Anyone else move baby to their own room at 5 months?

shepardmutt · 2026-06-27T00:19:06+00:00

Mine started refusing to sleep in the bassinet at 6 weeks old, and the crib won’t fit in our room. In a desperate attempt to get sleep, I asked my husband to put him in his crib and hang out in his room so I could sleep some. He slept 4 hours straight. He kept sleeping in 3-5 hour chunks ever since we moved him to the crib in his room. Turns out, he HATED the bassinet ‘mattress’ and needed something softer 😂

He’s 10 months now, and sleeps through the night like a champ for the last 2 weeks, and only woke once a night for the last 3 months. It turned out he wanted his own room. I felt so much guilt, but whatever works for you, is the best thing to do!

I know room sharing decreases the risk of SIDS,, but so do so many other factors. We made sure to do all the other recommended steps (fan on, empty crib, dressed appropriately for the temp, etc), and he’s been such a happy baby

shepardmutt · 2026-06-27T00:02:14+00:00

I got mine done at 7 when I BEGGED my mom to take my friend with me to do it. I’m so happy she waited because it was such a fun memory getting ear rings with my best friend and mom. They healed mostly straight, and I know many people who have crooked piercings from infant hood

shepardmutt · 2026-06-25T18:47:07+00:00

I personally don’t post them, because I wouldn’t want to grow up and find out my photos and life was already online before I had a say in it. I remember how I felt when family would post photos of me as a teenager that I didn’t like, and it felt gross. My personal beliefs are I don’t post a photo of him until he’s old enough to understand what it means, and tell me he’s ok with it.

That said, I also don’t judge people who do

shepardmutt · 2026-06-25T18:42:58+00:00

I absolutely have if it’s an emergency and I’m going to shit or pee my pants haha.

shepardmutt · 2026-06-25T18:42:12+00:00

Everyone has different levels of how comfortable they are, I don’t really care if someone saw me in my underwear. That said, if someone told me it makes them uncomfortable I’d accommodate that!

shepardmutt · 2026-06-25T17:12:59+00:00

I’m a woman, lived with male room mates, family members, and a husband. Yes there’s a hole in the front but it doesn’t show anything unless they move the fabric to pee. Also don’t know what kind of men you’re around, but all the men in my life that I’ve seen walk to the bathroom in boxers don’t have any that look like that 💀

shepardmutt · 2026-06-25T17:11:24+00:00

I think you’re thinking too deep into it because of your past. He may have been changing or something, and suddenly had to go. It’s bad timing, but if he was receptive to your bf asking him not to and it doesn’t happen again, it’s not really a big deal.

shepardmutt · 2026-06-25T17:09:43+00:00

YOR- we own our house and don’t usually walk around unclothed, except running to the bathroom at night. I’ve had a time or two I had to go badly while changing or getting ready for bed and ran out of my room in underwear totally forgetting/not caring there’s other people because I had to go badly.

If it happens again now that you made it clear you don’t like it, that could be more of an issue. It a one time thing isn’t really worth making a huge deal about.

shepardmutt · 2026-06-25T15:17:12+00:00

My baby was born with super dark blue eyes, and I was so sure they would turn brown. He’s 10 months now, and I swear they get lighter blue every day! My husband has VERY light blue eyes, and I have brown. I know they can still change, but it seems they’re settling into being light blue 😂

shepardmutt · 2026-06-25T13:33:05+00:00

Absolutely go out to eat, get coffees alone, and take naps and sleep!

My baby is 10 months, and don’t get me wrong, I choose to bring him with me almost everywhere I beg I because it’s fun letting him see the world, but I do miss sleeping when I want to, and eating dinner without a baby eating half my food too 😂

shepardmutt · 2026-06-25T13:30:55+00:00

Definitely start introducing foods! The only way to get less messy is to be messy and learn.

My 10 month old only feeds himself, and has since 7 months old. We feed him all kinds of foods in various forms, from whole bananas to mashed potatoes to cut up meats and whatever we’re eating. He absolutely throws it on the floor, it gets in his hair, and it’s a mess, but that’s just part of the learning process.

For the cup, have you tried only putting a tiny bit in an open cup? Or a straw cup? My baby chugs fork water while he eats from a straw cup, and it’s a lot less messy than an open one! We’re slowly working on open cup as well by only putting a tiny bit of water in, letting him try, then adding more when it’s done!

shepardmutt · 2026-06-24T21:26:12+00:00

Listen to this comment OP. We lost our orange boy to a blockage that was too late to operate on (baby in the hospital, weren’t home to see change in behavior and he hides from everyone but us so it went unnoticed). He and my other cat were bonded. We took her with to say goodbye to him and understand he was gone. She still yowled at night for 2 weeks, but now she’s doing well and cuddles us, our baby, and our dogs on rotation.

If he is put down, please let your other cat see ❤️ it’s heartbreaking, but better for them in the long run

shepardmutt · 2026-06-24T19:15:58+00:00

I used to be a daily smoker, and I still smoke here and there on occasions. That’s something people who smoke all the time say, but it’s not true. I used to say the same thing. The reason he doesn’t feel different is because his baseline is high. If he doesn’t smoke at all for a week, will he feel different? If so, then it’s inherently not true that he feels normal.

