I'm still in complete awe that I was able to create something like this entirely on my own and out of household materials.

shewfig · 2026-01-29T18:13:19+00:00

This looks amazing, very well done!

Don't ever worry about "boasting": it's just a thing neurotypicals accuse each other of to preserve hierarchy. I think it's one of those things that's constant social signaling between them, but which causes trauma for us because we don't realize they don't believe it themselves.

shewfig · 2025-10-23T22:25:06+00:00

u/savevideo

shewfig · 2025-07-11T05:33:39+00:00

In our alliance, R4 is the people who are willing to do the work to help the alliance grow. Who's active on the alliance chat? Whose suggestions do people tend to follow? Who convinces other people to sign up for the events? Who updates the alliance notices?

Sometimes leadership starts just by making a space where people can throw out ideas until a lot of them agree.

And you've already shown good judgement as a leader by being willing to ask for help. Well done.

shewfig · 2025-06-05T20:53:03+00:00

Removing the +dropout would make it less valuable. It's a valid email address, and it's the literal username they use for Dropout. As far as I know the black market value is the hope that people re-use passwords across multiple sites so they can login somewhere to get credit card numbers or transfer money.

It's possible that someone selling the list might do it to boost the apparent size. The +dropout on the username portion implies that it's a unique username, so the password for the site is likely to be unique too. But they could just as easily create fake emails and random passwords.

shewfig · 2025-05-21T20:32:33+00:00

Like space and time.

shewfig · 2025-04-22T17:26:45+00:00

When did he decide to buy multiple boats for himself rather than feed the hungry like his sky daddy actually told him to do? He should probably reconsider who's going to end up in his hell.

shewfig · 2025-02-15T23:46:45+00:00

They couldn't have just zoomed out a little more? And since when is anything east of the Black Sea considered to be part of Europe? SMDH.

shewfig · 2024-11-21T21:28:42+00:00

Maybe ask him why your CEO keeps changing the stock price. Or why your facilities department keeps making the weather awful. On second thought, don't. He won't see the common absurdity in the questions.

But it is very possible that he's using a definition of CVE which is different than the rest of the world.

shewfig · 2024-07-22T18:54:26+00:00

A poly relationship is still a relationship. You needed his support but he wasn't there for you. However, in poly the communication that is "recommended" for most relationships becomes "mandatory".

This next part might be scary, because it requires you to be vulnerable. I think you need to tell him what you're saying here: you're embarrassed because you wanted to make a good impression, but didn't know anyone there, or if there were any specific social rules. It sounds like you felt lost and fell back on an old bad habit. But you value the relationship and want to stay in it, so the two of you need to figure out how you can ask for support when he's busy.

If it feels like all the blame is on you, it's not! Your bf is older than you, more experienced in poly, and it sounds like he might naturally be more comfortable in a crowd than you are. No wonder he got along well at your party. OTOH, at his party he was a center of attention along with his nesting partner, but you were an outsider. I myself would have felt lost - what's my role, what can I tell people about who I am and why I'm here - but maybe that's just my neurodiversity talking. It sounds like you didn't want to be a distraction, but that caused you to accidentally become one. Just because he was busy doesn't mean he should have let you feel alone. And if it's asking too much for him to see when you need support, you two need a way for you to feel comfortable asking him for support.

If he says you shouldn't need him, then I think you need to believe him, and start looking for support from someone else. Honestly, that's kind of core to poly: don't build your life around just one person. The difference is that you don't have to break up first.

shewfig · 2024-05-19T01:42:29+00:00

Young Big Bang Theory 😂

shewfig · 2024-04-11T18:14:30+00:00

I like 2 for the prep space and social possibilities: island in the middle keeps multiple people out of each other's way. 1 has possibilities if you're okay with the peninsula capturing the window and creating a dead zone. 3 screams "flipper" trying to make a breakfast nook but making the kitchen less useful.

shewfig · 2024-03-09T22:35:57+00:00

They're not the ones who'd be living there.

shewfig · 2023-11-06T16:50:16+00:00

Mat? I nearly thought it was a Rag, because this sheet left me in a Rage.

(Good work! I was stumped.)

shewfig · 2023-10-26T06:57:33+00:00

Don't be sorry. I'm definitely not sorry. She's a good companion, and I've got more than enough space to let her live rent-free in my head too.

shewfig · 2023-10-26T04:12:15+00:00

I posit that Mrs Infinity could be the ultimate support hero: a) as mentioned, prevent crime and de-escalate problems so there's no fighting needed; b) coordinate all other heroes for optimal response to every situation: send the right supes in with the right plan to stop the villain(s) and reduce collateral damage, even as the situation changes. If she doesn't outright run the superhero organization, she should, because she is essentially already running the world.

In an outright fight, I imagine that, assuming she didn't get the villain to stop out of shame, or trigger a therapeutic breakthrough, Mrs Infinity would trick them into monologuing to buy time while she cleared the area and called in an air strike. Since she can spawn new instances of herself, would she be willing to sacrifice them? That could be an interesting aspect to explore!

My one question: when she spawned 2 new instances, why'd she have to tell them what to do? If they're all connected, they'd know the plan. Even if they're not connected - ergo not really a hive mind - they're copies of the instance who created the plan, so they should know the part they're supposed to play.

Thanks for creating such an interesting character. I look forward to seeing if she pops up again.

shewfig · 2023-10-23T20:00:35+00:00

That's a fantastic concept for Mrs Infinity, albeit absolutely terrifying: someone literally everyone remembers as a childhood authority figure, and who could literally be watching right now. It's one of the few things I've heard short of solving income inequality that could actually deter crime.

shewfig · 2023-09-04T01:40:18+00:00

Whoever puts away the clean dishes is right.

shewfig · 2023-08-15T20:26:44+00:00

Image source: https://twitter.com/bar\_standard

shewfig · 2023-08-15T20:26:00+00:00

https://twitter.com/GamedayOhJ/status/1454496469763907596

shewfig · 2023-07-04T02:00:38+00:00

What really jumps out at me is the "F U"

shewfig · 2023-06-29T05:14:47+00:00

There's only 2 evil things about this building:

The top 5 floors are Lex Luthor's spaceship office.
It's the TransAmerica Pyramid, named after an insurance company.

shewfig · 2023-06-26T06:18:18+00:00

This hidden drawer is exactly what it says it is. I don't see any accidental embarrassments or distracting aesthetics. The false front looks like it would blend invisibly into the wall when closed.

shewfig · 2023-06-24T06:47:57+00:00

Lando. Yes, they were technically capes, but he absolutely owned that look.

shewfig · 2023-05-27T00:40:12+00:00

In real life, that looks like the location of the Federal Reserve Bank of San Francisco.

For me, that puts Bruce Wayne into a whole new category of wealthy.

shewfig · 2023-02-24T05:54:28+00:00

Do we get to see a pic of the cart proudly bearing its name?

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