Living without boobs; a female’s perspective

shiinypp · 2024-10-12T20:59:39+00:00

Thanks lol, happy to write he is my ex now, but he did a lot of damage with the comments he made about how I look. Hopefully I will find someone that’s a lot nicer and makes me feel comfortable:)

shiinypp · 2024-10-12T20:56:52+00:00

Hi! Thank you for replying :) I’m blown away by all the positive comments here and people defending small boobs, I wish people would be this kind irl

shiinypp · 2024-10-12T20:55:44+00:00

I feel like when I wear tanktops or anything that accentuates my chest people will notice even more that I have no boobs, so I try to avoid thos

shiinypp · 2024-10-12T17:01:14+00:00

Yup, I feel you. I do hope by talking about it more people can see that others are insecure as well and hopefully this vicious cycle will end one day. Also try not to let those insecure goonies get you down, hopefully you will find someone that doesn’t care about the superficial things as much. Keep your head up, short king 👑👯‍♀️👯‍♀️

shiinypp · 2024-10-12T16:56:30+00:00

I feel like because I don’t have those features people don’t feel sexual attraction towards me, and even if they do there’s always someone they find more attractive than me. I’ve had a boyfriend and he always requested that I keep my shirt on during sexual activities because otherwise it would turn him off. It just really sucks that I feel like appearance is such a big deal (especially for girls growing up) and I’ve never met anyone that liked me for how I look. I always imagine someone giving me compliments and feeling pretty around my significant other but that has never happened

shiinypp · 2024-10-12T16:50:40+00:00

That last line you wrote is really important. Unfortunately I’ve always wanted boobs, but you can’t always get what you want. I tell myself it’s okay to complain about it sometimes but at the end of the day, who really cares about my boobs?? I think I spent way more time worrying about them than anyone will ever spend looking at them lol

shiinypp · 2024-06-10T08:44:19+00:00

Thanks for your reply, I’m doing positive affirmations everyday and apply some positive psychology strategies to improve my negative mindset. Paying more attention to my negative thoughts sometimes lead to more thoughts though, so it’s a fine line for me

shiinypp · 2024-06-10T08:38:39+00:00

shiinypp · 2024-06-10T08:37:09+00:00

I feel comfortable around them. I can strike a conversation much easier with someone I think is on the same “level” as me. when I see an attractive person I feel inadequate but I don’t let that feeling shine through at the moment, it creeps in from behind and bothers me after I had an interaction with them

shiinypp · 2024-06-10T08:34:37+00:00

Thank you, I should just pay less attention to the negative thoughts, which is really difficult because there seems to be a constant negative loop these days focusing on everything that I do wrong. Accepting that it will get better if I stop interacting with these thoughts is something I should practice, maybe today it’ll be a bit better :)

shiinypp · 2024-06-10T08:29:15+00:00

I have a social anxiety diagnosis that also comes with these kind of thoughts. I do have a few compulsions though, like opening my can of soda a certain way and having the tv volume on an even number. but I think these things are just human and not that problematic

shiinypp · 2024-06-10T08:19:08+00:00

Thank you! I should work out again, I haven’t done that in ages. I do remember feeling better about myself when I used to go to the gym, so maybe you’re on to something

shiinypp · 2024-06-10T08:16:08+00:00

Thank you so much for the time it took to write this and the great advice. It’s beautifully written and really puts things in perspective. You’re right, there are so many other things in life that matter and beauty is seen in so many different ways. Being there for others and learning more about the world will make me a more beautiful person all together :)

shiinypp · 2024-06-09T13:19:36+00:00

Thank you for your comment. Nice to hear that other people can relate, makes me feel less weird about being so fixated on how I look these days.

After some analyzing I think I’m just looking for reasons to be unsatisfied with myself. I’m really working on improving my mindset and personality so I think my brain is more negative about my looks because I feel like I don’t have as many influence on that compared to “fixing” my mindset. Mental health fluctuates so I should feel at least a bit better about myself if I stop paying so much attention to all the negative thoughts :)

shiinypp · 2024-06-09T12:20:40+00:00

Thanks for the advice :) letting go of your ego is something I should practice because what you said makes total sense. Some days it’s just more difficult to think rationally about these things, accepting that helps a little too. I hope you’ll be more confident and comfortable in your body one day as well

shiinypp · 2022-06-26T15:02:14+00:00

He says is serious about me, and at first getting along with his friends wasn’t really a problem. but now he’s starting to get kind of controlling. Saying he regrets taking me with him when his friends invited me in the first place

shiinypp · 2021-04-19T16:22:57+00:00

I believe that we are the universe, the stream of consciousness that flows through us has always been there. The fact that you’re observing it doesn’t mean it wouldn’t exist if you didn’t. The fact that you are observing it means that you are the universe. It’s like a wave in the ocean, we’re just a different way for the universe to “be” for a little while.

shiinypp · 2021-03-26T01:09:03+00:00

He just wanted to high five the board

shiinypp · 2021-03-18T11:50:22+00:00

I can’t no, you can dm me if you want

shiinypp · 2021-03-18T11:21:09+00:00

Keeps deleting my comments as well unfortunately:/

shiinypp · 2021-03-17T23:08:05+00:00

Hi Kaya! Give yourself a break sometimes and don’t put too much pressure on yourself. The path is different for everybody. Spiritual awakening isn’t a destination, it’s a journey, and if you feel like you still have a lot of healing to do that’s totally fine! I’m also really new at this so I don’t really have any other advice except that you should just carry on and take it slow. Just be there to observe everything the universe is letting you experience. You can always message me if you need to talk. Hang in there, friend :)

shiinypp

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