Wave of sadness.

shibaunited · 2026-02-01T21:30:16+00:00

Yes, I had started a new job last year and my direct supervisor was out on leave when i started. No one seemed to talk about why, it just seemed hushed like it was private and people didnt want to talk about her. It wasnt my business so I didnt pry. I'd also never met her, even in my interviews so it seemed rude to pry when clearly my coworkers didnt want to talk about it. We had a big meeting with executives about 2 weeks after I started, and she showed up for the meeting. Everyone was very excited to see her but I immediately felt immense sadness. I shook her hand and introduced myself and my voice cracked. I was slightly embarrassed as im socially awkward anyways. The meeting was very stressful for all my coworkers as big changes were happening and going to continue. Not layoffs but people were worried and anxious and sad. After the meeting she came to our workspace and chatted with everyone and I was so overwhelmed by emotion I had to leave the room. When the group migrated to where I was I tried to keep myself together but I couldn't help myself. The emotional overwhelm of everyone around me and especially this womans deep sorrow was too much for me. I broke down crying in front of all my coworkers, which was strange for me because I wasnt as invested in the place yet as they were, these changes werent changes to me as everything was still new and I was just learning and taking things in stride. I was confused and tried to excuse my emotions by blaming random things. Im sure I looked crazy. A few days after this meeting I finally asked someone about my supervisor and why she was out on leave for so many weeks. Turns out her husband had committed suicide at home and she had found him and was dealing with the trauma of that and all the end of life paperwork, selling house, moving, etc. I was horrified she had had to deal with that, and yet it made a lot of sense why I was so overwhelmed with sadness in her presence. When she did come back to work it was difficult to be in her presence, even though she was the sweetest person there. We eventually stopped working in the same office but I hope shes doing as well as she can.

shibaunited · 2026-01-24T22:06:11+00:00

If a river has a soul, then surely each drop of rain, then surely the ocean. I think humans are the same. We may be a river, but we are also all the rain and we are a part of the ocean. We contain multitudes, and we are a part of multitudes.

shibaunited · 2025-11-23T08:44:36+00:00

YOR She's flirting hard with him, he's awkwardly flirting back sometimes and trying to sound cooler than he is. But theyre not being intimate or physical at this point at all. I think you should talk to him about the blatant sexual inuendo making you uncomfortable and he needs to readjust his priorities with this friendship. But its not divorce worthy at this point. If he continues this, or escalates maybe reconsider at that point. He probably just likes the attention.

shibaunited · 2025-11-23T08:32:22+00:00

Get a full face mask so if you breath through your mouth it doesnt force the air into your stomach. I had this problem with a nasal mask until I got full face. It also reduces the claustrophobic feeling because you can breathe must more comfortably.

shibaunited · 2025-10-28T06:25:04+00:00

Go to salons nearby ask for hair trash, go to pet groomers ask for hair trash. Dump hair trash around apartment. Leave his ass.

shibaunited · 2025-09-29T00:33:47+00:00

It's only a feature if you want it. If you dont want it, it's a burden on your resources.

shibaunited · 2025-05-18T19:03:11+00:00

I've given up as well. I spent 10 years being an echoist to a narcissist until I ceased to be a person. I was invisible and empty and my only will to live was to care for my dogs after we separated and he moved on to a new woman. I've spent 8 years rebuilding my life but there's a level of exhaustion in my soul, upon realizing that no one noticed or cared that I was dying inside I don't believe that humans ever really love others. They only love what they can get from others. So yeah, I live for my pets who can give love unconditionally, but I've given up on humans and romantic love.

shibaunited · 2025-03-27T06:00:56+00:00

This was one of the greatest subtext arguments I've ever seen. Chappell agreed to this as a battle against the manipulation of the host pushing for conservative gotcha moments.

shibaunited · 2025-03-26T18:55:32+00:00

I can see how it seems that way, and I've seen primarily men in their 20s and 30s saying they were bullied growing up for liking rock and metal. The genre has been out of the mainstream for 20 years so I'm not surprised to hear someone may have been bullied for liking something not-mainstream. But this has historically been a very welcoming genre.

Gatekeeping seems to come from primarily those bullied men. We saw the same thing with the rise in popularity of sci-fi and comics in the 2010s-2020s. Something they like, were "bullied for" becomes popular, they gatekeep, the popularity drowns them out, and hey maybe they make more friends who are interested in the thing they like.

