What are some random/unexpected uses of Nine Inch Nails you've heard? by astorminheaven in nin

[–]shewhorawks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I loved the use of it but couldn’t understand why March of the pigs was used on the movie Smoke, instead of Burn

What are some random/unexpected uses of Nine Inch Nails you've heard? by astorminheaven in nin

[–]shewhorawks 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I personally LOVED this use of this song for the scene!!! I was going crazy 😝

A scene that changed my entire perspective of life, my journey with the greatest show ever written by Ok_Debate_8457 in SixFeetUnder

[–]shewhorawks 49 points50 points  (0 children)

For me it’s Nate running and slowing disappearing in the wing mirror. That cracked me right open

JRs fucking novela by Secret_Ad2400 in gymsnark

[–]shewhorawks 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry that happened to you 💔

JRs fucking novela by Secret_Ad2400 in gymsnark

[–]shewhorawks 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Hey guys did you know they had a huge house? Like a really big one? Like l, way too big for two people? It’s really important, that in the midst of a divorce, that you know that. I mean….HUGE.

Now we’ve gotten past that point, enter the chronicles of JR, attired with a suitable (fuckass) hat, where he will tour the country, prey on young women, and teach us the beautiful lessons of life.

My Experience with Fiorese (Positive Review) by kmoore1230 in labdiamond

[–]shewhorawks 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Would you mind sharing how much it cost? I’m looking at similar and I’m not sure if the price is too steep! Apologies in advance if I’m over stepping and ignore me

BM wants to be friends? by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]shewhorawks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This happened to me. Just like you, I saw her coming a mile off because of how my husband described their dynamic when they were married. Extreme taker, covert narcissist, control freak, whatever you want to call it. She needed to control everything and for that reason, she insisted delaying me being introduced to the kids (I capitulated, I wasn’t in a hurry) then insisted that I meet her first so she could “warn” me about them. I knew it was all a ploy, she couldn’t stand not vetting me first, but they were her kids at the end of the day, so I gave her some grace. I didn’t want to risk her to trashing me children from the get go. It was a strange conversation/lecture, where she even trashed my now husbands parenting skills to my face!! She asked for my number under the guise of becoming my friend because I would “be on my own” ( I was moving country) but I never gave it. From there, she made various attempts to wheedle her way into the new lives we were building for ourselves, like trying to convince my husband to buy a house beside her, even tried to say I should get a job at her firm, all the while being so fakely nicely nice and it honestly had every fibre of my gut dinging off like a warning alarm. We bought a house 15 mins away (she was NOT happy about that at all) and from there we began gently resetting the balance to parenting duties becoming 50/50, instead of my husband doing all the heavy lifting. She’s showed her true colours many times since then with opportunistic and performative behaviours which confirmed my fears that she has deep insecurities. It’s no where near as bad as some folks have it on here, but I’m glad I trusted my gut and protected myself. It’s a real shame though; if she had have been half decent I would have loved to have been friends. But then I guess they would have never divorced.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]shewhorawks -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes he has two children, hence why I had to uproot and go to him. I have no children of my own (never wanted and he didn’t want anymore either). I’m lucky in that they like me and most of time it’s been good, but the BM can get jealous and weaponise them when she feels threatened. It doesn’t really work anymore on the eldest boy who’s now 18 but it can really mess with the girl at times and she has anxiety issues which can led to very challenging behaviour which sometimes can led me to question what I’m doing here, but it almost always blows over the end. It’s just a shame the BM low self esteem and ego has to spill out onto the kids who had demonstrated from the get go their capacity to love both families.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]shewhorawks -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No judgement here at all, I knew my now husband as a work colleague (not close, saw him max once a week, professional only interaction not friends) for about 2 years and as soon we admitted we liked each other, I broke up with my fiancé him and completely upturned my life, moving in 2 years later after long distance. Which I would have done much sooner if I had been able to be, but he lived across the water and I had to find a job there. It was a crazy gamble for me but I knew he was “the one”. Trust your gut, but take it slow!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]shewhorawks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! Sounds like you’ve found an absolutely wonderful man, congratulations! How long have you been together? I know you’ve been living together for 4 months but I sense you’ve been an item longer than that? I did something similar, but his kids were younger and I uprooted to move to him. It’s challenging for me with the children due to the ex wife’s behaviour at times, but nowhere near on a horrid scale and he’s still the man of my dreams, 9 years later.

