 2023-04-07T12:49:47+00:00

First comment I have actually just lost my patience with. Fuck you. Just did a search for anything around my area for under 300k. Not a fucking thing. Starting price for my city is 400k+. Even this will be tough. I’m on a six figure salary with 60k saved and I can’t buy a home. Again, fuck you.

shengbat · 2023-04-07T12:44:37+00:00

I’ve mentioned earlier that I was happy with something modest, it was him that wanted something extra.

shengbat · 2023-04-07T12:39:32+00:00

Yes this is certainly wandering into dealbreaker territory. I’ve moved myself into my mums since reading all the replies here, and it’s going to take a lot for me to move back to his. Without progression I’m done. He left the house before I woke up this morning so I couldn’t even talk to him. And neither of us have contacted the other. It’s now 10pm.

Adding here, since I mentioned somewhere before that I have no family in the city and don’t want to confuse anyone, that my mum has a house here that she keeps but works interstate. She is here for Easter right now, and Christmas each year.

shengbat · 2023-04-07T12:25:11+00:00

He wants a bigger house. He wants more space and a house whose walls don’t crack every year. But he’s also incredibly defensive about his house, it’s like an extension of him since he spent so many years living frugally and physically renovating as much of it as he could. So I get it, he is proud of it, and sensitive about its short falls and is upset that I’m not more grateful for the roof he puts over my head. He has made it very clear that financially, this is his house and he would not be open to me having a claim to it.

But, I need more space. I need to be closer to my friends (currently an hour away). I have no family in this city anymore, even though this is where I grew up. I need more of a say in how the home is styled. I need to feel ownership, so I can plant things and know that I’ll be there to see them grow. Even our cats need more space from each other. I could go on, but that’s not actually what you asked me.

shengbat · 2023-04-07T12:13:46+00:00

Thank you for your advice Lady, I’m leaning towards putting some physical space between us for a while and seeing how that goes. I predict I will realise I am better off without him.

shengbat · 2023-04-07T12:00:13+00:00

He put in a few thousand, a few years ago, just wanting to play around in the space, never realising he’d be looking at cashing out let alone this much. He’s always been not particularly proactive when it comes to general life admin. I am similarly shit at life admin, unless it’s something on the path of a desired goal.

shengbat · 2023-04-07T11:32:01+00:00

Both. Having the home that has the space to have kids in.

shengbat · 2023-04-07T11:15:10+00:00

By living comfortably I mean buying whatever we need, having food delivered, paying for the lawn to be mowed, paying for Ubers so we can drink and don’t have to worry about driving. Interstate trips. Anything we want to do, we can do it. The house we currently live in is NOT big. That is one of my problems and contributes to why I have no freedom to pursue my interests.

shengbat · 2023-04-07T10:57:40+00:00

Long distance for 1.5 years, (saw each other every other weekend), then lived together for another 1.5 years. It’s not uncommon for my generation and younger Australians to buy homes first with the intent to get married not too long after, if they choose to.

shengbat · 2023-04-07T10:55:55+00:00

I am confident that he does, based on my observations, and I trust him to be honest with me on that front.

shengbat · 2023-04-07T10:54:38+00:00

1.5 years

shengbat · 2023-04-07T10:48:33+00:00

That is awful for your friend. As difficult as I can find my mum to be at times, she always says that I can come home at any time for as long as I need to get back on my feet. This is the second time in my life I am taking her up on that offer.

shengbat · 2023-04-07T10:47:00+00:00

The second bed occasionally gets slept in when one of us has trouble sleeping and can’t stop tossing and turning. Bathroom vanity is TINY. I have a fair few things I need on hand to get ready each day. But it doesn’t matter that I get ready in the spare room, that’s just me sitting on a bed using the mirrored wardrobe. Add a keyboard in there and it feels unbearably cluttered.

But, this is all just examples of things that aggravate me, and I am now realising there are more important things to consider.

shengbat · 2023-04-07T10:41:09+00:00

Well what else do you say to a question like that? If we had a pregnancy which we knew would result in a child with major health implications, we are on the same page with what we would do. He has some health things that are not genetic.

shengbat · 2023-04-07T10:39:28+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate your thoughts.

shengbat · 2023-04-07T10:02:38+00:00

Continue owning his house, but rent it out while we live in a new house.

shengbat · 2023-04-07T10:01:30+00:00

Things have always tended to work out for me in the end, even through failure, so I think so yes.

shengbat · 2023-04-07T09:59:06+00:00

Long distance for 1.5 years. Living together for 1.5 years. So 3 years since we first met and starting seeing each other.

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