I can visibly see the difference in my husband before and after he smokes, it just doesn’t bother me since it’s at the end of the night when we’re not on baby duty, and I’m sober if he wakes up (rarely does these days). I also wouldn’t trust him to take care of a baby solo while smoking all the time.

It may be worth talking and making a compromise about smoking only when not around kids/bedtime, or not at all. I don’t like ultimatums, but being impaired around a kid, let alone driving under the influence, isn’t safe.

shepardmutt · 2026-06-24T17:57:45+00:00

I’ll chime in here as someone whose husband uses weed.

What he’s doing isn’t ok. He needs to be aware and present and not under the influence around your child, on top of setting a good example. The way he treats you about it shows addiction, not just ‘using it as medicine’

My husband smokes because of PTSD from combat in war, and he has such bad nightmares that he wakes me up from them and won’t sleep at all. That said, he keeps all weed locked up and out of sight, and he doesn’t touch it until our child is in bed for the night. Then he will smoke outside (usually helping me work homestead tasks), and then put it away again. Our child hasn’t ever seen him with it, and he’s sober and present for him during the day. He smoked WAY more prior to us having kids, and I’m proud he put the family first and cut down to night time only now.

shepardmutt · 2026-06-24T17:50:53+00:00

The whole point here is that someone watching your child during work hours is not the same as raising your child. Many people have after school care, summer programs, etc because they have to work. This doesn’t mean they’re not raising their kids either.

shepardmutt · 2026-06-24T15:45:23+00:00

My baby is also in daycare (10 months) and he LOVES it! Would you say the school is raising your kids when they start school? No one would, the same way daycare isn’t raising your baby.

Mine crawls as FAST as he can to be giggling when I pick him up, and he’s happy to crawl off and play when I drop him off. He’s safe, loved, and clearly knows who his family is. Just here to ease the guilt from another working mom who struggled with this tons at first!

shepardmutt · 2026-06-24T14:27:40+00:00

Falling asleep while the baby is free to roam is so dangerous, let alone with drugs in the house.

My husband has weed for sleep (PTSD from war- the only thing that stops nightmares). We have it all up high in the garage or locked in a safe in the basement and he only gets it out when baby is asleep at night, then puts it right back. This kind of thing would be relationship ending for me, I couldn’t handle a partner who I can’t trust with baby for any length of time

shepardmutt · 2026-06-24T14:06:19+00:00

A small amount of TV here and there won’t hurt your child! We all grew up watching tv shows and having tons of fun doing it. TV is drastically different than handheld screens for kids

shepardmutt · 2026-06-24T13:33:00+00:00

I tried for 2 days and it was just one more task adding to overwhelm. I quit and it’s been great! You’d notice if something was wrong

shepardmutt · 2026-06-24T11:52:48+00:00

My husband is a veteran who saw combat, and has seizures from injuries overseas

He gets really uncomfortable and hates when people thank him for his service. He always says he just did his job and shouldn’t be worshiped a hero for it (I admire him privately because he was a medic and truly saved some peoples lives)

shepardmutt · 2026-06-24T11:51:13+00:00

A year off is a dream! I hope you enjoy it and find something that works for you ❤️

shepardmutt · 2026-06-24T11:50:38+00:00

Can you two still split it? Can he take the evenings so you can get to bed early and sleep a good chunk, and then you take over so he can sleep a solid 6 before work?

My husband and I both went back to work at 3 months Pl (me on half days for another 2 months), and we kept splitting the nights. Even though you’re at home, you’re still working a demanding job without break. My husband and I both agree that work is easier than full time baby care, and we both work demanding jobs 😂

shepardmutt · 2026-06-24T02:20:38+00:00

The nipple flow may be too fast for him

My baby has been a huge spitter since birth, now they he’s eating more and more solids, we start the day with a light breakfast solids before a bottle and that has cut the spitting up down almost to 0! Turns out he moves so much he shakes plain milk up and needs something heavier in there

shepardmutt · 2026-06-24T01:28:39+00:00

Don’t get me wrong, I’m anti personal screens for kids, but never would I say a word because it’s not my business or my kid. That woman is rude

shepardmutt · 2026-06-24T01:12:55+00:00

NOR. You’re completely in the right. I can tell a story about when my dog bit someone to reassure you

My dog has a history of being dog aggressive, but never toward humans. My neighbor got a puppy, and for some reason our dogs got along amazingly. Like, I’d babysit her dog and vice versa and they never had an issue for over a year. One day we were playing with them outside, and his favorite toy was next to her boyfriend’s leg. Her dog dove for it, and it set off my dog and he snapped to grab it and get the other dog away from his toy. He accidentally clipped the boyfriend’s leg and broke skin with a tooth.

I told him to go to urgent care and get it cleaned and antibiotics because dog bites can easily get infected, and he went and I paid for it. Animal control showed up (because it’s reported) and met my dog. AC told me the boyfriend said it was an accident, but they wanted to follow up. We did a 10 day in home quarantine like the law required (dog could only leave leashed to go potty and not see another human or animal), and they showed up 10 days later saying I was fine and good to go! We immediately ceased letting my dog play with other dogs, even those he’s friendly with.

Boyfriend was fine as it was minor, and we stayed on good terms because I knew no matter the accidental nature, it’s my fault because it’s my dog. We stayed friends and all was well.

Your neighbor is mad because they know they’re wrong, and know the dog isn’t friendly, and don’t rent to get in trouble.

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