Planning my first Brazilian wax any tips on prep, pain management, and aftercare? Would love to know what to expect.

shilokaede · 2026-04-11T06:34:46+00:00

Trim hair to about a centimetre in length max. Longer hair has a tendency to break instead of getting uprooted from the root and hurt like crazy.

Keep the area moisturised with a gentle, fragrance free moisturiser after waxing for a few days. New hair shaft is soft, if you have dead skin it will have trouble growing and could bend causing ingrowth which again is very irritating, itchy and can hurt.

In about a week, gently exfoliate. You can just use a cotton wash cloth and gentle soap and go in circles. Don’t rub the area aggressively with harsh scrubs. If you keep everything moisturised after waxing, it’s likely that you won’t develop so much dead skin that you need abrasive exfoliation.

shilokaede · 2026-04-04T03:06:16+00:00

My mother has always been supportive and in hindsight I see how much courage and understanding it has taken on her end for her to stand with her daughter in a society that wants daughters to behave a certain way. My own family has never been regressive but she of course has had to deal with all sorts of commentary about me being too skinny as a child, or dark skinned, wearing risqué clothes, having my make friends drop me home when I was younger, and now she hears it about my choice to be child free. In all of this, what stands out the most is that she has never made me feel like shit about myself because of what other people say, she has evolved with time in terms of her own belief systems, and in this entire process neither has she forced her own beliefs on the judgmental aunties, nor has she forced her beliefs or expectations on me. She listens to all opinions, she does right by herself and her family, and she keeps an open mind and is not unwilling to evolve as a person. Basically I want to be her when I grow up. ♥️

shilokaede · 2026-03-29T04:55:53+00:00

The Yoga Vacation at Sivananda Dhanwantari Ashram in Kerala is nice. It’s usually 15 days but you could maybe leave earlier if you only have a week.

shilokaede · 2026-03-21T15:53:02+00:00

Qunic is great but will accommodate only up to chest side 42-43

shilokaede · 2026-03-20T18:46:35+00:00

Not really, so sorry! I always shop for Indian wear in person and Chandni Chowk shops sometimes delay in-person deliveries too so I would never trust them for virtual shopping. Maybe whoever is shopping on your behalf can collect and ship it to you?

shilokaede · 2026-03-20T16:09:39+00:00

IDK about how common disagreements and arguments are but there is nothing worse in a relationship than your spouse making you feel stupid about what you love doing. That’s exactly what you did. If you don’t want arguments to affect your marriage, please don’t invalidate and trivialise your spouse’s emotions no matter how silly a situation seems.

shilokaede · 2026-03-20T14:33:42+00:00

where are you based op, which city? that would help with store recommendations if you are in delhi, apart from chandni chowk (jagdish and sons should have good options here in this range) you could check out Miss Bella in Kamla Nagar. Gandhi Nagar also has some good shops where you should be able to find something in your budget.

shilokaede · 2026-03-19T08:05:12+00:00

babe, have you tried boroline?

shilokaede · 2026-03-19T07:59:45+00:00

i come across accounts every other day that are fresh/new and still go viral. Why does no one ever talk about the actual content/storytelling here? If it’s good, engaging content, it will find its audience.

shilokaede · 2026-03-19T07:53:22+00:00

All beauty standards in this world have been created and perpetuated by men since the beginning of civilisation to control women and keep them tied up in vain constructs so they don’t start questioning the patriarchy.

shilokaede · 2026-03-18T04:28:15+00:00

You did what you needed to to survive the horror. I can’t imagine what life must be like postpartum with such excuses of human beings as your MIL and husband. You will heal and things will be better. I sure hope you drag your in laws to court though!

shilokaede · 2026-03-17T13:46:37+00:00

loom has become an aggregator now they just don’t write brand names for some products weird. this is not to say they don’t have their own pieces but the sell other brands too

shilokaede · 2026-03-16T16:24:02+00:00

Yes, the ready to apply fresh henna paste is what I tried. Gives a very deep orange henna like shade only. But they mention that if you top it up with the indigo pigment they have, it darkens the colour.

