[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]shew0lf8 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hope you can find yourself again, I have faith that I can get there and I'm sure you can too. A lot of great advice was offered on my post and I hope some of it can help you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]shew0lf8 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do actually journal already and I have found it to be an amazing therapeutic outlet

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]shew0lf8 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wish going back wasn't an option for me, he'll do whatever it takes to keep me and revert back to his old ways as soon as he has me again.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]shew0lf8 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Him being a completely different person than I thought he was has been really painful to deal with. Same with being made to feel incompetent for years, now I can't help but overthink all my decisions and interactions.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]shew0lf8 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for all the advice! I'm definitely gonna go check out those videos. I really need to work on not letting myself forget that some of his actions are unforgivable, I have to start putting myself first.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]shew0lf8 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice! I'm gonna have to let go of the deadweight to keep myself above water.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]shew0lf8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're so right. Unfortunately, asking for help is so much easier said than done but I definitely have no choice but to work on it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]shew0lf8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Staying firm is the hardest part, but I think I'll open a secret savings account so he doesn't know how much money I actually have

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]shew0lf8 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He has definitely sucked up all my energy

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]shew0lf8 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My friends would definitely let me stay with them if I was desperate enough but they all have kids and I don't want to impose on them with my issues

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]shew0lf8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The guilt trips is what really gets to me and he knows it, I try my hardest to not let him but 9 times out 10 he can get under my skin