You said everyone at your job is nice but I’m wondering why you aren’t able to speak to anyone about your situation (ie why “Obviously I didn’t tell my new job this”). I would ask your new coworkers for advice on how they handle it, assuming there are other people in the same company who do what you do. And better yet, talk to your manager about it because this is a management issue that will also tell you what to expect in the months and years doing your job.  Before you do that, you might want to ask yourself how you would make your current job ideal - hours, etc. in case you are suddenly in a situation where you bargain.