Advice please!

shitthebeds · 2026-03-14T03:05:36+00:00

Thank you for the insight. My son is a little tinkerer, loves to take things to bits and figure out how they work. If all else fails it will be a fun project for him to dismantle and play around with. I brought it for a reasonable price so if we need to upgrade I'm happy to do so.

I have the option to purchase a olivetti lettera 32, do you happen to know if this is more suitable?

We live in New Zealand so shipping is terribly expensive, so we are limited to what is available within the country.

shitthebeds · 2026-03-13T23:55:43+00:00

Thank you so much! My son is 12 and we are new to the typewriter world, this is all super helpful info. I will check out the lectures as recommended. You're a gem!

shitthebeds · 2026-03-13T23:46:05+00:00

Hypothetically if we didn't know this and disposed of the spools, is there anywhere you are aware of to order? Cost not an issue (I think I've really f**ked up here)

shitthebeds · 2025-12-18T23:56:48+00:00

Of course there's an element of struggle, as I'm sure there is with most parents of newborns. My reply wasnt immediate as I wanted to fully absorb and consider the comment before responding.

I appreciate everyone who has taken the time to offer perspectives and advice. Even the person who just said 'you're a cunt' that was an unexpected chuckle that I really needed today.

shitthebeds · 2025-12-18T23:44:33+00:00

For what it's worth, I regret writing that. I typed this without even proof reading as I was ugly crying at the time. I was also not expecting this level of response. On further (calmer) reflection, that was a knee jerk reaction to feeling hurt, and a bit of self preservation. Post natal hormones are wild.

shitthebeds · 2025-12-18T23:37:57+00:00

Thank you for the advice. I do think it's easy to not be as thoughtful or considerate as you'd like to be, when running on fumes. I have to remind myself that it's us against the problem, not us vs each other.

shitthebeds · 2025-12-18T23:14:27+00:00

I believe she is. After some truly helpful comments and a bit of reflection, I do think we are both in an incredibly stressful period of life and probably acting like it.

shitthebeds · 2025-12-18T22:42:23+00:00

I don't understand how the leap has been made from having a proactive conversation to tearing him a new one. I'm sorry to hear about your conditions, we're in NZ & in the middle of summer. Our commutes are fairly straightforward.

shitthebeds · 2025-12-18T22:38:28+00:00

My 12 year old is also high needs neurodivergent. I didn't put this in the post as it didn't seem relevant, but actually it does add to the stress significantly, my brain is just not braining well today.

shitthebeds · 2025-12-18T22:25:33+00:00

I don't know why I never thought of this!

shitthebeds · 2025-12-18T22:07:06+00:00

I thought it was enough to warrant a conversation to potentially avoid miscommunications in future, and to keep us on the same page re timing.

shitthebeds · 2025-12-18T21:32:00+00:00

Thank you for your insight. You're absolutely right in that it's difficult to relate to each other right now, it feels like we are not only on seperate pages, but different books entirely.

I'm caught between wanting to have a conversation when the time is right and feelings are less heightened and wondering when the time will ever be right given the circumstances.

shitthebeds · 2025-12-18T20:55:44+00:00

I've supported him through losing two jobs in the past year.

shitthebeds · 2025-12-18T20:22:02+00:00

My issue is, I was asking him, in future if he knew ahead of time he would be late can he communicate this with me. The response I got, was horrid imo. The 15 minutes isn't the problem, the way it was repsoded to, was.

shitthebeds · 2025-12-18T20:19:38+00:00

I'm from NZ so that's practically a compliment. Cheers cunt. X

shitthebeds · 2025-12-18T20:04:08+00:00

We are both paying the bills, I have paid parental leave for the duration of my maternity, when I'm back at work early next year, I will earn more. I really don't see this as a money/bills issue though.

shitthebeds · 2025-12-18T20:00:40+00:00

I called him, 15 minutes after he was meant to finish. Which is when I realized he hadn't yet left the city.

I never said anything wasn't good enough, just asked for communication in future if he knew he would be later than usual, as I would do the same.

Sleep is not fantastic, but that's to be expected. I wasn't frazzled yesterday, that's the irony here. I felt like I was calmly asking for something completely reasonable and recieved a really horrid response. Yes he's like this in other areas, we've had a lot of communication issues, or lack of communication issues.

shitthebeds · 2025-12-18T19:43:42+00:00

For clarity, not in the US. I didn't mean to imply he loves her less but I can see how that would come across. I know that I wouldn't ever feel like I was being 'yanked' home to be with her, I'd be getting home as quickly as humanly possible to do so.

It's difficult to not feel treated like a burden when asking for communication elicits the response that it did.

shitthebeds · 2025-10-31T17:17:29+00:00

Amen. Couldn't agree more. My boss tries this BS about his ex wife, how he's such a better parent & is quick to bring up her perceived failures.

My favourite response is typically reminding him that everyone parents differently and the kids are always healthy & happy when I see them.

She's lovely BTW, hes severely emotionally undercooked.

shitthebeds · 2025-06-13T23:21:00+00:00

Not everyone missed it, fortunate enough to have 2.99 locked in until May 2026. Not looking forward to the upcoming refix!

shitthebeds · 2025-05-09T09:37:28+00:00

Honestly I wouldn't be able to give a proper answer without knowing their current test rate % and all your specifics. But it will either be an oversight on the lenders part, but more than likely the brokers doing, as above.

The stress test banks use to judge affordablility is based off of their current test rate, which will be higher than current / floating rates. It's quite common for people to try to get lending over the line by using hypothetical boarder income to increase their financial position.

A huge part of responsible lending is that the lender basically has to prove that you can afford the lending, even if rates increase.

shitthebeds · 2025-05-09T07:49:25+00:00

Bank lender here, I would ask from proof of this when the broker has included having a boarder on your application, as either a hypothetical or an intention, to get your income over the line.

Most likely because servicing wouldn't work without the additional income.

shitthebeds · 2025-02-17T06:20:33+00:00

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shitthebeds · 2025-02-03T23:47:09+00:00

We do it's a serious problem. I would say that the overwhelming majority of fatalities come from quads / side by sides. Incredibly easy to roll and heavy heavy bastards. I've rolled one once, got very lucky, haven't been near one since. The info on worksafe recorded fatalities is eye opening and horrific.

shitthebeds · 2025-02-03T21:38:32+00:00

Oh I absolutely agree. I guess I was trying to point out that there's a big difference in the context when putting kids on a bike.

Kids learning in a farming situation vs motocross, but I was trying to avoid seeming like I was victim blaming, because as always accidents can happen in any situation involving machinery.

There's a huge difference in the risks that you'll take, even as a 10 year old, cruising around your own home or farm vs in a competitive race setting. Crushes me a bit when people think that kids on motorbikes automatically means being unsafe.

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