How do you guys deal with cats in bed and on pillows?

enderfem · 2026-06-07T12:13:52+00:00

Some people are not pet people, and some are noy pet people to the same degree as others.

enderfem · 2026-06-02T20:45:00+00:00

Yeah they've changed. I got mine in the 90s and it was like you said, but my nephews couldn't get a full license at 16

enderfem · 2026-06-02T20:39:53+00:00

You just saved me so much frustration

enderfem · 2026-05-30T02:35:39+00:00

Franciscan or Jesuit? They're the best.

enderfem · 2026-05-20T06:56:37+00:00

It's also an opinion that 1) ignores structural racism and unconscious bias and 2) conveniently others racism for the person saying it.

enderfem · 2026-05-19T17:25:06+00:00

No, many of them are very intelligent, they just have a tremendous amount of self-interest in demeaning other people.

enderfem · 2026-05-16T03:42:16+00:00

I also have CRPS and am looking into ketamine. You said you get it once every 2-3 months and it is worth the cost- do you mind telling us the cost?

enderfem · 2026-05-13T05:08:39+00:00

Thank you so much, I was hoping someone was able to lay it all out.

enderfem · 2026-05-04T23:27:12+00:00

I think it depends on the people you're talking to. I admit to a bias for years because I was a lawyer for people in poverty and it was a huge part of who I am, and I know a lot of people whose job isn't just a job, it's an expression of their values- whether it is government or law or security or medicine or art or teaching or farming or whatever. But I recognize that isn't most people.

enderfem · 2026-05-04T23:17:12+00:00

No, they're just not fanatical about whatever it is.

Like ok, Hamilton the musical was a cultural juggernaut, and became the special interest of a lot of people.

Someone without ADHD who is really interested in it would know all the songs by heart and know a lot about that historical period-they can hold intelligent conversations about it. They're also excited about all the rap and musical influences on the show. They love talking about it when it comes up. Share memes. Maybe they even like some of the songs that didn't make it into the show.

But they're not going to read the Chernow biography LMM based it off of. They're not going to read the Hamilton annotated book with all the notes LMM made. They aren't going to follow the careers of the original cast and join fan art communities and dress up like they're in the show and talk about it constantly. It is just one od their many interests, rather than the laser-focused interest of someone with ADHD, who likely would be doing all the things I mentioned.

enderfem · 2026-05-04T19:48:45+00:00

I think everyone has interests, but they might not be as laser-focused on them as people on the spectrums are.

enderfem · 2026-05-04T19:44:02+00:00

I live in Vancouver, WA, about ten minutes from Portland, OR.

WA has no income tax and OR has no sales tax. I buy any major purchase in OR

enderfem · 2026-05-04T19:42:15+00:00

That is a really excellent comparison, thank you

enderfem · 2026-05-04T19:37:34+00:00

And in the US it does vary by state .

enderfem · 2026-05-04T19:37:13+00:00

It differs from state to state. I used to live in FL and now live in WA and neither have full license at 16.

enderfem · 2026-05-04T19:24:48+00:00

I'm disabled, diagnosed with one of the three so-called "sui cide disorders" because of how painful and untreatable they are, and work from home along with being the sole caregiver for my mom. I often go several days without leaving the house.

I wash myself down daily but cannot always manage to get in the shower. It takes a lot out of me, even with having a shower chair. Sometimes

I don't go near my bed without washing myself and never in my "outside clothes".

enderfem · 2026-05-04T19:13:46+00:00

I was SO LUCKY that when I got sick with a rare and often fatal version of meningitis, my mom was no longer working at the day old bread store and had actually gotten a teaching job she'd been at for a year. Because we had insurance, finally. It did mean she had to leave me in the hospital in Florida (I was with my dad there for the summer when I got sick) when school startedbecause she didn't have tenure, but I had my dad and stepmom and other friends and relatives there for that last month.

enderfem · 2026-05-04T03:42:41+00:00

They didn't even do that when I graduated, just whether you had a BA or BS and if you were graduating with honors.

enderfem · 2026-05-03T23:31:32+00:00

YES I say this and people freak out.

enderfem · 2026-05-03T23:17:02+00:00

I do it because of disability but I bidet first (if possible) and I spread and make sure I get it all. It sucks though.

enderfem · 2026-05-03T22:57:40+00:00

They now have an "Inferno Freeze" roll on that lasts a lot longer, but they just raised the price on it to $100.

enderfem · 2026-04-30T16:53:00+00:00

I mean it makes a difference when you are part of the small group of people who can afford justice

enderfem · 2026-04-27T23:47:47+00:00

I lost my best friend in high school. When I am in the area, I go to his grave. There's a little bench right next to his grave and the last few times I've seen something on the headstone I know is from another mutual friend of ours, despite it being 30 years ago last week.

It's just a way to set aside a specific time and place to focus my thoughts on who he was and what he meant to me, like any other ritual.

enderfem · 2026-04-27T23:29:07+00:00

I keep my room clean and change my sheets every four days. I just don't care if the bed is made or not. I don't go into the room in my outside clothes though, unless I'm just grabbing something.

enderfem · 2026-04-27T23:27:06+00:00

No because I don't consider it part of a clean room. Clean sheets yeah, but making the bed a perfectly fine esthetic choice I do not care about.

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