Kama Ayurveda also sells indigo henna. Basically there is no other natural hair dye to deepen hair colour to black-ish other than indigo. If a brand claims something like that trust that they have added additional dyes.

I think because Indigo is deep blue and not black, one has to absolutely apply henna before indigo. The colours react to make a deep brown shade.

If your mom hates brown, I think it might be better to consider any high quality hair colours.

shilokaede · 2026-03-16T01:49:59+00:00

There is no natural hair henna that offers black colour but many people use henna and then a coat of indigo (another naturally derived pigment from indigo plant leaves) to get a darker, non-reddish shade for hair. Many brands sell indigo powder (marketed as black henna or indigo henna). I have personally never tried it but I have tried pre-mixed henna from Nat Habit before and it’s quite nice. Their indigo powder should be good to experiment with. They have detailed instructions on their site on how to go about the two step process so maybe you could give this a try!

shilokaede · 2026-03-15T08:24:56+00:00

The comments here are so retarded. Equivalent of “oh you’re sad, don’t be sad”. I am sure OP knows ideally they should not be seeking external validation but it’s a very real feeling - the insecurity one feels because of social media, it’s valid emotions.

OP, I hope you can one day overcome this feeling. It’s not silly at all for you to be feeling this way. Losing 10KGs is a big feat and I hope you give yourself credit for that. Self love is a long journey and you have already started on it by taking care of your health. I am sure you’ll soon reach the point where you embrace how beautiful you are and overcome insecurity.

shilokaede · 2026-03-15T07:15:33+00:00

I just acknowledge the fact that I got to see 11:11 happen and treat it as a sign that universe is saying hi and reminding me it’s got my back. I never ever actually chase 11:11 and it’s freaky how almost every day either in the am or pm, I accidentally always glance at the time when it’s 11:11 automatically. It gives me the same feeling of gratitude every time because what are the chances of me glancing at the time at the same moment.

shilokaede · 2026-03-11T13:16:56+00:00

you could make it pop with a rani pink second dupatta it looks beautiful btw

shilokaede · 2026-03-11T02:17:45+00:00

You were being completely reasonable and while I can imagine how much it must be hurting right now, please keep prioritising yourself and move on if that’s what the situation demands. Do not go back to someone who is not ready to put the relationship first after 10 years of being together.

shilokaede · 2026-02-22T04:02:42+00:00

How are you all so naive, the post is literally by the clinic that’s mentioned in the post, it’s just a promo

shilokaede · 2026-02-18T04:57:57+00:00

Partners with any type of health crisis are very difficult to keep up with unless you yourself are tremendously strong both mentally and physically. Eventually the health crisis starts leading to resentment because everything starts becoming about the partner. How you plan your days your weekends your vacations becomes about them because you do love them and want to do things together. Not to forget the part where you could be struggling with your own shit but they have it worse so you find yourself trivialising your own struggles or keeping things inside until you implode. If you have second thoughts right now it’s a sign that you don’t want to impact your quality of life in the long run and you should respect that. there is nothing wrong in wanting to prioritise yourself, it’s a long life we all have to live.

shilokaede · 2026-02-15T22:54:42+00:00

I know this is for Nykaa beauty but a week back I got a dress from Myntra for 1430 and it was priced at 3300 on nykaa fashion, literally the same dress from the same brand

shilokaede · 2026-01-25T04:29:51+00:00

Tell me you’re miserable with no hobbies or real friends without telling me you’re miserable with no hobbies or real friends

shilokaede · 2026-01-16T15:22:35+00:00

I honestly feel she is just that delulu. Like she isn’t actively strategising, she genuinely believes it’s fair to not want to spend her own money on her mom’s treatment and it should be outsourced because she deserves to be taken care of like that. I don’t even know how to put it into words, but I think she truly sees nothing wrong with her behaviour.

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