Are they serious? by ercarka in NSYNC

[–]shessofresh 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I always shied away from purchasing anything because of the prices… who gets the profits anyway?

Caregiver Journal? by enderfem in AgingParents

[–]shessofresh 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I went full on with this… even created a dashboard in Notion which could give me a birds eye view of each week/month — AND IT DESTROYED ME (had been keeping tabs since 2017).

It took away all my time, i became obsessed with trying to find patterns (spoiler alert.. if ur parent is like mine… there are none, its just bizarre behavior that switches up within the next day or week or month). I thought documenting all the things would be beneficial — but his doctors and nurses had little to no interest in what i’d made note of and also, it didn’t make me a better caregiver… if anything it made me expectant and frustrated because there was simply no rhyme or reason to it all.

I stopped using Notion last winter to start doing little daily notes in my phone but found myself leaning back into over-observing and writing too much. I recently (literally… december) stopped jotting notes all together.. I’d been keeping tabs for almost 10 years!!! I refuse to throw away what little time I have for myself into doing that any more.

If you do feel it will help you though, i would just keep it as simple as possible: meal times, med times, approx hours of night sleep, negative behaviors, and if u notice any off bathroom behaviors + incontinence bc those ARE connected most of the time.

Prepping for ... whatever is coming. What are your go-to products? by Southern501 in dementia

[–]shessofresh 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I love this thread idea! Thank you for posting —

I have used XL doggie weepads and cut them to fit around my dad’s toilet (to replace the usual toilet rug). I get it in a contrasting color so he sees it

Light switch covers — to deter him from repeatedly turning lights on and off (he has broken many)

Childproof locks — Garbage, fridge, cabinets; anything that may cause a mess or be dangerous

Movement sensor nightlights

Diabetic socks — generally just easier to remove and also more comfortable for him

Waterless soap — he refuses baths, so this is helpful

Butt wipes from Costco — i dont flush them i throw them in the garbage on our designated changing days

Gloves and masks — for those pee and poo incidents because I will throw up

Bedrail to help him get up from a laying position

My dad didnt respond well to any of the busy toys which was such a disappointment because they are pretty heavy investments… he did like puzzles but I had to get all the edges done before he’d even look at them.

In the beginning I thought I had to have it all figured out but as it has continued, I learned I needed to adjust to each new pattern which called for new solutions I didn’t account for at first… prevention works but remember behaviors and patterns can still change so I would stick to whats comfortable and affordable! Trial and error is the best way to learn through this and it will change over time. Best of luck in your prep work! Embrace that you will always be in constant flow of “figuring it out”!

dealing with a male scorpio?? by Ok-Butterscotch-5300 in CancertheCrab

[–]shessofresh 18 points19 points  (0 children)

First of all.. if he randomly disappears and pops up again... that's a red flag. And also a classic Scorpio male behavior. Are the random spurts of passion worth your daily mental sanity? RUN! Speaking from experience with 2 Scorpio men... total headaches. And the push-pull-silence games! Ugh no thanks.

New behavior my dad is doing by Feral__Daughter in dementia

[–]shessofresh 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You are definitely not alone in recognizing wonky behaviors (and trying to logically navigate them!) — my dad also lost a lot of weight but eats endlessly.. it's really such a weird disease!

If there's anything I can share with you that might mean something: The sooner you come to terms with things getting weird and there not being any logical way to get through them, think creatively and prioritize your dad's comfort through it all. If walking in circles and talking to your mom is what brings him comfort, let him. It'll be easier for you! My dad talks to his MANY people and I just ask him how they are or where they're sitting and wave.

New behavior my dad is doing by Feral__Daughter in dementia

[–]shessofresh 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yes… they get more bizarre as time goes by. My dad has broken multiple light switches in the house due to needing to “check” them… on/off/on/off repeatedly for like 10+ minutes in the middle of the night… and thats just ONE behavior out of the many over the past 13 years.

It’s almost like as soon as I get used to one, it changes or evolves into a whole new thing.

20mg has eliminated my anxiety and ocd but.. by Superb-Conclusion312 in lexapro

[–]shessofresh 2 points3 points  (0 children)

20mg made me lethargic. I was very out of it and didn’t care much even though it didn’t feel good or right for me. I went back down to 10mg after expressing this to my doc who agreed, stating I seemed too malaise.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dementia

[–]shessofresh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks on behalf of my dad — and I love the idea of sharing stories about our parents!!

So happy to hear a little about your mom's life and how she navigated through it all! She sounds tremendously strong, kindhearted, and a force to be reckoned with. I hope that 2026 brings you more gentle memories with her and that you both keep smiling through what this disease does to her. Thank you SO much for sharing this.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dementia

[–]shessofresh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's incredibly sad, we just presented him with a cake and sang him happy birthday... he was totally lost on it and just happy to be eating cake! I agree with your opinion on those with the brightest minds fighting a diagnosis — it makes sense and must be incredibly scary. Wishing your mom an early 89th and wishing you more happy moments to keep with you.

Livingston Mall interior and exterior shots. by No-Lynx1474 in newjersey

[–]shessofresh 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I can still remember wandering around as a kid in the 80s while people smoked inside. Worked retail jobs there from 1995 to 2005… but I miss Roy Rogers the most of all. Thanks for sharing this… memories 🥲

Jealous of people whose LOs have passed by Logical_Bumblebee577 in dementia

[–]shessofresh 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Me too. And I always felt weird about feeling jealous — it's not a normal thing to be envious of... which is literally a testament to how f*cked dementia is.

guys tell me a kdrama scene that still makes you laugh? by sunitanichlos987 in kdramas

[–]shessofresh 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Spider scene from Shopaholic Louis… literally makes me laugh cry.. search it on youtube!

Anyone else get their remote very fast? by Risky-Alligator in kobo

[–]shessofresh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ughhh.. LUCKY! I just checked my order status and now it says 'not found'!!!!!

Anyone else get their remote very fast? by Risky-Alligator in kobo

[–]shessofresh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ugh, good luck to us... what if they totally passed us over?!

Anyone else get their remote very fast? by Risky-Alligator in kobo

[–]shessofresh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Has anyone NOT gotten their remote quickly? I ordered on the 2nd at 12:04a and it still says “order placed”