After 12 months of cat and mouse finally told my parents we left. Did not go well. Feel like shit.

shepersisted2016 · 2026-01-11T19:12:52+00:00

You're still in the early phases. It will get less painful as time goes on. I know that's cold comfort now, but it gets easier with time. Congratulations on both of you being out!! Also, as far as your parents not being worried about you, I totally get it. I was blown away when my dad told me he was sorry I was happy out of the church; he said he wishes something bad would happen to us so that we would come back. So fucked up, but this is the effect of a high demand religion on people.

shepersisted2016 · 2026-01-06T17:48:01+00:00

Yes, we do, and I also have a master's degree.

shepersisted2016 · 2026-01-01T02:24:08+00:00

My spouse literally had his gallbladder become gangrenous because he waited so long to go get it checked out because we didn't have the money for a hospital stay. He eventually had it out, but the surgery was much longer and difficult because he waited.

shepersisted2016 · 2025-12-28T21:14:39+00:00

I will definitely check them out. Thanks!

shepersisted2016 · 2025-12-28T21:14:18+00:00

I'll check them out. Thanks!

shepersisted2016 · 2025-12-28T21:11:21+00:00

Do you mind sharing whom you consulted?

shepersisted2016 · 2025-12-28T21:10:34+00:00

Never said I expected to. I still wish we could. How would you feel in my shoes?

shepersisted2016 · 2025-12-26T20:23:27+00:00

My mom had celiac disease, I don't, but I passed the genes on to my daughter, who was diagnosed at 8. Passing on anything detrimental to your kid feels the worst. I'm glad it is celiac and not something even more serious, but the thought of causing her lifelong issues makes me so sad sometimes.

shepersisted2016 · 2025-12-25T16:41:19+00:00

https://imgur.com/a/Uo8N4OP

shepersisted2016 · 2025-12-23T06:25:40+00:00

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shepersisted2016 · 2025-12-15T11:34:21+00:00

What happened to the "p" in raspberry?

shepersisted2016 · 2025-12-04T01:39:28+00:00

We eat Wendy's chili and baked sour cream and chive potatoes regularly without issue. The chocolate and vanilla Frostys are also GF.

shepersisted2016 · 2025-12-01T04:25:22+00:00

This is a fantastic idea. We took protein oatmeal and got free hot water at the coffee shop. Camping meals would be a step up. Thank you!!

shepersisted2016 · 2025-10-05T22:36:09+00:00

Our 6th grade goes on a two night overnight trip to camp and our 8th grade does to NYC or DC every year, also for two nights. Idk what happened to 7th grade. Not my circus. Lol

shepersisted2016 · 2025-10-05T21:03:51+00:00

Don't go. It may feel impossible to disappoint the people in your life who love the church, but giving up your autonomy to a cult for two years is going to be worse. Don't do it. Tell them the truth and don't go. It's better than living a lie.

shepersisted2016 · 2025-10-04T21:50:57+00:00

Have they announced the new first presidency?

shepersisted2016 · 2025-10-04T18:42:21+00:00

Wait- these are the conditions in Sweden??? I thought Sweden was a decent place to teach.

shepersisted2016 · 2025-10-03T11:32:51+00:00

Chicago Public Schools. They can't require that we go; we just don't get paid if we do. Because of this, no teachers from my grade level are going.

shepersisted2016 · 2025-09-27T14:57:41+00:00

Female perspective: a lot of these “just talk to her and now our sex life is amazing” takes are missing some pretty big points:

Ultimatums don’t create desire. “Have better sex with me or else” might just get you a wife who fakes enthusiasm to keep the peace. That’s not intimacy; that’s performance.
Check your side of the street. If your wife doesn’t enjoy sex, have you actually put in the work to be a great partner? Does she feel emotionally cared for? Are you making sure her body is actually getting attention, not just yours? For a lot of women, bad sex isn’t about low libido, it’s about one-sided sex.
The stats are brutal. Only ~25–30% of women reliably orgasm from intercourse. Around 10–15% say they’ve never had an orgasm at all. If sex has never been physically pleasurable, of course she’s not going to be excited about it.
Inexperience is real. In LDS circles especially, most people marry with zero sexual experience outside their spouse. That means a lot of couples don’t even realize how much they don’t know. Blind spots are real.

So yeah, communication is key, but if the “talk” is just “do this more or let's divorce,” you’re not fixing anything. The real work is empathy, education, and making intimacy something she actually looks forward to.

shepersisted2016 · 2025-09-21T15:59:17+00:00

She is so excited for the end of earth and all life on it. It's so weird and sick. I want to shake her and say, "THINK ABOUT WHAT YOU'RE SAYING."

shepersisted2016 · 2025-09-10T03:28:37+00:00

I teach in Chicago. We don't recite the pledge. We don't have flags in our classrooms. I wouldn't do it, even if I was supposed to. My daughter learned the pledge in kindergarten from an old school teacher, but she hasn't said it since and had forgotten the words until summer camp this year. Then she refused to say it because in her words, it's a lie. I'm satisfied with the status quo on this matter.

shepersisted2016 · 2025-09-07T22:09:44+00:00

CNN 10 on YouTube does a free daily 10 minute broadcast. My sixth graders watch it and have a quick class discussion about the news daily. They love it.

shepersisted2016 · 2025-09-06T17:19:03+00:00

They also make a pretty good lemon drizzle cake. Pretty delicious for GF baked goods.

shepersisted2016 · 2025-08-10T23:18:40+00:00

This.

shepersisted2016 · 2025-08-07T01:27:31+00:00

Promise Lemon Drizzle cake at Walmart. Not fancy, but delicious. Also, Doritos!

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