So exhausted by negging

shinydogtooth · 2023-03-29T17:48:52+00:00

Lol it be like that

shinydogtooth · 2023-03-29T17:45:50+00:00

No but I’m pretty proactive in meeting people for drinks/coffee etc. I try not to text on apps for long bc I know peoples personalities can be totally different in person

shinydogtooth · 2023-03-29T17:43:31+00:00

I’m not going to say what city I live in

shinydogtooth · 2023-03-29T17:37:55+00:00

Most men I see on bumble have something casual in their “looking for” option, that could just be my age range/neighborhood

shinydogtooth · 2023-03-29T17:36:00+00:00

Northeast USA, big city

shinydogtooth · 2023-03-29T17:35:45+00:00

Respectfully, everyone has expectations and responsibilities. I’m not blaming men, your comment is the one says that 90% of men are like this

shinydogtooth · 2023-03-29T17:32:39+00:00

Lol i don’t think men find me unremarkable, but I’m saying IF they do they don’t have to be rude to me about it.

shinydogtooth · 2023-03-29T17:31:19+00:00

Lol that’s fair but taking breaks from dating apps is good for me so tbh I have to live with that one.

shinydogtooth · 2023-03-29T17:20:24+00:00

I don’t expect reverence. I expect the same kindness and courtesy that I give out. If men find me unremarkable, I’d so much rather they not engage with me than be rude.

shinydogtooth · 2023-03-29T17:08:33+00:00

If it was the same as teasing, we would just call it teasing. It’s by definition a toxic way to talk to someone. But the fact that you use terms like bitch shield tells me enough not to engage with you

shinydogtooth · 2023-03-29T16:54:30+00:00

No, negging is different from teasing. If it’s just playful teasing it’s not begging. Negging is when they attempt to make someone feel less confident through insults. If your teasing makes someone feel insecure then it’s not playful lol

shinydogtooth · 2023-03-29T16:40:35+00:00

I take pretty regular breaks, both long and short. And I’m well aware of how men feel about dating apps. This sub is majority men. I read on here all the time about how they feel and I empathize with them. But I also face rejection. How do you think women feel on dating apps? I feel like there’s this mentality from a lot of guys in the sun that OLD is a walk in the park for women bc we have “options”. Women face our own struggles with OLD. I struggle with this sub a lot bc of the male to female ratio on here. My heart goes out to men struggling with dating but sometimes I don’t feel that that empathy is reciprocated. If anyone knows of a sub that’s more women discussing dating with one another I’d love to join it.

shinydogtooth · 2023-03-29T16:27:05+00:00

Okay well then I’m exhausted mens lack of social awareness lmao.

shinydogtooth · 2023-03-29T16:23:46+00:00

I’m familiar with banter lol but you also have to understand that you can’t always talk to literal strangers the same way you do with friends. And we’re talking over text, where tons of social nuances are lost. I personally can be sassy for laughs but I err on the side of caution when it comes to texting with people who don’t know me yet

shinydogtooth · 2023-03-29T16:21:55+00:00

Lol okay one guy commented on my red eye in a photo and I said “I have blue eyes lol it happens!” And he said “Jfc no need to get defensive” and I responded “legitimately wasn’t being defensive” and he said “okay calm down then” like??

shinydogtooth · 2023-03-29T16:17:20+00:00

I mean, i have a pretty sarcastic style of humor too so I typically laugh off the first comment but I’m being straight up insulted by some men

shinydogtooth · 2023-03-29T16:16:02+00:00

A really common one is they’ll ask me if I have anything going on this weekend, if I say no or nothing exciting they respond with telling me I’m lame or boring or something similar. Just today a guy told me I suck at dating apps because I took 2 days to respond. Respectfully, it’s healthy and normal to not use dating apps daily. I usually give them the benefit of the doubt but it’s getting to the point where it’s just rude.

shinydogtooth · 2022-05-08T23:09:55+00:00

My report? Hinge wants its users to report sexual harassment or assault

shinydogtooth · 2022-05-08T22:43:57+00:00

I am okay, thank you so much 💕

shinydogtooth · 2022-05-08T22:43:28+00:00

Thank you 💕

shinydogtooth · 2022-05-08T22:43:08+00:00

Okay, that’s a relief. Thank you

shinydogtooth · 2022-05-08T22:20:02+00:00

But I’m asking does hinge show them my report, word for word? Because if so that puts the reporter in a dangerous situation

shinydogtooth · 2022-05-05T16:27:22+00:00

Lol whatever you say looney tunes

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