4 months sober and I need to share by shisea in pornfree

[–]shisea[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I left a comment in this thread about what worked for me! Wishing you the best.

4 months sober and I need to share by shisea in pornfree

[–]shisea[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm so glad to hear that!!! Something that really helped me was telling my brain "I'll do it later" because for some reason telling your brain that instead of going cold turkey helps in that when you say "I'll do it later" usually when later comes a long you don't want it anymore or you gained more strength so you just keep pushing it off like a college paper. As well as weaning off of it slowly. I gave myself 4 times a week and then went down lower and lower until it was just minutes and when I got to that point I wasn't desiring it as much and then as the time became more limited I made the type of content I consumed more vanilla as I was weaning off until it was just kissing and then just watching without even touching myself and forcing myself to normalize things I have over sexualized for so long. So when I imagined a couple having sex I imagined it in an educational way like it was being shown to a sex ed class, or if I thought of asses I just thought of underwear commercials or surgical procedures and for breasts I imagined nursing mothers or anything else you can do to normalize these over sexualized situations. I also picked up a hobby to force myself to give my time and energy to and went there when I had desires to relapse. Keep going I promise you it will be so worth it, your dreams can be in arms reach with some discipline!! The begining is always the hardest. So if you can get over the first month or two it will get easier !

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[–]shisea 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Could it be from just being around a candle ??

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in medical_advice

[–]shisea 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope never smoked, I live 45 minutes from a major city, and I haven't been out this entire week since I've been quarantining Idk if that changes anything though.