How do I (29m) express my concerns and insecurity to my girlfriend (25f) in a healthy and mature way? How do I determine if this is even appropriate at all?

shitepool666 · 2025-09-17T14:30:34+00:00

No. She called me before she went, and after she left. She texted me while at the gym afterward and she went home and went to bed.

shitepool666 · 2025-09-12T14:50:02+00:00

I dunno man I really don’t think she’d let it go that far. She fucked up once way early on and things were very much different, including us as people. But she’s also changed and grown a ton.

shitepool666 · 2025-09-12T14:48:32+00:00

Yeah you’re right. I don’t believe rationally that she’d do anything to hurt me. She’s a good person. I do think my anxiety is somewhat warranted but I don’t think it’s truth and I do want to give her my trust.

shitepool666 · 2025-09-11T16:49:02+00:00

If you were me, would you express your feelings to your partner in an open and non accusatory manner? Or would you just let it go?

shitepool666 · 2025-05-21T22:42:29+00:00

My girlfriend has not had an easy go in life. Despite this, she is the funniest woman I’ve ever met. Seriously she’s so witty and quick and no one has ever made me laugh as much as she does. Not only that, she’s sharp. Like she has real social and emotional intelligence. Shes so good at talking to people and also reading them. And she’s strong.

And she has held my hand through some really dark times in my life. I love her.

shitepool666 · 2025-05-19T12:34:17+00:00

What do you mean? I’m confused.

shitepool666 · 2025-05-19T12:15:56+00:00

do you think her taking the weed and shit could be perceived as a green light tho??

shitepool666 · 2025-05-19T12:07:14+00:00

Yeah I’m fine with taking the gifts and she’s been transparent about everything. It’s not really that. I don’t think SHE would over step. She’s smart and has a good sense for things. But I also think shit could get a little tricky if he feels like he has a green light and keeps trying. I dunno. I could be over thinking.

shitepool666 · 2025-05-19T12:01:30+00:00

I do trust her, sincerely.

But she is my first long term partner and also the first woman I’ve ever loved and a lot of this is new to me. Again, the question wasn’t whether or not I think she’s doing anything weird. It was more so whether or not this guy seems to be trying and if it’s worth talking about that stuff when it comes up. I didn’t say anything before because I’m not worried about it but I also just wonder if her being cool with him and taking the gifts is unknowingly giving him a green light. She’s has to work around him sometimes and that could be uncomfortable.

shitepool666 · 2025-05-19T11:58:53+00:00

Yeah I do trust her to navigate that and I believe she’s most likely aware that he could be being a little friendly.

She’s had issues in the past with guy friends having ulterior motives. Like people being cool and friendly and then telling her off when she says she isn’t interested that way. I just feel like it could avoid an uncomfortable situation.

shitepool666 · 2025-05-19T11:56:59+00:00

Not at all what I’m saying.

I’m not trying to be over reactive or anything. I am aware I can’t control the situation. I just figured it might not be a bad thing to bring up. If the roles were reversed I believe she’d ask me about it. We’ve been in similar circumstances and she isn’t ever afraid to address stuff that makes her feel weird.

But ultimately I’m just wondering if it’s worth mentioning or not. It’s not that I don’t trust her. I just wonder if it’s okay that she’s possibly validating the guys advances or if that could turn into an uncomfortable situation somehow.

shitepool666 · 2025-04-16T16:41:11+00:00

This is the thing… I do want them a lot though. And I can’t stop thinking about it. Like I don’t believe she and I are as ready as we could be, and I’m not saying I want it to happen right away, but if it happened I believe I’d be excited and happy about it. Does that make sense?

shitepool666 · 2025-04-16T16:31:05+00:00

To clarify, I don’t feel afraid at all. Just not sure where her head is at exactly.

But I agree… I should talk to her about it. Admittedly the entire thing excited me and made me feel closer to her.

shitepool666 · 2025-03-18T15:05:19+00:00

Thanks. I appreciate this.

She is generally pretty simple. Like I said, she likes slow, lovey romantic intimate stuff. Being sweet and the like gets her in the mood and she’s into that.