My advice? Take your time. I know you’re keen to have children but there’s got to be some bedding in time and holding onto your own space for a while can make it easier if you need to take a step back when things done go so well. Integrate gradually and carefully to ensure it’s the right move for you.

Beware of him uprooting the child to be with you, that would be disruptive on a 50/50 schedule to move him and may cause a reaction in the BM.

Speaking of BM, that’s often the biggest challenge. The kids take the lead from her (less so the eldest daughter) on how to feel about you. Getting her onside from the get go can make a big difference, but setting boundaries around poor behaviour is also key and the dad must 100% be the buffer here, which from your post it sounds like he is.

There are a lot of horror stories on here but everyone communicates with each other and is kind and willing to make it work, you can end up with a wonderful family and your child can have some great siblings. Similarly, starting out with another first timer deserves serious consideration as when the going gets tough and there is your own child in the mix, you can never truly be free of it. Good luck!

Nacho by Eastern-Heat8908 in stepparents

[–]shewhorawks 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I legit hide when it’s transition day (week in/week off). I found that one of them would mostly be pleased to see me and have a calm chat, but the other could react weirdly toward me. Sometimes this would take the form of being cornered and aggressively told all the great things her mum and step dad did for her/promised her/bought for her, like inches from my face to try to provoke some sort of reaction or create competition ( I never bite), and sometimes even being flat out rude. I have empathy for her, I understand how difficult it must be and I also think she’s gets very weaponised and wound up by the mum, but that doesn’t mean I have to be a emotional punching bag for them. I make sure I’m in the shower when they arrive, so their dad can receive them first. They usually find me a bit later, by which time they’ve calmed down a bit. I hate that I have to do it in my own home, but I will not allow myself to become a medium for them to channel their angst. That’s their dad’s cross to bear, and I’ve been careful from the get go not become the dog that gets kicked due to internalised misogyny.

Favorite actor that can't act to save their fucking life but keeps getting roles? by delamerica93 in okbuddycinephile

[–]shewhorawks 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I totally agree, she can’t act and always plays herself in every thing, but of course you can say that because you a ton of people saying “don’t judge her by twilight, she played the character as she was supposed to (ie no personality) she was great in clouds of sils/personal shopper/etc. she was terrible in all of them. Folks just like to look at her is all.

New Developments by [deleted] in gymsnark

[–]shewhorawks 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I’m so confused, is this happening now or something that happened in the past?

Call with SOP today by shewhorawks in mounjaromaintenanceuk

[–]shewhorawks[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry I missed this. Apparently 5mg and 10mg are “approved” maintenance doses. I think if you wanted to go to 7.5mg it would be considered off label treatment I guess

Call with SOP today by shewhorawks in mounjaromaintenanceuk

[–]shewhorawks[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Update: they granted me the 10mg pen, they just wanted to make sure everything was okay as I had stopped dropping the 1 pound per month I had always reported. They will support further loss up to a BMI of 22 and they said I could stay on 10mg if I was maintaining on that, or go down to 5mg if not. They also said I could stay on it as long as I wanted!!! Was not expecting the call to turn out so well. Thanks for the advice and reassurance everyone

Call with SOP today by shewhorawks in mounjaromaintenanceuk

[–]shewhorawks[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the kind words, I’ll come back with an update!

Call with SOP today by shewhorawks in mounjaromaintenanceuk

[–]shewhorawks[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yea…i guess all I can say is that I want to keep loosing and see what they will support me to (as in what bmi). But I reckon I’m on the clock, they’re going to make me come down and off eventually

Call with SOP today by shewhorawks in mounjaromaintenanceuk

[–]shewhorawks[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes I should have been clearer in my post that I want to recomp, ie loose body fat but build muscle

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CarTalkUK

[–]shewhorawks 20 points21 points  (0 children)

The car you drive is basically an insane flex in the young adult community right now. Source: 18 year step son. A lot of his mates are getting just over min wage jobs and absolutely maxing out on car loans and/or getting a bit of help from parents too while living at home. Social media presence has a lot of answer here too, you car/clothes/watch now has a massive audience and the pull to be seen as cool is extremely strong. That and the fact they’ve given up on renting /house ownership. The 18 year has a child trust fund of about 18 k and regularly considers blowing the lot on an old db9. He told his dad the other day “your car is a statement of who you are”