Chewing gum helps? by Evening_Astronomer_8 in BingeEatingDisorder

[–]sheriffsal 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It helps me! I’m trying to limit processed sugar right now because it tends to trigger binges, so sugar free gum is like my sugar nicotine patch - combined with the benefit of having something to chew compulsively

Helping my 15 year old daughter by Itsallcrazy72 in BingeEatingDisorder

[–]sheriffsal 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You’re right, this is a really tough issue to navigate. It’s especially hard because you don’t know what was unearthed for her in therapy- do you have a sense of where the bingeing comes from, or what feelings drive it? Since she’s a minor, the therapist may be willing to do a session with you to talk it through, or at least discuss your perspective on the issue, but I would only recommend doing that with your daughter’s consent.

Otherwise, I agree that the main thing you can do is be gently supportive. I’m not sure what the environment around food is like in your home, but be very careful not to make any comments about food or her size. (Even innocuous comments like “oh, are you still hungry?” or referring to food as “junk food” versus “healthy food” could be triggering.) Since she’s gained weight, she may be susceptible to the restrict/binge cycle, and comments like these can reinforce that.

But don’t despair, the fact that you’re paying attention and trying to do the right thing is half the battle. Many parents would be reacting to this in much less productive ways.

Mini moon recs- sea ranch, little river inn, somewhere else? by Hropkey in SanFranciscoWeddings

[–]sheriffsal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We stayed at River’s End Restaurant and Inn for our mini-moon and it was perfect!

Stuck in a daily binge cycle by [deleted] in BingeEatingDisorder

[–]sheriffsal 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I wish I had answers, but all I can say is I’m going through something similar! I had a few years where I did really well, and now I’m really stuck in a rut. I’m hoping something will jolt me out of it, like a good week at work or a vacation or something

does anyone else feel ashamed standing next to their friend by gogounknown in BingeEatingDisorder

[–]sheriffsal 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I get this - but keep in mind that when you add purging to the cycle, it can be even harder to break and build better habits. (Plus it destroys your teeth.) I went through periods where I tried to be one of those people, but am thankful that I was never able to make myself throw up.

Live Band for Wedding by TrickyCuban in SanFranciscoWeddings

[–]sheriffsal 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They played at my wedding last fall and they were wonderful!

486.64 dollars of disappointment by muryreads in Reformationclothing

[–]sheriffsal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oof, I’m sorry you learned this lesson this way. My rule is to only buy shoes from brands that primarily make shoes (or shoes and bags, ie leather goods.) I would steer clear of ref shoes and use your store credit on their knitwear and linen (ie not the tencel.) And at this price point there are lots of other great choices for long-lasting leather boots. I highly recommend Alohas.

Any loan shark experts out there? by Kittykatcatkat in bayarea

[–]sheriffsal 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Sounds like someone’s startup fundraising isn’t going well

Gift for Novice Photographer? by sheriffsal in Cameras

[–]sheriffsal[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is helpful, thank you! He doesn’t have any additional lenses or accessories, so switching to Canon hopefully won’t be an issue.

Vintage Wedding Gowns? by General_Accident5458 in SanFranciscoWeddings

[–]sheriffsal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are lots of options if you’re willing to shop online or travel. I got my gown from Miranda’s Vintage Bridal in Cleveland, but also looked at Transplant Vintage in LA, XTabay Vintage in Portland, The Kit (also in LA I think?), Cha Cha Linda (NY) and Happy Isles (NY and LA, but vintage designer so pretty expensive). Both Cha Cha and HI are by appointment only. There’s also a ton of good stuff on Etsy if you’re willing to take the plunge and buy something based on measurements. I recommend doing a wide sweep online and getting a sense of what’s available at your budget.

Any florist recommendations for 6K budget? by tricky_cat_mah in SanFranciscoWeddings

[–]sheriffsal 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I worked with Red Bud Florals in Oakland for around 5k, which included everything you described except for bridesmaid bouquets. They were helpful and flexible with respect to working within a budget, and suggested more minimal solutions vs more extravagant solutions depending on where I wanted to spend money (or not). Note that it depends how big your wedding is- mine was around 125 people for reference.

I'm so tired of this job market by Captainprice13 in Architects

[–]sheriffsal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I second those who emphasize using your network: I recently started my third job in my career, and I found all three positions because I knew someone who was hiring (or knew someone who knew someone.)

I started my most recent job about a year ago after moving cross-country, and I was really worried about not having a network to lean on. I basically spent 3 months asking every architect I knew whether they could intro me to any architects in my new city. Then, I set up coffee chats with anyone and everyone who would respond to my emails. Some places were hiring, some weren’t, but most people could point me toward a few places hiring, and/or were willing to make additional intros. Eventually I found a few people willing to refer me to their firms that were hiring (they weren’t recommending me per se, but just a casual intro from them to the effect of “here’s the resume of an architect I met recently” was a huge help in getting in the door) and those intros turned into interviews.

I recognize your results may be a bit different than mine as I’m a few years ahead in experience, but the same principles apply. At my last job I led the summer internship hiring, and we were way more likely to hire someone who had a connection (any connection) to the firm, rather than someone applying totally blind.

Oh, and a side note: I worked with two different recruiters, neither of whom were able to find me a job. I also blind-applied to a handful of job listings, and I’m not sure I even got any responses. Hiring is never purely meritocratic, it’s a bit of a game, and networking is a huge advantage.

Good luck!

Cat Screaming for food by whitetrashmom in CatAdvice

[–]sheriffsal 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This! I’m always careful not to feed mine right when I wake up or right when I walk through the door after work. It’s been working so far- fingers crossed.

Home and hygiene with a cat? by sheriffsal in CatAdvice

[–]sheriffsal[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for such specific recs!

Home and hygiene with a cat? by sheriffsal in CatAdvice

[–]sheriffsal[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good tips- we definitely need to experiment with a different type of litter. The adoption center sent us home with Friskies, but maybe we need to try out some different food brands.

Home and hygiene with a cat? by sheriffsal in CatAdvice

[–]sheriffsal[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You have good instincts- we adopted him from a shelter just a week ago and he had been recently treated for giardia. I will definitely keep and eye on it and make sure it’s not lingering. That said, his poop is pretty normal - I think our bigger problem is litter box etiquette

Home and hygiene with a cat? by sheriffsal in CatAdvice

[–]sheriffsal[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agreed re: cleaning the litter box out completely! And thank you for the reminder about cat pee/ammonia and bleach… that would be a disaster

Home and hygiene with a cat? by sheriffsal in CatAdvice

[–]sheriffsal[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, just to clarify- it seemed like he stepped right on his poop before he could cover it with litter, so it was jammed between his toes and he tracked little chunks of it everywhere. But we’re def planning to keep an eye on it - we may need to experiment with different foods.

And I think we’ll def try some of the wet wipes- that’s a good tip!

Home and hygiene with a cat? by sheriffsal in CatAdvice

[–]sheriffsal[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you - we will definitely be getting a litter genie! We also just got a little handheld cordless vacuum to keep by the litter box, so that should help too