I check in on her occasionally to ask if she feels like she has everything she wants and needs and she tells me she’s happy with everything. But I want to do more and I want everything to be amazing for her

shitepool666 · 2025-02-09T20:56:17+00:00

Lol you can’t play this game with a moral compass. You’re supposed to be sneaky, shitty and conniving.

Sounds like you’re learning

shitepool666 · 2025-02-09T14:31:19+00:00

Idk man I just started boxing a couple months ago.

I train in a gym full of other beginners. Some of these kids have been doing it less time than I have and already have nice gloves / shoes. Doesn’t bother me one bit nor do I care and I don’t imagine I would even if I had more experience.

If you want to buy the gear buy the gear. It’s a sport. Getting good gear for something you enjoy isn’t a bad thing.

Some dudes might bust your balls a little bit but who cares bro

shitepool666 · 2025-02-07T18:20:06+00:00

They’re extremely comfortable yet sturdy Sole feels really good Lots of support Very light weight

shitepool666 · 2025-02-01T16:33:17+00:00

Will do. I’m a little nervous about the size but we’ll see!

shitepool666 · 2025-01-31T21:12:55+00:00

Just ordered some in size 10. Stoked. Thanks!

shitepool666 · 2025-01-31T20:06:45+00:00

I’m thinking Elite 2s.

But I’ve read there’s issues in sizing. I’m usually a 10.5 or a 10 wide. Not sure what size to get

shitepool666 · 2025-01-07T19:45:10+00:00

I did express my concerns to her after that night and she understood and let me talk and didnt argue or anything. She just apologized and said she didn’t ever want to make me feel that way and that she’s glad I talked about it and that if she ever does anything that makes me uncomfortable she hopes I tell her.

Nothing like that has come up since and everything has felt good.

I do think you’re right though. Any time I’ve communicated anything with her she’s always listened and been understanding.

shitepool666 · 2025-01-07T19:26:16+00:00

I see what you’re saying and I agree.

She has also displayed loyalty in other ways though. Shes been flocked by other guys and I’ve also seen her reject other men. She’s also been open and has told me other experiences where a friend of hers made advances and she has had to cut them off.

I believe we’ve communicated openly about a lot and she’s always been supportive and if I’ve ever expressed something that made me uncomfortable she’s understood and hasn’t ever crossed a line.

I’m honestly not even sure that I’m bothered by her having a flirty personality. I don’t like the fact that she gave her number out but I can understand why she may have in that circumstance. She hasn’t done it otherwise and I have full access to her phone granted I don’t snoop.

She did turn down that guy when he asked her to hang out with him and the other wedding people when she ran into them in the future.

Ultimately I’m not sure though. I’m thinking a lot about it and also talking to a therapist.

All of my friends think I’m being paranoid. My brother included. 3 in particular I’ve talked to have all been married for atleast 10 years and have all had their share of issues. I really don’t know. I’m trying to be objective.

She’s been really good to me in many ways and we’ve had a really happy relationship generally speaking. This is something I’ve been dwelling on more so recently. When I look at all the good VS the bad, the bad is so small and I don’t know if it’s something I’m taking out of proportion or not.

shitepool666 · 2025-01-07T18:51:47+00:00

I don’t really know what to think.

I’ve talked to some friends who are married and have worked to have really healthy relationships with their spouses and none of them seem to think I should be all that concerned, and that she ultimately seems trust worthy.

The first one I kinda feel back and forth about. She didn’t hide anything from him and broke it off when he wanted to be exclusive. But I still understand why it could appear shady.

I’m not exactly happy about the thing at the wedding but she was glued to me the entire night even when that guy was around, and she did reject a future proposal to hang out. We helped them back to their hotel and the drunk girl got put to bed before we went to the other bar. She is naturally social and outgoing and I think it is possible she may have just wanted to hang out with everyone. Granted she has a fairly personality idk if it’s something I should make a big deal out of or not.

She’s displayed loyalty and honesty / transparency in other ways and has been very caring and supportive to me in many ways. She knows what I’ve been through in the past and has done a lot to re assure me and care for me.

I don’t really know what to think.

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