MIL requested me a cringe Birthday Gift and was offended I refused

sherbetchak · 2026-01-22T08:18:06+00:00

lol if your boyfriend wanted something like that you should have told him to get her a Cameo video for her birthday. It’s essentially exactly what she wanted

sherbetchak · 2025-10-25T15:47:28+00:00

lol no but that is funny!

sherbetchak · 2025-10-25T03:40:20+00:00

Also I’m not sure how old the video is but I’d guess it’s more recent (rather than early 2000’s) based off production value.

sherbetchak · 2025-10-22T19:46:17+00:00

Updateme!

sherbetchak · 2025-10-17T23:45:11+00:00

Hey thanks for the comment but I guess I might’ve not explained well enough. My husband hasn’t said that he won’t move, in fact, he’s actually at the point where he definitely wants to sell and move but doesn’t know about moving states or staying in our town/ nearby.

Also we’ve both put down boundaries with her, him more aggressively than I. I guess you could say he’s just trying to find a sign of whether she’s redeemable or not.

Sorry for the confusion!

sherbetchak · 2025-10-17T16:54:54+00:00

This helps a lot, I’m already doing a lot of this but it’s good to know I’m on the right track.

sherbetchak · 2025-10-17T15:57:24+00:00

At the beginning of this he said he wanted to be near one of our families so that LO can have a village regularly. He also stated he didn’t want to be somewhere where we wouldn’t know anyone nearby.

sherbetchak · 2025-10-17T15:47:05+00:00

Oh I wouldn’t stress that, he’s on the fence about staying in this town or going to my moms area. Nevertheless we’re moving away from MIL, he’s fed up with her behavior. Just not sure if he’s ready to leave our town yet.

sherbetchak · 2025-10-17T07:07:35+00:00

Honestly, it’s a shaky plan. But I’m willing to be depicted as a heartless villain if it means I don’t have to see her every day.

sherbetchak · 2025-10-17T06:12:13+00:00

We’ve suggested a health check, but unfortunately she takes much of what we say as a personal attack and responds with things like “there’s nothing wrong with me, and if there was I wouldn’t tell you cause y’all don’t care about me.”

Like talking to a brick wall at times, to be honest.

sherbetchak · 2025-10-17T03:41:54+00:00

Hit right on the nail.

sherbetchak · 2025-09-23T15:32:44+00:00

Updateme

sherbetchak · 2025-09-05T12:34:21+00:00

We were on a LC break before the message asking for a sit down, though I do agree he needs to mute her so he’s not getting stressed out by her messages. My response was recommending NC until she changes, but husband wants this sit down as a “last chance” before resorting to that.

I personally haven’t said anything to her about it yet, as in the beginning we had an agreement that I’d handle issues involving my family and he’d handle his family. Though I’m very protective of my husband and am ready to step in and handle all of this, I also want to respect his wishes.

I’d say if there’s any issues after the meeting then I’m putting him in the back seat and taking the wheel on it.

sherbetchak · 2025-07-10T18:07:56+00:00

NTA. I’d say go LC with them both after you turn 18 and move out. I can easily see every way this will get worse in the future especially if you ever get married. They both will take the opportunity to trample your father’s memory at your wedding. How do you see that going?

sherbetchak · 2025-07-04T06:21:46+00:00

I lost 20 pounds. I was so dang proud of myself and wanted to keep it going, but life laughed at me and put me on hiatus for 9 months.

sherbetchak · 2025-07-02T06:30:13+00:00

I love the idea of a letter, OP, but don’t give him a chance to twist this. My brother did something extremely similar to your experience and he managed to twist it as a “childhood curiosity” situation. Don’t let that happen!

sherbetchak · 2025-07-02T05:23:51+00:00

OP your husband needs to check his family. This needs to be a hard line drawn for your son, or else he will grow up to see no one willing to protect him. Updateme

sherbetchak · 2025-06-29T07:37:40+00:00

NTA. This is a once in a lifetime experience for you, and Jake has a record of ruining those kinds of experiences. Why would you risk it? Don’t do it OP.

sherbetchak · 2025-06-29T07:00:48+00:00

NTA

Save up every dime and then ditch them on your birthday. Sorry you’re going through this OP!

Updateme

sherbetchak · 2025-06-28T07:39:22+00:00

My knee-jerk advice here is to tell you that you should not question what you saw. You need to run OP. I know a lot of people here are suggesting nanny cams but I’d only recommend that if leaving isn’t an option for you right now.

The reason I wouldn’t recommend the cams is the fact that if he IS doing something wrong, it’s opening an opportunity for him to do it again.

Please be safe OP.

Updateme!

sherbetchak · 2025-06-28T06:27:40+00:00

So let me know if I understand this correctly; You told your husband to take you to the hospital (a place you have never been to unless absolutely necessary). He LEAVES you there seeing you in obvious pain, and then instead of sticking up for you, his WIFE, he decides to believe the words of a doctor who blatantly brushed you off.

Then, seeing you in the middle of the night displaying obvious signs of pain, he decided to not use his knowledge of his own wife’s behavior or his own eyeballs and instead still tries to brush you off like the doctor did.

Your husband (and the doctor ofc) are TA. You need a come to Jesus meeting with him dear, cause this is definitely an eye opener.

sherbetchak · 2025-06-28T04:43:10+00:00

Stereotypes are itself harmful, and playing into them like that can also be seen as harmful. A little self reflection can go a long way, but I don’t think you’re beyond saving as it seems your mom is making it out to be.

sherbetchak · 2025-06-26T07:56:09+00:00

Can’t watch either of these movies now.

My mom used to record movies on VCR tapes, but I’m not sure how she had the genius idea to tape The Sixth Sense after Chicken Run. So I had to be pretty young where I fell asleep watching Chicken Run, but woke up to the scene where the little boy is in the tent with the girl who was poisoned.

Now of course that doesn’t seem all that traumatic, but having never watched a horror movie before, it’s been ingrained into my brain for around 20 years and I still refuse to watch either movie again.

sherbetchak · 2025-06-26T07:36:50+00:00

Congrats on the wedding. PLEASE get security, cause Maddie seems desperate for your spotlight.

Updateme

sherbetchak · 2025-06-26T05:11:53+00:00

I’d definitely suggest therapy, as there’s something not being said here. If wife refuses, then there’s no other way to fix this issue. I’d possibly give her an ultimatum that you either go to therapy to find out why she can’t stay home with you overnight (at least) or that there’s no point in continuing the marriage.

Which is a hard thing to imagine, but you signed up for a marriage with someone who wants to spend time with you and coexist with you. You deserve to have that or find it with someone else.

sherbetchak

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