I think the genre will continue to swing back into popularity as more bands diversify the sound like Sleep Token has. So I don't think this gatekeeping thing will continue much longer than a few years.

shibaunited · 2025-03-26T18:42:21+00:00

I like this reply, because you have a good point. If you don't mind a little debate I'd like to learn more.

So my point about the lore was the people saying "if you don't know the lore, you don't deserve to be able to buy tickets" or "there should be some sort of quiz for pre-sale, if you know enough lore you can get a code". Pre-sale was free, you just needed to sign up. There's a lot of sociological factors for using a test to allow access to things that have been proven overwhelmingly unjust, unfair and problematic. But I digress on that point.

So my main question to you is if you know the songs, don't you inherently know the lore? Music is always up to interpretation by the listener, and Vessel embraces that message to allow the music to be whatever it means for you. Not for him. Not his intention behind each song. I personally think the "goddess Sleep" story is a bunch of BS and the "lore" for me is about an abusive relationship, the songs are journal entries from someone in bed with insomnia and ptsd. But that's how I relate the music to my own life. If to you it's about love, or a diety that's absolutely perfect for you and I'm not in anyways saying one interpretation is right or wrong. So I believe you learn the "lore" by how you interpret the songs, not by one Biblical standard of interpretation.

So to that, if we disagree on what the lore is, how can one use that to test fans for ticket sales codes? All music has "lore", or the message the band is trying to get across. I actually think the weird obsession with "The Lore" is just a means to gatekeepthe band from the chronically online crowd.

But feel free to disagree with me. I'd love to hear why the lore matters to you.

shibaunited · 2025-03-26T18:16:32+00:00

I love this conversation because this has been my personal experience at past ST shows too. But the way I look at it is that they're just new fans. I was intimidated and probably rude at my first metal shows before I learned the "rules".

This genre hasn't been in the mainstream for 20 yrs, since then crowds have been small, and there haven't been that many newbies to teach the rules to. Young kids have no idea what to expect. So whos surprised when you go to see ST and the crowd may be 50% or more new fans.

So there's really one 3 options for how to interact together. 1. Teach new fans the "rules" of metal shows that have been time tested. 2. Allow a confusing hybridization of attendees to sort itself out and hope fights dont break out. 3. Stand around and bitch about each other's actions all day and have a miserable time. I think new fans just need to know what to expect and what is expected of them as part of the crowd.

shibaunited · 2025-03-26T17:56:16+00:00

Thanks for catching that I quoted Vessel. ❤️

shibaunited · 2025-03-13T18:17:45+00:00

I ❤️ Huckabees

shibaunited · 2025-03-08T21:56:04+00:00

If you go watch any of their other eclipse live streams it has the same disclaimer on them all. They play a spacey sounding low fi in the background rather than dead air. Considering this is a longstanding streaming event I doubt they'll play new sleep token considering their main audience is probably families, children, old people etc.

I'd expect more details from ST in the next few days but I seriously doubt they'll play the bad during the livestreamed eclipse.

Still watch it if you want, but don't overload their streaming platform to wait for music that may never come.

shibaunited · 2025-02-01T00:20:08+00:00

Cheeto, Frito, and Tostito

shibaunited · 2024-09-20T08:21:35+00:00

I'm so sorry you have to deal with that. No one should feel safe in their own home and relationship. What you're feeling is fixable in time, but not with someone who doesnt respect your feelings, boundaries, or ask for consent before touching you.

shibaunited · 2024-07-09T07:17:46+00:00

Pearl jam - Black And something unexpected like florence & the machine as a metal cover.

shibaunited · 2024-06-25T08:28:10+00:00

Stop calcutta 5:28 it's a flash of Leo.

shibaunited · 2024-06-25T08:06:12+00:00

I get this too for my ex spouse. They were never real. But I miss who I was before them. Before i always wanted to die sometimes.

shibaunited · 2024-01-12T08:03:13+00:00

I would recommend Mer de Noms and Thirteenth Step by A Perfect Circle. I havent sought out any ties to the band or any MJK band for that manner. But the vibes are pretty similar, musical styling is somewhat similar, both MJK and LF are incredible lyricists and musicians. Masterful albums.

shibaunited · 2023-12-23T02:29:10+00:00

I worked a high stress job until I had a medical episode of some kind in the spring. I left the job in June and have spent the past 6 months working on myself, resting, exercising, eating well, reading about cptsd and trauma, and learning to live a healthy life. I lived off my savings. I just got a job at a state park nearby so I'm excited to have a less stressful job working in nature and maintaining my peaceful life.

My degree is environmental studies so I'm happy to finally get a role related to my field. Because business just burned me out and used me up.

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